I left my job that keeps me living out of state for most of the year. I'm back to being a year round St. Louis resident. I have also made changes in my dating/relationship direction. This last year, I had two potential LTR that ended abruptly. No bad feelings towards each other. Partly due to my working/living out of state, and also we didn't make it through the adjustments couples go through when trying to graft their lives together. In the end, I decided to go in a direction that several of my friends have. I have become committed to being polyamorous.
People give this title many meanings. For me, it's about making strong connections with others and excepting that I can give and receive many things from more than one person/partner/lover. It means I am not trying to direct or be directed towards a specific agenda. I prefer things develop organically without manipulation. It also means I don't need to end/destroy a current bond to start a new one.
I believe most people put so much pressure on themselves and their loved ones to live up to this idea of what a relationship is supposed to be,and to attain. When things change, we see it as a failure. I prefer to see it as a shift, a change, but not necessarily an ending.
So, if we exchange messages, I hope we see our common interest, enjoy the idea of sharing new interest, and be open to what develops between us.