Hey Hun, I understand totally as I am new to this as I never really dated as an adult (I was very very dumb and married too young.) I know that I have met and chatted with a lot of people since I started my foray into this online dating, but only agreed to a couple of dates so far. As for what the ladies look for, I would just say women are individuals with different priorities of importance. Just be honest with what you are seeking to do, and you should find women who will want the same. There aren't as many women as a rule online as men, so don't be too hard on yourself if it is a bit harder to find your match. I also recommend doing a couple sites at least. You will find a variety of people will be on one, but not on another. Good luck and I hope you get what you are seeking. xo, amber