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37 Boston, MA Man


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  • Ages 30–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Today – 7:07am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Entertainment / Media
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm a sentimentalist. An idealist. Some may call me a romantic. However, that word has such mushy overtones that I know it makes me cringe...

A friend one posted on Facebook that Bob Dylan, Leonard Cohen and other lyricists had ruined all men for her. They had ruined all notion of love, passion, since there is the idealized moment in her mind of what love should be. Sure. It can ruin everybody, I guess. But, to me, it shows me what is possible.

I work for a professional theater in Cambridge. I live on the South Shore. I spend my time all over Boston exploring and adventuring. My identity cannot be delineated to personal and professional since I proudly identify as someone who is passionate about the arts.

I don't go to church. I never have. Humanism is strong in me. I imagine experience of religion is similar in feeling to what I feel when I lose time, space, and am immersed in life.

A darkened theater is my church. A solo performer on stage without a set, simply adorned in the empty space creates an epic story is the sermon.

To get back to my friend's music analogy, Greg Brown has a lyric:

"“You get to me like old time religion did
In my heart when I was a kid
You're sweet gospel music to my ears
You know how to ease all my fears
And from my heart to yours all I can say is
Hey baby hey baby hey baby hey”

I'm not in a dark room all the time. I grew up in a lake in New Hampshire. I escape back there, putting my cell phone down and enjoy sunny summer days and the breeze on the porch or going for a jog on the country roads.

The lake house is my "house on the cape" and favorite vacations are to National Parks where I don't have cell service or internet.

I live intensely. I have no expectations for this site. If I write you it's not because I expect the head over heels romantic freight train to hit us, causing us to collapse in a puddle of passion.

I've made important friends here. Good humans.

Don't underestimate me and I won't underestimate you.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm the Director of Marketing for a professional theater company.

I don't consider myself like a used car salesman (though I hear they have a higher approval than Congress, but that really isn't saying much).

I don't sell widgets.

I get to be part of something bigger than myself - as Vonnegut says "a very human way of making life more bearable."
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Balancing signal versus noise.

Finding humor in unexpected (perhaps dark) places and moments that burst the bubble of tension.

Being game, open, and willing for wonder, uncertainty, and fun.
Sharing silence comfortably.

I've been told I have a steel trap memory for details. Even what seems the most minute or in passing from a conversation.

Solving problems through abstract, creative, thinking.

The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I loathe this question. We are more than what people notice about us.

I try to get past first impressions. I try to give other people the benefit of the doubt.

If you can get past that, too, with me, we will get along well.

And, you'll be surprised.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I've come to believe in a holistic view of my health which means I view cultural consumption which means I listen to music all the time. I used to be judged because I didn't listen to NPR in my car but instead I had music playing all the time. Now, I have more balance. I view being a cultural consumer as nourishment.

Books: Authors... Kurt Vonnegut, Joseph Heller, Shakespeare, Michael Chabon, poetry. Some titles... Crossing to Safety. This only scratches the surface.

There is something wonderful about hearing words read out loud. Clever wordplay can conjure the most exquisite imagery and to watch and listen to someone embody the words like an incantation is a marvelous experience. The theatre of everyday life.

Movies: The Last Station Stranger Than Fiction, Casablanca, Shakespeare in Love, The Last Waltz, The Big Lebowski.

Music: I go for lyrics, expression, passion, emotion. Bob Dylan, Greg Brown, Leonard Cohen, Ellis Paul, Lucinda Williams, Neil Young, Billie Holiday, Miles Davis. Ben Harper, Brian Webb, Josh Ritter, and Madeline Peyroux. Whatever the Genius function on iTunes spins to me. Many others that I discover at Club Passim, the Lizard Lounge, or other venues around town.

Food: In the summer I go for farm stands, grilling, and eating local. If I go out, it will likely be a greasy spoon or something divey. I do like to step out, on occasion but it has to have character and personality.

I recently discovered I am not sure how I had never seen this website before.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm a sports fan. A late colleague in the theater who headed a major organization when asked "What was the best theater of 2004?" replied with "It happened in Fenway Park."

Sports can be a great communal experience. Great theater. I try to think back to the Greeks. The idea that the Olympics and sport is really about the possibility of human achievement and potential.

So, when I listen to sports talk radio, I have a daydream about a 24/7 theater/arts talk radio that has the same irreverence and bombast as shows on those stations.

When I get sick of sports radio and too distracted for NPR, I put on music and let the lyrics and their emotional resonance, and remembrance wash over me.

Also: How to maintain comfort with uncertainty and adventurous state of bliss, whimsy, and balance.

And: How we are tethered to the internet and our phones and miss out on natural beauty.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Unpredictable and inconsistent.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I used to think this question was useful because it was probing, but now I think it's ridiculous.

We're never willing to admit something really private that makes us vulnerable.

And, that's okay.
You should message me if
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You have a calm assertiveness about you. You break into smiles at the smallest observations of life. You're whimsical, spontaneous and, sometimes, you even find yourself laughing uncontrollably. You're kind to strangers, waiters and waitresses, and people you come across in your daily life.

You're intense, principled and passionate. You're curious. You enjoy experiencing art and culture and allow it to wash over you changing your emotional state of being and your vision of the world.

You're adventurous and fun.

Say hi, that's what we're here for, right?