I can't believe that I have to actually add this to my profile... If you send me a message that just says "hi" and nothing else, chances are, I'm not going to reply. In my experience, conversations that start like that on here rarely actually go anywhere. If you are genuinely interested in talking to me, I need a little more effort than that and I will return the favor. I give as good as I get, so if you just send me "hi", I'll just send you "bye". Thank you.
How do you accurately describe yourself on a 2-Dimensional profile when people are so delightfully multi-dimensional?
Up until recently, I was a caregiver. I take care of people. In my personal life and, for a little while, in my professional life, too. I have since gotten a job that is a little more predictable and less emotionally traumatic. I still take care of children both personally and professionally as the occasional babysitter/nanny kind of thing. I love taking care of kids, they are just so bright and full of life! I have found, however, that caring for the elderly was too difficult for me, emotionally. So I have left that part of the caregiver in me behind, but I am very grateful for the experience. :) So now, by day I am your average office worker, but by night, an artist and babysitter. Interesting life, right? Haha.
One thing I like to make clear ahead of time is that I need time to get to know a person before launching into a relationship. If you plan on contacting me with the hopes of dating me, plan on chatting with me for at least a little while before I meet up with you. (Even just a couple days!) And don't go on one date with me and then ask me to be your girlfriend, because the answer will be no. That's so juvenile. Even if I feel a strong connection with someone, I prefer to date them casually for a bit before jumping into a relationship, no one wants to find out that some one is crazy a month into a relationship, better to find out through a month of casual dating. (Ask me how I know! LOL.)
People generally either love me or hate me; I'm too honest, too loud, too open, too loving and, from time to time, too headstrong. I'm a stubborn, sarcastic, silly, geeky girl with an over-developed sense of family who gives long, tight hugs.
I love going out on adventures, late nights, sneaking down to the Waterfront to look up at the stars, but I also love lazy, snuggly movie nights at home; watching anything from a good action, to a comedy or even a horror thriller that pumps the adrenaline and makes intense cuddling necessary.
I love to read, I love to write. To draw, to paint, to learn and listen (and talk...). I game, I craft. My list of weird skills is probably a mile long. Overall, the best description for me is probably "that outgoing, colorful artsy gamer girl". Art is a huge part of my life, it's like therapy to me, which is why I have become interested in a possible career as an Art Therapist!
I very much would like to find something special with someone, but I am working on myself right now and I can't also work on someone else. My ideal "partner" would be someone who could work on themselves both with and independently from myself. I can't be with someone who wants me to "fix" them. One of my favorite quotes to describe what I want is this:
“When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.” -Tom Robbins
In other words, I am not looking for someone to "complete me", I am looking for someone to /be/ complete /with/. I like affection, I like knowing that I am loved, but I don't need someone else in my life to feel like a complete person.
However, I'm not just looking for a relationship, I am also open to friendships, I love getting to know new people. So, if that hasn't scared you away, feel free to send me a message, or read on to learn more about me!
I don't do petty bullshit. I don't do jealousy. I don't do mind games. From either party in any kind of relationship. From casual acquaintances to romantic relationships. I do not have the time or desire to put up with that kind of bullshit. So if that's the kind of person you are, I highly doubt that we'll be friends, let alone anything else. Cool? Cool.