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Ashen_Raine

21 F Kirkland, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:58pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.61m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Administration
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
(Allow me to apologize in advance for the length of my profile, but if you manage to get through it and like what you see, please feel free to send me a message, making your intentions clear. I am primarily looking for people to date, but I am open to friendships, too. :) Any way, if you like silly, geeky, artsy girls, please, continue!)

I can't believe that I have to actually add this to my profile... If you send me a message that just says "hi" and nothing else, chances are, I'm not going to reply. In my experience, conversations that start like that on here rarely actually go anywhere. If you are genuinely interested in talking to me, I need a little more effort than that and I will return the favor. I give as good as I get, so if you just send me "hi", I'll just send you "bye". Thank you.

How do you accurately describe yourself on a 2-Dimensional profile when people are so delightfully multi-dimensional?

Up until recently, I was a caregiver. I take care of people. In my personal life and, for a little while, in my professional life, too. I have since gotten a job that is a little more predictable and less emotionally traumatic. I still take care of children both personally and professionally as the occasional babysitter/nanny kind of thing. I love taking care of kids, they are just so bright and full of life! I have found, however, that caring for the elderly was too difficult for me, emotionally. So I have left that part of the caregiver in me behind, but I am very grateful for the experience. :) So now, by day I am your average office worker, but by night, an artist and babysitter. Interesting life, right? Haha.

One thing I like to make clear ahead of time is that I need time to get to know a person before launching into a relationship. If you plan on contacting me with the hopes of dating me, plan on chatting with me for at least a little while before I meet up with you. (Even just a couple days!) And don't go on one date with me and then ask me to be your girlfriend, because the answer will be no. That's so juvenile. Even if I feel a strong connection with someone, I prefer to date them casually for a bit before jumping into a relationship, no one wants to find out that some one is crazy a month into a relationship, better to find out through a month of casual dating. (Ask me how I know! LOL.)

People generally either love me or hate me; I'm too honest, too loud, too open, too loving and, from time to time, too headstrong. I'm a stubborn, sarcastic, silly, geeky girl with an over-developed sense of family who gives long, tight hugs.

I love going out on adventures, late nights, sneaking down to the Waterfront to look up at the stars, but I also love lazy, snuggly movie nights at home; watching anything from a good action, to a comedy or even a horror thriller that pumps the adrenaline and makes intense cuddling necessary.

I love to read, I love to write. To draw, to paint, to learn and listen (and talk...). I game, I craft. My list of weird skills is probably a mile long. Overall, the best description for me is probably "that outgoing, colorful artsy gamer girl". Art is a huge part of my life, it's like therapy to me, which is why I have become interested in a possible career as an Art Therapist!

I very much would like to find something special with someone, but I am working on myself right now and I can't also work on someone else. My ideal "partner" would be someone who could work on themselves both with and independently from myself. I can't be with someone who wants me to "fix" them. One of my favorite quotes to describe what I want is this:

“When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.” -Tom Robbins

In other words, I am not looking for someone to "complete me", I am looking for someone to /be/ complete /with/. I like affection, I like knowing that I am loved, but I don't need someone else in my life to feel like a complete person.

However, I'm not just looking for a relationship, I am also open to friendships, I love getting to know new people. So, if that hasn't scared you away, feel free to send me a message, or read on to learn more about me!

**Disclaimer:
I don't do petty bullshit. I don't do jealousy. I don't do mind games. From either party in any kind of relationship. From casual acquaintances to romantic relationships. I do not have the time or desire to put up with that kind of bullshit. So if that's the kind of person you are, I highly doubt that we'll be friends, let alone anything else. Cool? Cool.
What I’m doing with my life
Attending Rocky Horror in a tightly laced corset... And the same thing we do every night, Pinky... Try to take over the world!
I’m really good at
I'm really good at making myself seem way more complicated than I am. I'm really a very simple creature living in a chaotic world.

I'm not hard to please and I do my best to make those around me happy, so I expect the people I keep in my life to try and do the same when they are capable without it being a detriment to themselves.

I'm also talented at drawing and would like to eventually be able to incorporate my art into my career.

(I'm also pretty good at gaming. I'll give ya a run for your money while playing Injustice and I love playful competition when I play table top games.)
The first things people usually notice about me
Based on the messages I get on here, apparently, it is my boobs. (Shocker!) If you message me and all you have to say is "nice tits" or something to the effect of "let's have sex", please just save it. That's not going to get you anything but blocked.

Yes, I have a large chest. Yes, it is fun to flaunt them. Yes, they draw attention. But just commenting on them is no way to get me to go out with you, let alone get you into my pants. So just give it a rest. Use some tact. I like a man who can compliment a girl without coming across as a total sleeze.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Alright, I have too many favorites to write them all... And this list is still probably too long. But here are some of my favorites:

Books:
Harry Potter (Series) - J.K. Rowling
Still Life with Woodpecker - Tom Robbins
Vampire Chronicles (Series) - Anne Rice
Scott Pilgrim (Series)
Thirst (Series) - Christopher Pike
Illusions - Richard Bach
Ride the Wind - Lucia St. Claire Robson
Ender's Game (Series) - Orson Scott Card
The Hunger Games (Series) - Suzzane Collins

Movies:
Harry Potter (Series)
Lord of the Rings (Series)
Serenity
Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog
Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
The Princess Bride
Stardust
Hot-Tub Time-Machine
Get Him to the Greek
Easy A
Superbad
Shaun of the Dead
Cabin in the Woods
At World's End
This is the End
Hot Fuzz

TV Shows:
Dr. Who
Firefly
30 Rock
Legend of the Seeker
Buffy the Vampire Slayer
American Horror Story
Game of Thrones
True Blood
2 Broke Girls
Venture Bros.
The Crazy Ones
Rachel Maddow (and a lot of other MSNBC news shows - I think it is important to keep up on what is going on in the world.)
Daily Show & Colbert Report

Music:
An interesting collaboration of "indy" and "pop" music. Including, but not limited to: Death Cab for Cutie, Macklemore, Walk off the Earth, fun., (Some of) Lady Gaga, Lily Allen... Basically, I like all kinds of music. There isn't a lot of music that I don't enjoy.

Games:
-Video:
--Final Fantasy - X, X-2
--Assassin's Creed 1, 2, Brotherhood, Revelations and 3
--Skyrim
--KoA: Reckoning <-- Best game ever (right now)
--Pokemon (Occasionally my Nintendo hand-held consoles need some love, too.)
--Portal 1 & 2
--Kingdom Hearts (Series)
--Fable (Series)
--The Witcher 2
--Injustice: Gods Among Us

-Board/Card/Dice:
--Munchkin (And pretty much any other Steve Jackson game)
--Dragon Dice
--Dominion
--Apples to Apples
--Cards Against Humanity (Basically crude, adult-themed Apples to Apples... Hands down, this is one of the best and most hilarious party games EVER!)
--D&D
--Dixit
--Scrabble, Monopoly, and other "classic" board games

Food:
I especially love "ethnic" foods, (Examples: Indian food, Greek/Middle Eastern food, sushi, Veitnamese food and Thai food), but I'm really not picky about food. =)
The six things I could never do without
In no particular order:

-Pencils/Paper/something to create art with: I find art therapeutic, it helps me deal with life. Plus, I want to make a career out of it, so that makes it necessary, too. :P

-My friends and family: I'd be utterly lost without them.

-Books: I absolutely love to read. There is little I love more than a well-loved, worn, used book. <3

-Music: I LOVE listening to music and singing. And while I might not be a very talented singer, that doesn't stop me from blasting the music in my car and singing (poorly) at the top of my lungs!

-My car: Okay, I CAN live without this one, as I recently had to prove due to a lack of my car. But I greatly prefer to have access to my car. Which I do, again! Yay!

-Internet access: I feel the need to stay connected to the world via a technological device with internet access most of the time. Occasionally I'll disconnect from everything for a day. But it's a pretty rare occurrence.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
These days, I spend a lot of time thinking up good ideas for drawings and paintings. I find inspiration everywhere. Or about how "I wish I had a camera because that would be a great shot!"

Or work. Since starting my new job, I do spend a lot of the week thinking about work. Haha.

But my inner thoughts also sometimes devolve into: "Oh! Shiney! Sparkles! Whee!"
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing something crafty (drawing, painting, writing, etc.), playing video games or going out and doing something with friends. Or sleeping after a particularly long work day.

But, honestly, what is a "typical" Friday night, anyway?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In the words of the wonderful River Song:

"Spoilers."
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You like big girls with a sassy attitude and a big heart that are on the quirky side. ;)

Or, if this quote means anything to you:

“Those who shun the whimsy of things will experience rigor mortis before death.”
― Tom Robbins