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54 • Madison, WI • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Online now!
- 6′ 0″ (1.83m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Other, but not too serious about it
- Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Rather not say
- Doesn’t have kids
It seems that my being a therapist scares off some people. I do know that past people I've dated have at times hurled the phrase, "blanking therapist" at me as an insult! That's usually because I was trying to get them to talk more or discuss their feelings, lol. Despite that I am really a pretty nice guy!
The other thing that can send some people running is the one of the areas of focus is alternative sexuality and alternative relationships. I'm sex-positive and work with people to be comfortable with the sexual preferences and desires. I'm not a therapist that tries to "cure" people around these issues.
I get it. Some people think BDSM, power dynamic relationships and non-monogamy are bad or evil. Others think sex and related issues shouldn't be openly talked about. If you fall into one of those groups than I'm really not the right guy for you. However, if you are okay with the idea of letting everyone make choices for themselves and don't mind open conversation about sex and sexuality, we might be a great match.
I don't put that out there because I'm only interested in sex or I'm only looking for sex on here. I do it because it has become easier to get those our up front instead of thinking there is a start of a connection only to find out someone wants to flee when they find out about that part of my work.
Beyond that I'm just me. I have lots of interests, value good friends and would love to have a partner in my life.
I love smart people that enjoy learning and growing. People that are curious about new things, even if it isn't a specific interest of yours. I enjoy people that are adventurous.
I'm a huge fan of TedTalks. Some of my favorites are:
Brene Brown on Vulnerability and Shame
Simon Simonek on How Great Leaders Inspire
Poet Rives on 4am
I'm not all serious cat. I like to laugh and have fun. I can be silly. I am very affectionate and love doing the simple things together as much as the more exciting activities. I have a lot of sides to me...and I think that is a good thing.
TV shows - I like well written, smart ones. I've just rewartched Friday Night Lights - an amazingly crafted show with smart, realistic, well developed characters. I love West Wing, Sherlock, Jekyll, Orange is the New Black. Dexter, Hinterland, Californication. Breaking Bad and Weeds, too.
Ted Talks!!! I absolutely love TedTalks and can watch them for hours. Some of my favorites are -
Brene Brown - Vulnerability http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
Brene Brown - Shame http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame.html
Simon Simonek - How Great Leaders Inspire - http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/simon_sinek_how_great_leaders_inspire_action.html
Poet Rives - 4am http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/rives_on_4_a_m.html
I love all kinds of foods - Mexican, Thai, Indian, pizza, brats and burgers. I love seafood! So many good restaurants. Graze, Nostrano, Los Gemelos, Crema Cafe, Merchant, Brasserie V. I know I'm missing tons.
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