I've dated women in the past that I've had great chemistry with, but when it came to sorting out our lives together we ended up being hopeless. Nature is cruel that way. In the past I might have said that I wanted a woman who made my heart race, but now, being older and wiser I know I would like someone whom I can feel calm around. I want that attraction of course, but comfort is what I am ultimately looking for. I don’t know how to explain comfort except that to me it means honesty and directness in a relationship; someone who actually brings my heart rate down when they are in the room, the ability to talk about difficult things without anyone becoming defensive. I have found that it is rare.
I would like to find someone who wants to travel, is curious about the world, a fellow explorer. Physicality is important to me. I’m not looking for someone who works out like a machine at the gym. Getting outside, hiking, biking and climbing seems to keep me in shape without it seeming like a chore. It’s important to me that you can deal with some of the discomforts that come with being in the outdoors for days at a time or traveling to a new country where things aren’t the way they are at home. I would like someone who prefers playing outside to going to the mall.
I make enough money to own a home and do what I want and am not hugely interested in making more just for the sake of it. Time is becoming more valuable as I grow older.
I do have some interest in starting a family but, having been married and divorced in my youth, it seems much more important to find a partner with whom I am compatible before crossing that bridge.