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Arwen4CJ

31 F Fremont, OH

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Last Online
Mar 27
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and very serious about it
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Education
Working on masters program
Job
Student
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Rather not say
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Single
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Offspring
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English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm a Christian woman who is searching for a Christian man.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm finishing up my counseling degree, and then plan on finding a job in a related field.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books:
(Some books fit into more than one category, but they will only be listed in one category)
The Bible -- both the Old Testament and the New Testament, The Lord of the Rings series (including the following The Silmarillion, The Hobbit, The Fellowship of the Ring, The Two Towers, and The Return of the King), The Scarlet Pimpernel, Pride and Prejudice, the Harry Potter books, Whence Came a Prince, The Love Comes Softly series, The Chronicles of Narnia, all of the books -- including The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, The Black Cauldron (and the rest of the books in that series by Lloyd Alexander), A Spell For Chameleon (I haven't read any of the other books in the series, but I plan to),

Apologetics:
The Kingdom of the Cults, The Kingdom of the Occult, The Challenge of the Cults and New Religions, The Facts on Jehovah’s Witnesses, The 10 Most Important Things You Can Say to a Jehovah’s Witness, Reasoning from the Scriptures with the Jehovah’s Witnesses, Reasoning from the Scriptures with the Mormons, Charts of Christian Theology & Doctrine, The Case For Faith, The Case For Christ, The Case For the Real Jesus, Jesus Among Other Gods, The Last Christian Generation, The King James Only Controversy, How to Respond to Satanism, How to Respond to The Occult, How to Respond to The New Age Movement, 3 Crucial Questions about Spiritual Warfare, The DaVinci Deception, The Supremacy of Christ in a Postmodern World, Kundalini Warning, True & False Revival, Fast Facts on False Teaching, UnChristian, The New Tolerance, Abusing Memories, Fool’s Gold, Fast Facts on the Masonic Lodge, Find It Fast In the Bible, Jehovah’s Witnesses Answered Verse by Verse, So What’s the Difference?

Christian Living:
Don't Waste Your Life, The Search For Significance, A Woman’s High Calling, Knowing God, A Cup of Hope, Victory Over the Darkness, Counterfeit Gods, Choosing Forgiveness, Experiencing God, Trusting God, The Invisible War, Beautiful In God’s Eyes, Finding God’s Path Through Your Trials, A Woman After God’s Own Heart, Seeing and Savoring Jesus Christ, Desiring God, How People Grow, Completely His Loving Jesus Without Limits, When I Don’t Desire God, My Utmost For His Highest, Captivating, Your Captivating Heart, Completely Forgiven, Praying God’s Word, Empowered Evangelicals, Who Is My Enemy, Anxious For Nothing, The Way I Was Made, A Grace Disguised, The 3 Colors of Ministry

Books on Relationships:
Authentic Beauty, When God Writes Your Love Story, When Dreams Come True, Dating & Waiting, Finding the Right One For You, Five Love Languages Singles Edition, Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating, Every Woman’s Battle, Boy Meets Girl, How To Get a Date Worth Keeping, War of Words, Everybody Wins The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing, The 5 Love Languages, Divorce Busting, Fighting For Your Marriage, The Home Improvements The Chapman Guide to Negotiating Change With Your Spouse, The Love Dare, I Gave Dating a Chance, Falling In Love For All the Right Reasons

Counseling Books (some are Christian and some are not):
Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands, Listening For Heaven’s Sake, Running Scared, When I am Afraid: A Step-By-Step Guide Away from Fear and Anxiety, Additions A Banquet to the Grave, When the Darkness Will Not Lift, Psychological Seduction, Sin, Pride & Self-Acceptance : The Problem of Identity in Theology & Psychology, Suicide the Forever Decision, Parenting For the ’90’s, Writing as a Way of Healing : How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives, When People Are Big and God Is Small, Aftershock, Inside a Cutter’s Mind, Addiction and Change, Diagnosis and Treatment Planning in Counseling, Intentional Interviewing and Counseling, Getting Beyond Sobriety, Through a Season of Grief, Heavy Drinking, Selecting Effective Treatment, Theories in Counseling and Therapy, Groups Process and Practice, Issues and Ethics in the Helping Professions,

Books on history:
The Medieval Church A Brief History, To Begin the World Anew, “Myne Owne Ground”, The American Revolution in Indian Country, The Unredeemed Captive, Affairs of Honor, The Minutemen and Their World, Revolutionary America, A Respectable Army: The Military Origins of the Republic, 1763-1789, The Stamp Act Crisis, Armies and Warfare in the Middle Ages, Jefferson’s America, America A Narrative History, Lexington and Concord

Authors:
Jane Austen, Baroness Orczy, Lloyd Alexander, Piers Anthony, Joseph H. Lynch, Bernard Bailyn, T.H. Breen, Colin G. Calloway, Joanne B. Freeman, Cynthia A. Kierner, Michael Prestwich, Norman K. Risjord, David E. Shi, George Brown Tindall, Arthur B. Tourtellot, Robert A. Gross, James Kirby Martin, John DeMoss, Edmund S. Morgan, Paul G. Quinnett, Philip Osborne, Louise Desalvo, Michele Weiner-Davis, Linda Seligman, Jeffrey A. Kottler, Ekkehard Othmer, Michael Craig Clemmens, Gerald Corey, Carlo DiClemente, Herbert Fingarette, Allen E. Ivey, Howard Rosenthal, Irvin D. Yalom, but this is not an exhaustive list.

Favorite Christian authors:
John Piper, Elizabeth George, Robert S. McGee, Eric and Leslie Ludy, Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Jerry Bridges, Ed Welch, Paul David Tripp, David Powlison, Jeffrey S. Black, Michael R. Emlet, Timothy S. Lane, Robert D. Jones, Susan Lutz, William P. Smith, Winston T. Smith, John Yenchko, James C. Petty, Chip Ingram, Emilie Barnes, Liz Curtis Higgs, Janette Oke, J. R. Tolkien, C.S. Lewis, Walter Martin, Timothy Keller, J I Packer, Josh McDowell, Gary Chapman, Henry Cloud, John Townsend, Gary Sweeten, Jerry Sittser, Neil Anderson, H Norman Wright, James R. White, William P. Risk, John Ankerberg, John Weldon, William Kirk Kilpatrick, Rich Nathan, Ron Rhodes, Ravi Zacharias, Chris Tomlin, Scott M. Stanley, Jane Gumprecht, Shannon Ethridge, Clinton Arnold, Oswald Chambers, Henry Blackaby, Erwin W. Lutzer, David Cox, Ron Carlson, Jerusha Clark, Ed Decker, Bruce G. Frederickson, David W. Hoover, Philip H. Lochhaas, Christian A. Schwarz, David Kinnaman, Lee Strobel, David A. Reed, Joshua Harris, John MacArthur, Beth Moore, Max Lucado, John G. Kruis, Fritz Ridenour, Terry D. Cooper, Tim Clinton, Archibald Hart, Ron Hawkins, Mark Laaser, George Ohlschlager, John Trent, Jay Adams, Fred Stoeker, Neil Clark Warren, and others. This is not an exhaustive list either.

Movies:
The Lord of the Rings (all of them), Star Wars (The Phantom Menace, Attack of the Clones, Revenge of the Sith, A New Hope, The Empire Strikes Back, and Return of the Jedi), Emma, Pride and Prejudice, Love Comes Softly, Love's Long Journey, Love's Enduring Promise, Amazing Grace, Fireproof, The Man in the Iron Mask, Ever After, Monsters Inc., The Nativity, Clue, The Passion of the Christ, The Muppet Christmas Carol, Facing the Giants, Courageous, The Great Race, and others. This is not an exhaustive list.

Shows:
Doctor Who, Spellbinder (used to be on the Disney Channel -- has long since not been on, but I still like it), Masterpiece on PBS and most of what they show -- including the following: Downton Abbey, Inspector Lewis, Miss Marple, Wallander, Foyle's War, Poirot, Jeeves & Wooster. I also enjoy watching re-runs of older TV shows such as Get Smart, The Andy Griffith Show, etc. This is not an exhaustive list either.

Music:
Chris Tomlin, Matt Redman, Casting Crowns, Jeremy Camp, Tim Hughes, David Crowder Band, Jeff Deyo, Third Day, Delirious?, Kutless, Brenton Brown, Jars of Clay, Shane & Shane, Jeremy Riddle, MercyMe, Newsboys, Vineyard music, worship music in general, John Williams, Howard Shore, Gustav Holst
The six things I could never do without
Jesus Christ
Hope
Love (in the biblical sense, not in the secular sense)
Family
Friends
Trust
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Problems in the church, apolgetics, plots in books, movies, or TV shows that I like, fanfiction, God, the Bible, ways to help people, and important things that are going on in the my life or the lives of others that I know
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home or doing things with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It really wouldn't be private if I disclosed it publicly on a dating site, now would it?
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 23–40
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
First, let me say that if you are looking for a friendship or a good discussion regarding anything, you may message me. This means that even if you don't agree with me on my beliefs, you are welcome to have a discussion or befriend me.

However, if you are looking for a dating partner or a future spouse, then you must meet the following criteria:

1. You are a follower of Jesus Christ, as He is found in the Bible
(if you consider yourself to be Christian, a trinitarian, and
someone that believes in the statements of faith listed at the
bottom of the profile. (Please note that I am not Roman Catholic
nor am I Eastern Orthodox. The word "catholic" in the creeds simply means universal.)

2. You do not adhere to the Prosperity Gospel/Word of Faith
teachings, or follow people such as: Joel Osteen, Rod Parsley, etc.
Basically, if you think that it's God's job to give you health
wealth, and prosperity in all things & that if you're not
prosperous in these things, you're sinning, than you and I have
different theology. I strongly oppose that belief system.

3.) You do not follow or admire any of the following people:

Todd Bentley

Patricia King

Bob Jones (for clarification I'm not referring to the Bob Jones University Bob Jones -- but rather the guy who calls himself a prophet and who stood behind Todd Bentley and teaches people to take trips to "third heaven.")

Bill Johnson

Dutch Sheets

or anyone on the Elijah List, or anyone who runs around in
the same circles as these people.

4.) If you DO agree with the following creeds and statements of faith: (remember that the word "catholic" in these creeds means universal, not Roman Catholic or Eastern Orthodox only)

The Apostles Creed:
1. I believe in God, the Father almighty, creator of heaven and
earth.
2. I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord.
3. He was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit and born of the Virgin Mary.
4. He suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was
buried.
5. He descended to the dead. On the third day he rose again.
6. He ascended into heaven and is seated at the right hand of the
Father.
7. He will come again to judge the living and the dead.
8. I believe in the Holy Spirit,
9. the holy catholic Church, the communion of saints,
10. the forgiveness of sins,
11. the resurrection of the body,
12. and life everlasting.
Amen.

The Nicene Creed:
We believe in one God, the Father Almighty, Maker of heaven and
earth, and of all things visible and invisible.

And in one Lord Jesus Christ, the only-begotten Son of God, begotten of the Father before all worlds (æons), Light of Light, very God of very God, begotten, not made, being of one substance with the Father; by whom all things were made; who for us men, and for our salvation, came down from heaven, and was incarnate by the Holy Ghost of the Virgin Mary, and was made man; he was crucified for us under Pontius Pilate, and suffered, and was buried, and the third day he rose again, according to the Scriptures, and ascended into heaven, and sitteth on the right hand of the Father; from thence he shall come again, with glory, to judge the quick and the dead; whose kingdom shall have no end.

And in the Holy Ghost, the Lord and Giver of
life, who proceedeth from the Father, who with the Father and the
Son together is worshiped and glorified, who spake by the prophets.

In one holy catholic and apostolic Church; we acknowledge one
baptism for the remission of sins; we look for the resurrection of
the dead, and the life of the world to come. Amen.

The Chalcedonian Creed:
We, then, following the holy Fathers, all with one consent, teach
people to confess one and the same Son, our Lord Jesus Christ, the same perfect in Godhead and also perfect in manhood;
truly God and truly man, of a reasonable [rational] soul and
body;consubstantial [co-essential] with the Father according to the Godhead, and consubstantial with us according to the Manhood;in all things like unto us, without sin; begotten before all ages of the Father according to the Godhead, and in these latter days, for us and for our salvation, born of the Virgin Mary, the Mother of God, according to the Manhood; one and the same Christ, Son, Lord, only begotten, to be acknowledged in two natures, inconfusedly, unchangeably, indivisibly, inseparably;
the distinction of natures being by no means taken away by the
union, but rather the property of each nature being preserved, and concurring in one Person and one Subsistence, not parted or divided into two persons, but one and the same Son, and only begotten God (μονογενῆ Θεὸν), the Word, the Lord Jesus Christ;
as the prophets from the beginning [have declared] concerning Him, and the Lord Jesus Christ Himself has taught us, and the Creed of the holy Fathers has handed down to us.

Vineyard Statement of Faith (I attended Vineyard churches for six years, and I really like their statement of faith. Obviously, most people will never have heard of this -- but people have been asking me what this is, so I'm identifying it.)

1. God the King and the Holy Trinity

WE BELIEVE that God is the Eternal King. He is an infinite,
unchangeable Spirit, perfect in holiness, wisdom, goodness,
justice, power and love. From all eternity He exists as the One
Living and True God in three persons of one substance, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, equal in power and glory.

2. God the King: The Creator and Ruler of All Things

WE BELIEVE that God's kingdom is everlasting. From His throne,
through His Son, His eternal Word, God created, upholds and governs all that exists: the heavenly places, the angelic hosts, the
universe, the earth, every living thing and mankind. God created
all things very good.

3. Counterfeit Kingdom: Satan and Demonic Hosts

WE BELIEVE that Satan, originally a great, good angel, rebelled
against God, taking a host of angels with him. He was cast out of
God's presence and, as a usurper of God's rule, established a
counter-kingdom of darkness and evil on the earth.

4. The Kingdom in the Creation of Man, the Fall and the Doctrine of Original Sin

WE BELIEVE that God created mankind in His own image, male and female, for relationship with Himself and to govern the earth.
Under the temptation of Satan, our original parents fell from
grace, bringing sin, sickness and God's judgment of death to the earth. Through the fall, Satan and his demonic hosts gained access to God's good creation. Creation now experiences the consequences and effects of Adam's original sin. Human beings are born in sin, subject to God's judgment of death and captive to Satan's kingdom of darkness.

5. God's Providence, Kingdom Law and Covenants

WE BELIEVE that God did not abandon His rule over the earth which He continues to uphold by His providence. In order to bring
redemption, God established covenants which revealed His grace to sinful people. In the covenant with Abraham, God bound Himself to His people Israel, promising to deliver them from bondage to sin and Satan and to bless all the nations through them.

WE BELIEVE that as King, God later redeemed His people by His
mighty acts from bondage in Egypt and established His covenant
through Moses, revealing His perfect will and our obligation to
fulfill it. The law's purpose is to order our fallen race and to
make us conscious of our moral responsibility. By the work of God's Spirit, it convicts us of our sin and God's righteous judgment against us and brings us to Christ alone for salvation.

WE BELIEVE that when Israel rejected God's rule over her as King, God established the monarchy in Israel and made an unconditional covenant with David, promising that his heir would restore God's kingdom reign over His people as Messiah forever.

6. Christ the Mediator and Eternal King

WE BELIEVE that in the fullness of time, God honored His covenants with Israel and His prophetic promises of salvation by sending His Son, Jesus, into the world. Conceived by the Holy Spirit and born of the Virgin Mary, as fully God and fully man in one person, He is humanity as God intended us to be. Jesus was anointed as God's Messiah and empowered by the Holy Spirit, inaugurating God's kingdom reign on earth, overpowering the reign of Satan by resisting temptation, preaching the good news of salvation, healing the sick, casting out demons and raising the dead. Gathering His disciples, He reconstituted God's people as His Church to be the instrument of His kingdom. After dying for the sins of the world, Jesus was raised from the dead on the third day, fulfilling the covenant of blessing given to Abraham. In His sinless, perfect life Jesus met the demands of the law and in His atoning death on the cross He took God's judgment for sin which we deserve as law-breakers. By His death on the cross He also disarmed the demonic powers. The covenant with David was fulfilled in Jesus' birth from David's house, His Messianic ministry, His glorious resurrection from the dead, His ascent into heaven and His present rule at the right hand of the Father. As God's Son and David's heir, He is the eternal Messiah-King, advancing God's reign throughout every generation and throughout the whole earth today.

7. The Ministry of the Holy Spirit

WE BELIEVE that the Holy Spirit was poured out on the Church at
Pentecost in power, baptizing believers into the Body of Christ and releasing the gifts of the Spirit to them. The Spirit brings the
permanent indwelling presence of God to us for spiritual worship,
personal sanctification, building up the Church, gifting us for
ministry, and driving back the kingdom of Satan by the
evangelization of the world through proclaiming the word of Jesus
and doing the works of Jesus.

WE BELIEVE that the Holy Spirit indwells every believer in Jesus
Christ and that He is our abiding Helper, Teacher, and Guide. We
believe in the filling or the empowering of the Holy Spirit, often
a conscious experience, for ministry today. We believe in the
present ministry of the Spirit and in the exercise of all of the
biblical gifts of the Spirit. We practice the laying on of hands
for the empowering of the Spirit, for healing, and for recognition
and empowering of those whom God has ordained to lead and serve the
Church.

8. The Sufficiency of Scripture

WE BELIEVE that the Holy Spirit inspired the human authors of Holy Scripture so that the Bible is without error in the original
manuscripts. We receive the sixty-six books of the Old and New
Testaments as our final, absolute authority, the only infallible
rule of faith and practice.

9. The Power of the Gospel Over the Kingdom of Darkness

WE BELIEVE that the whole world is under the domination of Satan and that all people are sinners by nature and choice. All people therefore are under God's just judgment. Through the preaching of the Good News of Jesus and the Kingdom of God and the work of the Holy Spirit, God regenerates, justifies, adopts and sanctifies through Jesus by the Spirit all who repent of their sins and trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. By this they are released from Satan's domain and enter into God's kingdom reign.

10. The Church: Instrument of the Kingdom

WE BELIEVE in the one, holy, universal Church. All who repent of
their sins and confess Jesus as Lord and Savior are regenerated by the Holy Spirit and form the living Body of Christ, of which He is the head and of which we are all members.

11. Baptism and the Lord's Supper

WE BELIEVE that Jesus Christ committed two ordinances to the
Church: water baptism and the Lord's Supper. Both are available to all believers.

12. The Kingdom of God and the Final Judgment

WE BELIEVE that God's kingdom has come in the ministry of our Lord Jesus Christ, that it continues to come in the ministry of the
Spirit through the Church, and that it will be consummated in the
glorious, visible and triumphant appearing of Christ - His return
to the earth as King. After Christ returns to reign, He will bring
about the final defeat of Satan and all of his minions and works,
the resurrection of the dead, the final judgment and the eternal
blessing of the righteous and eternal conscious punishment of the
wicked. Finally, God will be all in all and His kingdom, His rule
and reign, will be fulfilled in the new heavens and the new earth,
recreated by His mighty power, in which righteousness dwells and in which He will forever be worshiped.

To clear up confusion that several people have had:

1.) I am NOT Roman Catholic; I am Protestant. Please see how I defined "catholic" in these creeds.

I say this because lots of people have assumed that I was Roman Catholic. Protestants and Roman Catholics both hold to the creeds listed here. Some non-denominational Christians might not be aware of this or familiar with any creeds at all, and that is a pity. If you belong to a non-denominational church, ask your pastor about the creeds. Most would be in agreement with them.

I say this for the benefit of those who will not date a non-Catholic as well as those who will not date a Catholic. Several people have written to me messages like, "It's too bad that you are Catholic. Otherwise I would be interested in you."

2.) I do NOT belong to an Eastern Orthodox church. I am Protestant.

I say this because several people who have been Eastern Orthodox have contacted me, assuming that I belonged to it. Again, Eastern Orthodox churches and Protestants both hold to the creeds listed here. Some non-denominational Christians might not be aware of this or familiar with any creeds at all, and that is a pity. If you belong to a non-denominational church, ask your pastor about the creeds. Most would be in agreement with them.

As with the word "catholic," (lower case "c"), the word "orthodox" with a lowercase "o" has a different meaning than just referring to the Eastern Orthodox churches. The way I am using it here means "right belief" -- holding to the traditional Christian theology expressed in these creeds. In apologetics it is used to distinguish from heresy.

I say this for the benefit of those who will not date outside of their particular church.

2.) I am NOT a Calvinist -- I grew up in the United Methodist Church, and I still hold to a more Wesleyan view than Calvinist.

I say this because several Calvinists have contacted me, assuming that because I quoted from the creeds that I held to Reformed Theology. As with the Roman Catholics and the Eastern Orthodox churches, all mainline Protestant churches uphold the creeds.

It is true that many of my favorite Christian authors are Reformed in their theology. They are solid authors. I just don't read their works that talk about Calvinist theology. On many things Calvinists and non-Calvinists are not all that far apart on beliefs.

However, I state this for the benefit of those who refuse to date someone who is not a Calvinist, or who believe that only Calvinists are real Christians. If you believe this way, you probably do not want to date me.

3.) Denomination does not matter all that much to me. Theology is much more important than denomination.

Currently I do belong to a mainline denomination, but I also attended non-denominational churches for awhile. I am adaptable in this area. I think that there are pros and cons to both denominational and non-denominational churches.

4.) I'm not really a fan of infant baptism, which may be a problem for a lot of people in mainline denominations. This is a belief that has been passed down in my family.