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Artis_87

28 Denver, CO Cis Woman, Genderfluid

Cis Woman, Genderfluid

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 7:13pm
Orientation
Queer, Homoflexible, Bisexual
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"Don't take yourself too seriously. You're not foolin' anyone."

Hi!! *waves* I'm Becca and... well, I'm here to meet awesome people.

UPFRONT
Although I have always connected with women more often on a romantic level, I am open to all genders/orientations/trans/etc. My attraction to someone is based on their hearts (and, admittedly, how much of a top he/she is) as opposed to their physical body.

Me in a nutshell:
Homoflexible, genderfuild yet hard femme, kink-loving, sex positive, hard-working, non-smoking, active, open, introverted, walking contradiction... and I have a love/hate relationship with labels.
Yep. I think that about sums me up, but here are the details...

I'm curious
I love to learn and discover. Even though I long to be somewhat of a housewife, I could never do that 24/7. I would have to volunteer, have a job/career, or something in the real world. I need to contribute to and be a part of the world.

I'm accepting
I am openly and strongly against any kind of bigotry, especially transphobia and biphobia.

I'm poly-minded
What does that mean? I'm not anti-monogamy but I'm comfortable with open relationships/poly. I do prefer fewer quality people over many eh ones. For me, anything is possible in that area as long as all partners remain honest and ethical to each other and themselves. I have dated a few couples (M/F) but they mostly wanted Friday night only "poly" which is not my thing; I want the real deal. I want the depth and connection.

People who aren't poly always assume us poly folks are running around dating everybody with 50% of the effort... maybe for some but not most and certainly not for me. I won't speak for everybody but for me poly is the opposite of promiscuity: It's the fact that I genuinely get deeply connected with a wide range of people on many levels.

I'm a writer
I long to publish at least a novel or script. It's gives me great joy to create characters and giving them depth and an adventure that reflects the basics of human existence (Wow! That sounded way better than I thought it would)

I'm a family person
I want my own family, in good time. I love kids and want to become a mother to at least 2 with a loving companion beside me.

I'm kinky
There we go. It's out there. I go to fun "parties" every weekend with great friends. I'm usually tied up or being spanked. Oh yeah, I prefer to bottom more than anything. Too much? I'm not your girl then. Don't know what SSC or RACK means? Still not your girl.

I love adventure
This could mean a road trip or learning about another person's lifestyle or reading a new genre of books or anything. Life is meant to be explored and I am a curious person.

I am open
I am all about open-communication, giving and receiving. I think talking about our emotions, processing them with a partner in a healthy, loving and kind manner is the best! I used to date people who didn't want labels or expectations, although I am all about letting a relationship develop naturally, I think having clear expectations for all partners is essential for healthy relationships. Not everyone will agree and that's okay. I am not interested in playing the 'my way is better' game. People are unique in how things are approached, I am just looking for someone(s) uniqueness that is compatible with mine.

In short, if you are unable to be open emotionally in a healthy, loving manner (aka, non-blaming and non-dumping) then we won't work out as a romantic relationship.

I love art
On a canvas, computer, written word, body, etc. You name it; I love it. I have 1 tattoo and working on my second. I have smaller gages in my ears and my belly button done. I love other people who turn their bodies into works of art as well :)

I'm a quality over quantity gal.
I love my friends and prefer quality over quantity by all means. This is same with a relationship. I don't settle nor compromise myself in that area, but that doesn't mean I'm unreasonable or shut off either.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Going to school full-time while working full-time, but I also make time for play.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making pizza... from scratch.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
How tiny and fierce I am... Like a puppeh!

I'm also really bad at doing the awkward first time meeting questions, I'd rather get down to the real deal.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books
Art of Racing in the Rain
Trans-sister Radio
Buddhism for Beginners
The Ethical Slut

Movies
Shortbus
G.I. Jane
Young Frunkensteen (LOVE Madeline Kahn!)
The Secretary
True Lies
Aliens
The Fifth Element
Anything with Rachel McAdams
Anything with Drew Barrymore
or
in-her-prime Kathleen Turner (Romancing the Stone, V.I. Warshawski, Undercover Blues)

Shows
Modern Family
SYTYCD
Buffy

Food
I have found that my tolerance for spicy has gone up. So I am loving indian food and fajita's these days. I am NOT a fast-food person unless if it is a dire emergency, even then, I will go Subway style; never BK or Mc's style.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Aside from the usual (friends, love, books, etc.)

A notebook
My camera
Good pair of running shoes
Yummy bottle of wine
Chapstick
The sun
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If my life were a novel, what I would be writing/reading right now?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
A "typical" Friday night? That exists!?

With friends dancing the night away

Seeing a movie

Having me time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I once dated someone who was twice my age.

I miss when myspace was in for only one reason: Play music on your profile. Made my life feel like a movie! It was awwwwshum!

I guess that's more than one thing, isn't it?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You know the difference between 'dating' and 'non-monogamy.'

You are open.

You are poly-minded or at least open-minded.

You don't pick out what's wrong with your body. Love yourself!

You know what FL means... and it's *not* Florida.