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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 6
White, —
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Might want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I value people and friendship, however I believe 98% of people here are afraid to take the first step and actually meet in person. I've seen enough of the Vancouver way to know people are frightened, lonely and insecure. I will meet you for a drink if I say I will but it seems even friendship (my first step) is too scary. Remember this: you only live this life once. Take a chance. Grab the bull by the horns. :-) And don't expect sex without knowing a person. I love dancing, enjoy good parties and have very eclectic taste in music. One passion is writing in various genres. I'm always working on stories. And I get distracted. I also love nature and could do with more walks and hikes.

I believe we should be passionate about life, in as many ways as possible. Explore, seek, search, have fun, ponder the interior, flirt with chaos. Hungry curiosity about the world. And I'm a yin/yang sort; a balance is needed between the physical and the intellectual. I like intimacy in both contexts.

Oh and I'm a girl. I like to dress up. Fun with fashion. However, while I am a clothes horse I am not a fashion slave. I am and always have been complete in myself. Many things enhance my life: friends, men, clothes, art, fiction, music, my friend's kids, family, cats, nature, etc. I create my life and if I'm bored with it, I try to change it.

Creativity and an open mind--these things excite me. Good conversation is a must. Trying different things, looking at the world anew. Spicy adventures with a bit of sweet. I hope to never lose this view. I have not always found new doors to try. Sometimes they've been pointed out, but I'm often opening them to look or even step inside. I'm spiritual but don't push my beliefs. Everyone has their own path and that's jes fine with me.

My profile is like one of my stories. I'm constantly tweaking and updating it. Other items of interest: bunnies, bellydance, sex, erotica, spicy food, trance, space, science, mysticism, ritual, SF, fantasy, art, conservation, the environment, weird science, space.

I am fiery, nonconformist, and spiritual
What I’m doing with my life
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My new hobby is learning to sail a Viking longboat. It's exciting, social and outside and it's been dry docked for part of this year. We're hoping it will be back in the water again and I'll get my rowing muscles back. I'm green but hey, new tricks! I have visited Portland, a writing retreat on the Olympic Peninsula, and houseboating on the Okanagan. I like travelling and went to Barcelona and Valencia this spring. Ole! Colorado this fall and small US jaunts in between.

Other than that....I'm exploring, finding new things, teaching bellydance (hoping to start again this fall), sent my novel off to an agent, co-edited an anthology, wrote several stories and trying to get back to my blog, above and beyond the day job and making jewellery. Now I only have 50 poems to write, a slow pace compared to this incredibly crazy last six months. I'm busy but I like to have social time with friends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Confusing myself, communication, laughter, writing, dancing, sleeping, solving the world's ills (Hah!).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My blue eyes, my wacky personality and my long hair, often spiced with colours not found in nature and my Boho style. I might also say a rude thing or two.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This list should constantly change but I don't have time. Books--Blackfire Concerto by Mike Allen, Blurry Man by S.D. Perry, Stranger in a Strange Land by Heinlein, seminal in my formative years. Little Big by Crowley. Courtship Rite by Donald Kingsbury--a very funky SF book about cannibalism and polygamy. Einstein's Dreams is another favorite. The Steel Seraglio, which I love. I'm reading the Illiad now (I'm still reading it...I'm still reading it...OK it sits beside the bed). In fact, it's become an odyssey.

Movies--Cabin in the Woods. Harry Potter. I love good mind candy. Loved What Dreams May Come. Just can't always remember the names of what I last saw, but any Greenaway or Fellini films are just fine by me. Benjamin Button. Game of Thrones. Don't have a TV, really, but watch on the laptopk. Oh, and yes I do like Once Upon a Time. And I've just watched all of Dr. Who (the new ones). Some of its brilliant and I don't like time travel tales that much. What can I say, I write in the speculative genre.

Music--all over the map here but alternative is the most likely with some rock, punk, jazz, psychedelic. Portishead, David Bowie, Brian Eno, Bif Naked, Modest Mouse, Faun, Woodland, Delhi to Dublin, Loreena Mckennitt, Feist, Hawksley Workman, *shrug*. The list could go on...

And foods--Thai is the ultimate fave. Otherwise, spicy, interesting, crunchy. Seafood of almost any flavor (except maybe urchin). Chocolate (dark), red wine, dark rum, good English style cider (not the poppy Canuck stuff). Absinthe though it's rarely I drink this as it's expensive. And working on the boggy sock scotches. Overall, I'm a water or wine sort and don't drink coffee or tea.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My brain, friends & good conversations, love, nature, writing & books, dreams--maybe that's seven but it's all combined.
On a dessert island it would include chocolate, red wine, shrimp and medical supplies. There could be six things of food, of survival and of many other things. But one must ask, why six?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ways to make my life more worthwhile, sex, what is hidden and what it means, art, politics, how to get the callouses off of my feet. My friends, my dreams, nocturnal and not. This me-me-me world. Words, words, words--I'm always thinking of those.

And this: if you're looking for a woman to toss you over her shoulder and drag you to her cave, then I'm not that gal. Had to be strong all the time for the ex and while I'm strong in some ways I'm not in others. It's about balance. I'd like a strong partner too. Not King Kong, mind you. Fleas and the banana smell get overwhelming.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
There is one lie in my profile. Or is that lye? Perhaps just a caustic remark. Liar, lyre.
You should message me if
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You want to discuss real life or that which is surreal, want to chat over some good wine... I'm always looking to go dancing. BTW, when I say I'm busy for a week I mean it. It's not putting someone off. If you can't understand that it could take a week to meet then we probably won't work.

Because it seems people either think meeting the first time is a hookup or a blind date for life, I'm looking for friends first. I need to expand my friend pool and if you're not willing to get together and chat, then we won't get along. Who knows, maybe it would lead to something more but friendships are precious and I would like to have a few more friends with diverse interests.

Don't message me if:
• you don't divulge information about yourself
• have no intention of meeting
• have no picture (of your actual face), or no profile = no answer
• want to talk about sex and haven't met me in person
• want the first meet to be at my place. I mean, really?

To all you 20-somethings, I'm flattered I think, but I don't want to train a man. I'm down with friends of any age but I want my men experienced, AND I'm looking for more than a roll in the hay.