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46 F Vancouver, British Columbia, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:27pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I value people and friendships. I love dancing, enjoy good parties and have very eclectic taste in music. One passion is writing in various genres. I'm always working on stories. And I get distracted. Whee!

I believe we should be passionate about life, in as many ways as possible. Explore, seek, search, have fun, ponder the interior, flirt with chaos. Hungry curiosity about the world. And I'm a yin/yang sort; a balance is needed between the physical and the intellectual. I like intimacy in both contexts.

Oh and I'm a girl. I like to dress up. Fun with fashion. However, while I am a clothes horse I am not a fashion slave. I am and always have been complete in myself. Many things enhance my life: friends, men, clothes, art, fiction, music, my friend's kids, family, cats, nature, etc. I create my life and if I'm bored with it, I try to change it.

Creativity and an open mind--these things excite me. Good conversation is a must. Trying different things, looking at the world anew. Spicy adventures with a bit of sweet. I hope to never lose this view. I have not always found new doors to try. Sometimes they've been pointed out, but I'm often opening them to look or even step inside. I'm spiritual but don't push my beliefs. Everyone has their own path and that's jes fine with me.

Other items of interest: bunnies, bellydance, sex, erotica, spicy food, trance, space, science, mysticism, ritual, SF, fantasy, art, conservation, the environment, weird science, space.

I am fiery, nonconformist, and spiritual
What I’m doing with my life
Okay, what happened to this year? It's been so jam packed that I'm cramped for time. Not that I haven't had fun but it took a topsy turvy turn toward uber busy. But... I am indeed off to Germany, France and England in about a month and looking forward to kicking back, exploring history and trying the libations of other nations.

Other than that....I'm exploring, finding new things, teaching bellydance (on hold alas from a shoulder injury), planning to finish the rough draft of my novel by April/OCTOBER! and playing with a new tablet for writing, above and beyond the day job and making jewellery. I recently self-published a reprint collection of speculative stories. Yay me! I'm busy but am now balancing toward more fun time.

While some pretty good things have been happening, I feel the cosmically wonderful is yet to come. I hope to do a bit more hiking than I have been. Fitness has become injury rehab, but it's working, and I have even more energy, especially if I plan to do a lot of walking in Europe.
I’m really good at
Confusing myself, communication, laughter, writing, dancing, sleeping, solving the world's ills (Hah!). I also throw great "partays" but not very often.
The first things people usually notice about me
My blue eyes, my wacky personality and my long hair, often spiced with colours not found in nature and my Boho style. I might also say a rude thing or two.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books--so many, hmm, I can't narrow it down. Stranger in a Strange Land by Heinlein, seminal in my formative years. Little Big by Crowley. Courtship Rite by Donald Kingsbury--a very funky SF book about cannibalism and polygamy. Einstein's Dreams is another favorite. The Steel Seraglio, which I love. I'm reading the Illiad now (I'm still reading it...I'm still reading it...OK it sits beside the bed). In fact, it's become an odyssey.

Movies--Cabin in the Woods. Harry Potter. I love good mind candy. Loved What Dreams May Come. Just can't always remember the names of what I last saw, but any Greenaway or Fellini films are just fine by me. Benjamin Button. No Country for Old Men...WTF? Game of Thrones. Don't have a TV, really, but just one that plays DVDs so I' like True Blood, Deadwood, Babylon 5, Lost (except the ending), Six Feet Under, BSG and Queer as Folk. Oh, and yes I do like Once Upon a Time.

Music--all over the map here but alternative is the most likely with some rock, punk, jazz, psychedelic. Portishead, David Bowie, Brian Eno, Bif Naked, Modest Mouse, Faun, Woodland, Delhi to Dublin, Loreena Mckennitt, Feist, Hawksley Workman, *shrug*. The list could go on...

And foods--Thai is the ultimate fave. Otherwise, spicy, interesting, crunchy. Seafood of almost any flavor (except maybe urchin). Chocolate (dark), red wine, dark rum, good English style cider (not the poppy Canuck stuff). Absinthe though it's rarely I drink this as it's expensive. And working on the boggy sock scotches. Overall, I'm a water or wine sort and don't drink coffee or tea.
The six things I could never do without
My brain, friends & good conversations, love, nature, writing & books, dreams--maybe that's seven but it's all combined.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Ways to make my life more worthwhile, sex, what is hidden and what it means, art, politics, how to get the callouses off of my feet. My friends, my dreams, nocturnal and not. This me-me-me world. Words, words, words--I'm always thinking of those.

And this: if you're looking for a woman to toss you over her shoulder and drag you to her cave, then I'm not that gal. Had to be strong all the time for the ex and while I'm strong in some ways I'm not in others. I'd like a strong partner too. Not King Kong, mind you. Fleas and the banana smell get overwhelming.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There is one lie in my profile. Or is that lye? Perhaps just a caustic remark. Liar, lyre.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 35–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want to discuss real life or that which is surreal, want to chat over some good wine... I'm always looking to go dancing. BTW, when I say I'm busy for a week I mean it. It's not putting someone off. If you can't understand that it could take a week to meet then we probably won't work. However...once someone is in my life I make time for them because they become part of the big program. :0)

Please do not message me if you're looking for a secret fling, don't like to divulge information about yourself or have no intention of meeting in person. No picture, or no profile = no answer. I also find it a big turn off if you start talking about sex and haven't met me in person. It's vulgar. I'm old fashioned that way. Big beards, mountain men, well they don't do it for me but that doesn't mean we can't have a conversation. ;)

To all you 20-somethings, I'm flattered I think, but I don't want to train a man. I'm down with friends of any age but I want my men experienced, AND I'm looking for more than a roll in the hay.