I’m looking for love. Who isn’t?
I’m a bright ‘n sassy girl who will never jerk you around, even if we don’t end up as more than friends. Friends are good too.
I’m an extreme bookworm. I have diverse interests and I love learning. How about you?
I'm liberal, intellectual, and opinionated. I'm a poet, writer, and artist. I like hiking, dancing, cultural events, road trips, fancy coffee drinks, easy-going evenings at home with a DVD and some snacks, and most of all, intense conversations you can’t imagine having with anyone else.
I sometimes think my brain works on a different frequency from most of the human race. I'm not braggin' on my smarts or anything; I've met some pretty sharp tacks with whom I still couldn't connect. But on the almost-unheard-of occasions when I DO meet someone I click with, I always think he's sharp. And it's an earth-shaking, profound experience. I really want that. But not every friendship or relationship has to have that. Sometimes it's nice just to talk, and find a few things in common.
Things That, If You're the Right Sort, Might Make You Like Me
1) Despite being somewhat blunt and opinionated, I'm actually very kind and generous. I have a soft heart and I'm very emotionally giving.
2) I'm witty and funny, and I love to laugh, and make you laugh. I bet I can!
3) I'm smart and intellectual, but not a snob. I can talk with equal enthusiasm about pop culture or high art and literature.
4) I'm a great listener, am deeply interested in people, and will ask you lots of thrilling, flattering questions about yourself—if I can expect the same in return.
5) I’m strong, stable and together. I’m exceptionally self-aware, so: no games, no bullshit, no cruelty. You’ll always know where you are with me.
6) I have lots of fun, unusual, diverse interests and can talk about many obscure things with great enthusiasm.
7) I have an open mind and an unusual perspective. If there's something unusual about you that you've taken crap for because people thought it was strange, I'm likely to react positively to it, and I'll always encourage you to be yourself. Wear what you want, be who you are. Vive l'individualité!
8) I'm fun-loving and adventurous— I'll try almost anything once. So I'm a fun date.
9) I won’t ask you to pick up the check. If we’re going someplace, I’m happy to drive. It doesn’t offend me if you open the door for me or pull out my chair, but I’m just as likely to get the door for you, or give you my sweater if you’re cold. There are advantages to dating a feminist.
10) I like what others often see as flaws. A chubby belly can be sexy. I love a good, big schnauz! (That means “nose”; get your mind out of the gutter!) Short guys are hot. A receding hairline can be a big turn-on, so can a completely bald head. I don’t care for big muscles or washboard abs; it’s not a problem if you do have that, but I don’t subscribe to the magazines’ ideas of what’s sexy. I don’t limit myself that way. So I can enthusiastically appreciate what society may have told you is unattractive about yourself—I know society is wrong!
11) I’m an open book. I really will talk to you about just about anything, and my answers, or insights if you want them, may surprise you. I’m an exceptional communicator.
Here are some things I like. I don’t pigeon-hole a “type”, you don’t have to have these things for me to find you scintillatingly attractive. But if you have one or two of ‘em, it helps.
Turn-ons: Artistic tendencies, bookworm-ishness, creativity, sensitivity, a sense of adventure, honesty, openness, kindness, shyness, a soft, gentle demeanor, big beautiful eyes, scrawniness or a slight build, fantasy fans, strong noses, brainy sardonicism, interesting hair, guys who love to laugh, being asked thoughtful questions, a hint of girliness, geeks, a wry, edgy sense of humor, diverse hobbies and interests, challenges to authority, challenges to traditional gender roles. An attractive speaking voice is probably my biggest physical turn-on, more even than anything visual.
Here are some things I don’t like. Dealbreakers? I don’t know. You never know where there may be exceptions, and much depends upon degree, but in general, these are some traits that make me less likely to be interested in a guy.
Turn-offs: Machismo, militaristic interests, excessive sports-watching, materialism, shallowness, conservatism, poor communication skills, horror, people who can't close their mouths or use hard consonants when they speak, arrogant evangelism, sexual entitlement, self-centeredness, excessive competitiveness, poor writing and bad grammar, slack inarticulateness, a lazy mind.
I don't do the polyamorous thing; if you're in a relationship, I'm not interested. I'm also not shopping in the under-30 or over-50 markets. There may be exceptions. I require a certain level of maturity, and I'd like for me and my partner to be similar in some ways that seem to be loosely related to age.
One thing that will make me very unlikely to contact or respond to you is if you have “Casual Sex” selected as one of the things you’re looking for. I mean, come on, people.
OK, so now for the other side of the coin... I hate surprises— more accurately, I hate surprising others unpleasantly. So let's just get some of the "warts" out of the way, shall we?
Things That Might Scare You Away From Me:
I’m a feminist, I don’t do the girly-submissive thing, and I don’t put up with any crap. “Because everyone else does it” has never been a good enough reason for me to do anything. I speak my mind. I won't jump into bed with you after just one or two dates. Sorry, it just takes me a little longer than that. “Not now” doesn’t mean “not ever”. Doesn’t anyone believe in a little courtship anymore?
I can't have kids. I had some health problems and had to have surgery in June 2012. My health should be great from now on, and I doubt anyone is looking for someone in my age group if he wants someone to bear him children, but just in case, you should know I can't. It could be really cool to adopt someday.
I've been working out and embracing healthy eating habits, and I've lost 40 pounds. I'm moving toward my ideal health and body shape, but I'll never be "skinny." So I'm not interested in dating someone who is only looking for a supermodel or athletic body type and doesn't appreciate curves-- I have fewer than I used to, but I intend to keep that voluptuousness. I don't tolerate a judgmental attitude about that. I don't tell guys what *their* bodies should look like...
I want anyone I date to at least be willing to appreciate my humor and laugh at my jokes. When a guy in these ads says he wants "a sense of humor", too often he doesn't mean he wants his date to be funny. He means he wants her to laugh at everything HE says. People seem to like to withhold laughter for some reason; maybe it's just self-consciousness. I am generous with my laughter, so I'd like to get the same in return.
I need a date to listen, be interested, and ask me questions about myself. I’m not gonna do all the work. You’ll have to put some effort in; can you handle it?
Last but not least, although I talk tough, I'm actually pretty shy, and will probably require your patience and drawing-out.