Hi!! *waves* I'm Becca and... well, I'm here to meet awesome people.
Although I have always connected with women more often on a romantic level, I am open to all genders/orientations/trans/etc. My attraction to someone is based on their hearts (and, admittedly, how much of a top he/she is) as opposed to their physical body.
Me in a nutshell:
Homoflexible, genderfuild yet hard femme, kink-loving, sex positive, hard-working, non-smoking, active, open, introverted, walking contradiction... and I have a love/hate relationship with labels.
Yep. I think that about sums me up, but here are the details...
I love to learn and discover. Even though I long to be somewhat of a housewife, I could never do that 24/7. I would have to volunteer, have a job/career, or something in the real world. I need to contribute to and be a part of the world.
I am openly and strongly against any kind of bigotry, especially transphobia and biphobia.
What does that mean? I'm not anti-monogamy but I'm comfortable with open relationships/poly. I do prefer fewer quality people over many eh ones. For me, anything is possible in that area as long as all partners remain honest and ethical to each other and themselves. I have dated a few couples (M/F) but they mostly wanted Friday night only "poly" which is not my thing; I want the real deal. I want the depth and connection.
People who aren't poly always assume us poly folks are running around dating everybody with 50% of the effort... maybe for some but not most and certainly not for me. I won't speak for everybody but for me poly is the opposite of promiscuity: It's the fact that I genuinely get deeply connected with a wide range of people on many levels.
I'm a writer
I long to publish at least a novel or script. It's gives me great joy to create characters and giving them depth and an adventure that reflects the basics of human existence (Wow! That sounded way better than I thought it would)
I'm a family person
I want my own family, in good time. I love kids and want to become a mother to at least 2 with a loving companion beside me.
There we go. It's out there. I go to fun "parties" every weekend with great friends. I'm usually tied up or being spanked. Oh yeah, I prefer to bottom more than anything. Too much? I'm not your girl then. Don't know what SSC or RACK means? Still not your girl.
I love adventure
This could mean a road trip or learning about another person's lifestyle or reading a new genre of books or anything. Life is meant to be explored and I am a curious person.
I am open
I am all about open-communication, giving and receiving. I think talking about our emotions, processing them with a partner in a healthy, loving and kind manner is the best! I used to date people who didn't want labels or expectations, although I am all about letting a relationship develop naturally, I think having clear expectations for all partners is essential for healthy relationships. Not everyone will agree and that's okay. I am not interested in playing the 'my way is better' game. People are unique in how things are approached, I am just looking for someone(s) uniqueness that is compatible with mine.
In short, if you are unable to be open emotionally in a healthy, loving manner (aka, non-blaming and non-dumping) then we won't work out as a romantic relationship.
I love art
On a canvas, computer, written word, body, etc. You name it; I love it. I have 1 tattoo and working on my second. I have smaller gages in my ears and my belly button done. I love other people who turn their bodies into works of art as well :)
I'm a quality over quantity gal.
I love my friends and prefer quality over quantity by all means. This is same with a relationship. I don't settle nor compromise myself in that area, but that doesn't mean I'm unreasonable or shut off either.