Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am in an open, polyamorous relationship with a wonderful woman.
If you think that means "cheating", that's not how it is; you can
meet my wife and ask her yourself (in fact, if we end up going out
repeatedly you will need to meet her). I am not available for a
long-term committed relationship but am available for dating,
friendship and other less-intense relationships.
I grew up with a strong work ethic and put it to use earning my
doctorate, with occasional partying but always putting my
schoolwork first, and saving the fun for later. Much later. Years
and years later. I got married, had a couple of kids, built my
practice, and kept waiting for the fun to start.
About 18 years ago my first marriage was falling apart and I found
my life turning sharply in new directions. I started to rethink
many of the things I had accepted as given, including the
conventional Western Medical perspective on healthcare, and I
started taking continuing education classes in alternative
medicine. This was eventually to lead me to become one of the few
My life changed in many others ways around this time as well. For
one thing I was dating again for the first time in 13 years. At
first it was awkward, but once I started to meet new people and
socialize, I realized that I had been sorely missing going out for
a fun night on the town. I found myself attracted more and more to
very different people from who I had been used to socializing with
prior to my divorce. I started going to parties, raves, Burning
Man, and in short finally started to have some of that fun I had
been putting off for so many years. I started attracting friends
who were wilder and more “out there”. I tended to date wilder and
more “out there” women as well. And I became reacquainted with
drugs as well (a brief flirtation with marijuana in high school and
very briefly in college was as far down that path I had traveled up
to that point, and nothing since then). And the more I experienced
this new lifestyle, the better it felt and the more it felt like I
was coming home.
In the middle of all this fun, I fell in love with a wonderful
woman who had been leading a pretty wild and crazy life up to this
point, just the kind of life I had missed out on and was wanting
more and more of. To her, I seemed like a stable business-owning
successful career man (who still liked to have fun) which was just
what she was looking to become. So we each seemed like a perfect
match to the other one, because each of us wanted to turn into the
other one. This eventually would lead to some difficulty between
us, but in the end we were able to work through it which resulted
in deepening our relationship. Our relationship has grown and
strengthened as we worked through our stuff, and I am grateful for
our beautiful relationship that allows me to get my needs met
outside of the relationship.
And I still have the desire to go out to parties and nightclubs
while my wife is settling down and starting to build her therapy
practice. Which that brings us to why I'm here. I'm looking for a
party girl friend with bennies, someone who wants to enjoy all that
life has to offer, go out on the town 2 or 3 or 4 times a month
with me (and maybe sometimes with both me and my wife - she still
likes to have some fun after all) and drink deep from the well.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a lot of interests and never enough time to pursue them. For
one thing, I would like to do more traveling, but it's difficult to
get away when you own your own business. So I am preparing to sell
my practice, with the exception of the phone consult portion, which
I plan to expand. I can do phone consults from anywhere with a cell
phone connection, and I envision traveling for several months at a
time, financing my travels by working for a couple of hours each
day on the phone. This will also free up more time for my writing,
which is important to me. I am currently restoring a '65 Mustang. I
like to do creative projects; for example, last year I created a
large art car project for Burning Man.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Having fun, healing, mathematical and logic puzzles (e.g. Sudoku),
communication, listening deeply, holding space, loving, figuring
things out, fixing things, throwing kick-ass parties and partying,
being creative, being supportive, snuggling, being attentive, and
did I mention having fun?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My sense of humor, my eyes, my smile, my kindness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, ZOTZ, pretty much anything by
Heinlein, Asimov, Niven, Pratchett, The Matrix, Harry Potter,
Doctor Who, Wicked. Food: I am mostly vegetarian, and my comfort
foods are pizza, chocolate, milk shakes. I enjoy ecstatic dance,
and the type of music that usually goes along with that.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Fun. Sex. Chocolate. Adventure. My wife. Oxygen.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The nature of reality and consciousness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going out to dinner, dancing, socializing, clubbing, exploring the
universe. Unless I have to work on Saturday, then I do all that
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can be insecure when meeting someone for the first time; I feel
pressure to say just the right thing to make a good impression.
You should message me if
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You are OK dating someone in an open relationship, and you like to
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