Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I thought it was time for a re-write, so here goes.
It seems that my being a therapist scares off some people. I do
know that past people I've dated have at times hurled the phrase,
"blanking therapist" at me as an insult! That's usually because I
was trying to get them to talk more or discuss their feelings, lol.
Despite that I am really a pretty nice guy!
The other thing that can send some people running is the one of the
areas of focus is alternative sexuality and alternative
relationships. I'm sex-positive and work with people to be
comfortable with the sexual preferences and desires. I'm not a
therapist that tries to "cure" people around these issues.
I get it. Some people think BDSM, power dynamic relationships and
non-monogamy are bad or evil. Others think sex and related issues
shouldn't be openly talked about. If you fall into one of those
groups than I'm really not the right guy for you. However, if you
are okay with the idea of letting everyone make choices for
themselves and don't mind open conversation about sex and
sexuality, we might be a great match.
I don't put that out there because I'm only interested in sex or
I'm only looking for sex on here. I do it because it has become
easier to get those our up front instead of thinking there is a
start of a connection only to find out someone wants to flee when
they find out about that part of my work.
Beyond that I'm just me. I have lots of interests, value good
friends and would love to have a partner in my life.
I love smart people that enjoy learning and growing. People that
are curious about new things, even if it isn't a specific interest
of yours. I enjoy people that are adventurous.
I'm a huge fan of TedTalks. Some of my favorites are:
Brene Brown on Vulnerability and Shame
Simon Simonek on How Great Leaders Inspire
Poet Rives on 4am
I'm not all serious cat. I like to laugh and have fun. I can be
silly. I am very affectionate and love doing the simple things
together as much as the more exciting activities. I have a lot of
sides to me...and I think that is a good thing.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a private practice in the healthcare field. This is a
passion of mine. I have had a couple of previous careers where I
was successful but was never passionate about. I decided it was
time to be passionate about what I do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking. Listening. Thinking. Being a smart-aleck. Cooking.
Teasing. Fixing things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I really don't know about this one...my freckles?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I always hate favorites questions. I love all kinds of books but
probably my favorite is To Kill a Mockingbird. I love the movie,
too. I love Dean Koontz, especially the Odd Thomas series. I loved
the Time Traveler's Wife, too. I read a lot of work books with odd
titles like The Ethical Slut, Mating in Captivity and Sperm
TV shows - I like well written, smart ones. I've just rewartched
Friday Night Lights - an amazingly crafted show with smart,
realistic, well developed characters. I love West Wing, Sherlock,
Jekyll, Orange is the New Black. Dexter, Hinterland,
Californication. Breaking Bad and Weeds, too.
absolutely love TedTalks and can watch them for hours. Some of my
favorites are -
Brene Brown - Vulnerability
Brene Brown - Shame
Simon Simonek - How Great Leaders Inspire -
Poet Rives - 4am
I love all kinds of foods - Mexican, Thai, Indian, pizza, brats and
burgers. I love seafood! So many good restaurants. Graze, Nostrano,
Los Gemelos, Crema Cafe, Merchant, Brasserie V. I know I'm missing
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Having my brain stimulated. Coffee. Intuition. Books. Sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Interpersonal dynamics and what makes people tick. I love watching
interactions between family, friends and even strangers and trying
to understand behavior. It fascinates me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm not sure what typical is! My Fridays vary widely. It might be
staying in and relaxing, preparing for the weekend. It can be going
out with friends for dinner or drinks. Maybe if you read this it
will be going on a date with you!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a lot less "traditional" than my appearance would suggest. I
have sides of me that only those close to me know about and most
would never guess.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You like good conversation while being highly caffeinated. You
don't mind being challenged or discussing less socially acceptable
topics. You want to laugh and think. You want to learn new things
and teach new things. You can give as good as you get.
Who are you looking for?
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