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53 M Madison, WI

My Details

Last Online
Jun 21
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type

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My self-summary
I love a good challenge. I am very confident and yes, opinionated. But I also love hearing new ideas and improving the ones I hold. I may defend my opinion but I'm also not afraid to acknowledge when you convince that your opinion is better.

I love smart people. I love people that can go with the flow and don't get easily rattled. I love to say or do offbeat things to see what reaction I get. When I say something out there do you push back or do you wilt?

I'm also sex positive. That doesn't mean I'm looking to just have sex or to have sex all of the time. It does mean that I'm not afraid to talk about sex and sexuality. It also means I think it is a good thing to acknowledge sexuality and sexual energy. I think at heart we are all sexual creatures and it is a societal creation that we somehow think it is wrong to acknowledge or discuss that.

A related note - in my profession I work a lot with the issues of alternative sexuality and kink. Things like polyamory, BDSM and power dynamic relationships. So if even thinking about that kind of thing makes you want to run, you may have issues with me.

You may have guessed by now that I'm not a born again, conservative Christian. Very true. The spiritual path I most closely identify with is Druidry. Connection with nature, with the universe. Not only does it resonate with me at a spiritual level, I really enjoy the way it blends individuality with community and connectedness. I also love how fluid and accepting it is.

If all of this makes me sound serious and intense, I am in some ways. But I'm not in others. I love to have fun, have a great sense of humor and enjoy being goofy.

I'm not setting out to find a wife, soulmate or "the one." If that happens, great, but I don't think that comes from actively seeking it. I think it is the byproduct of developing relationships. If you enjoy making good friends that enjoy some activities and good conversation, great! If you like to be flirty, even better. Let's have some fun and see where the path leads!
What I’m doing with my life
I have a private practice in the healthcare field. This is a passion of mine. I have had a couple of previous careers where I was successful but was never passionate about. I decided it was time to be passionate about what I do.
I’m really good at
Talking. Listening. Thinking. Being a smart-aleck. Cooking. Teasing. Being snarky.
The first things people usually notice about me
I really don't know about this freckles? Or lately it seems my glasses, although they aren't new...maybe you can tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I always hate favorites questions. I love all kinds of books but probably my favorite is To Kill a Mockingbird. I love the movie, too. I love Dean Koontz, especially the Odd Thomas series. I loved the Time Traveler's Wife, too. I read a lot of work books with odd titles like The Ethical Slut, Mating in Captivity and Sperm Wars.

TV shows - I like well written, smart ones. I've just rewartched Friday Night Lights - an amazingly crafted show with smart, realistic, well developed characters. I loved West Wing. The new Sherlock is great. I polished off all of the Breaking Bad and Weeds on Netflix.

Ted Talks!!! I absolutely love TedTalks and can watch them for hours. Some of my favorites are -

Brene Brown - Vulnerability

Brene Brown - Shame

Simon Simonek - How Great Leaders Inspire -

Poet Rives - 4am

I love all kinds of foods - Mexican, Thai, Indian, pizza, brats and burgers. I love seafood! So many good restaurants. Graze, Nostrano, Costa Rica Cafe, La Mestieza, Crema Cafe, Merchant, Brasserie V. I know I'm missing tons.
The six things I could never do without
Having my brain stimulated. Coffee. Intuition. Books. Sex. Emotions.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Interpersonal dynamics and what makes people tick. I love watching interactions between family, friends and even strangers and trying to understand behavior. It fascinates me.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm not sure what typical is! My Fridays vary widely. It might be staying in and relaxing, preparing for the weekend. It can be going out with friends for dinner or drinks. Maybe if you read this it will be going on a date with you!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a lot less "traditional" than my appearance would suggest. I have sides of me that only those close to me know about and most would never guess. Intrigued?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You like good conversation while being highly caffeinated. You don't mind being challenged or discussing less socially acceptable topics. You want to laugh and think. You want to learn new things and teach new things. You can give as good as you get.