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38 Los Angeles, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Dec 9
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Atheism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly), Italian (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm an ethical hedonist feminist polygonal werewolf. I love dating, love friendships, and I admire the qualities of people of any gender, whatever "gender" means to you: I tend to swoon over funny, talented, smart, rebellious, kind, beautiful, artsy chicks, and enjoy intimate friendships with clever, stylish, caring men, especially if those men also like women. Right now I am looking to get to know new people without making any one person my primary partner--that said, I deeply care for the people I bump into in this life, and try to give whomever I am with my full attention.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm just trying to keep my socks and other shreddables out of range of my dog. Oh, and I write a lot and I have a tech job and play/DJ/obsess on music and host a monthly literary salon and like talking about how I just saw the literal HEAD of John the fucking BAPTIST in a cathedral in France last month. His head!
I’m really good at
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Here are things people have TOLD me I am really good at, but which I know I still have a lot to learn about:

1) Cooking
2) Training my dog, Valerie, to do ridiculously cute tricks.
3) Rockin' out
4) Describing music using only words
5) Hosting things: lit events, minor-league TV stuff, rock shows, radio shows
6) DJing rock shows and radio shows with my shamefully huge vinyl collection
7) Pickling vegetables
8) Coordinating fun, one-off sexcapades with more than one person, at a time when no one expects it, not even me...
The first things people usually notice about me
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I usually look a little more dapper than the situation calls for.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This week, it's Pagan Kennedy, Kafka, Big Star, the Julie Ruin, Lester Bangs, Stanley Kubrick, Psychomania (with Nicky Henson!), Slap Shot, white Russians, Valerie Solanas' S.C.U.M. Manifesto, Mystery Science Theater, Prince Rama, Key & Peele, Mike O'Connell's Drunken Tales...

I am a rock journalist as one of my three jobs, and a DJ as another one, so I go see a lot of shows and know a lot of local bands. My preferences in and out of L.A. tend towards mind-fuck psychedelic rock, freak folk, minimal 80s electro, rule-breaking punk, glam rock, non-glam metal, late-60s proto-funk soul, outlaw country... I have to stop talking about this now because it's getting as long-winded as the old description I just deleted.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. the people I love, who make life more alive
2. moments of solitude
3. the human body: all pleasures, even the pleasures of the mind, have to first pass through this costume of meat we all wear
4. words--especially when they are written on the page and convey something more vividly than my own eyes ever could
5. a sense of humor about life's utter tragi-comic illogic
6. a powerful brain
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the real reason why people "rioted" at the opening night of Stravinsky's Rite of Spring. I mean, it was just a ballet...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose? a loss! The Bay City Rollers have no song about Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When it comes to dating and initiating sex, I can get very intimidated by gay men. It's not my fault... there was a thing that happened to me once when I was young, stupid trust issues I haven't quite shaken, yada yada yada...

To be clear, guys, I'm not intimidated about having SEX with men. But now that I'm starting to do that again after a hiatus, I've noticed there aren't many men like me, who are attracted to women but still want a real connection with men, both physical and emotional. Sometimes I look at the art and music of my gay male friends, plus their gym-toned abs, and it's like one of those busy baccarat tables at the casino--everyone there knows the rules and wants to keep the action going, and I don't see a way for me to hop in and explore without disrupting the game. That's one of the reasons I'm here.
You should message me if
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You are obsessed with music and culture.

You want to practice your Italian with me.

You think "bisexual" is a limiting and stupid term, one that forces a binary onto a situation that is thankfully far more rich with options than just "Both of the above."

You hate almost all modern television, yet can't wait for Mad Men to start up again.

You're a taxi dancer whose oddly Fellini-esque travails in love and run-ins with Ricardo Montalban and Sammy Davis, Jr. haven't crushed her indomitable, ragamuffin spirit. Maybe a young Bud Cort dressed as a hippie will lift your spirits a bit by giving you a flower?

You're a "goer," eh? Rrrrrr!

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