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44 Denver, CO Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 14
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
A little extra
Not at all
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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This thing needs a big overhaul. I've changed so much in the last year, I hardly even recognize myself anymore. On an emotional/spiritual level (and in a positive way!) mostly, but even physically, so I need new pictures, too. But it will be a big project, so the below profile will have to remain for now... I put a lot of work into it, and I still think it's pretty cool and describes a lot of things about me pretty well. So here ya go... and kudos if you get through the whole thing. Remodel coming soon...

I’m looking for love. Who isn’t?

I’m a bright ‘n sassy girl who will never jerk you around, even if we don’t end up as more than friends. Friends are good too.

I’m an extreme bookworm. I have diverse interests and I love learning. How about you?

I'm liberal, intellectual, and opinionated. I'm a poet, writer, and artist. I like hiking, dancing, cultural events, road trips, fancy coffee drinks, easy-going evenings at home with a DVD and some snacks, and most of all, intense conversations you can’t imagine having with anyone else.

I sometimes think my brain works on a different frequency from most of the human race. I'm not braggin' on my smarts or anything; I've met some pretty sharp tacks with whom I still couldn't connect. But on the almost-unheard-of occasions when I DO meet someone I click with, I always think he's sharp. And it's an earth-shaking, profound experience. I really want that. But not every friendship or relationship has to have that. Sometimes it's nice just to talk, and find a few things in common.

Things That, If You're the Right Sort, Might Make You Like Me

1) Despite being somewhat blunt and opinionated, I'm actually very kind and generous. I have a soft heart and I'm very emotionally giving.

2) I'm witty and funny, and I love to laugh, and make you laugh. I bet I can!

3) I'm smart and intellectual, but not a snob. I can talk with equal enthusiasm about pop culture or high art and literature.

4) I'm a great listener, am deeply interested in people, and will ask you lots of thrilling, flattering questions about yourself—if I can expect the same in return.

5) I’m strong, stable and together. I’m exceptionally self-aware, so: no games, no bullshit, no cruelty. You’ll always know where you are with me.

6) I have lots of fun, unusual, diverse interests and can talk about many obscure things with great enthusiasm.

7) I have an open mind and an unusual perspective. If there's something unusual about you that you've taken crap for because people thought it was strange, I'm likely to react positively to it, and I'll always encourage you to be yourself. Wear what you want, be who you are. Vive l'individualité!

8) I'm fun-loving and adventurous— I'll try almost anything once. So I'm a fun date.

9) I won’t ask you to pick up the check. If we’re going someplace, I’m happy to drive. It doesn’t offend me if you open the door for me or pull out my chair, but I’m just as likely to get the door for you, or give you my sweater if you’re cold. There are advantages to dating a feminist.

10) I like what others often see as flaws. A chubby belly can be sexy. I love a good, big schnauz! (That means “nose”; get your mind out of the gutter!) Short guys are hot. A receding hairline can be a big turn-on, so can a completely bald head. I don’t care for big muscles or washboard abs; it’s not a problem if you do have that, but I don’t subscribe to the magazines’ ideas of what’s sexy. I don’t limit myself that way. So I can enthusiastically appreciate what society may have told you is unattractive about yourself—I know society is wrong!

11) I’m an open book. I really will talk to you about just about anything, and my answers, or insights if you want them, may surprise you. I’m an exceptional communicator.

Here are some things I like. I don’t pigeon-hole a “type”, you don’t have to have these things for me to find you scintillatingly attractive. But if you have one or two of ‘em, it helps.

Turn-ons: Artistic tendencies, bookworm-ishness, creativity, sensitivity, a sense of adventure, honesty, openness, kindness, shyness, a soft, gentle demeanor, big beautiful eyes, scrawniness or a slight build, fantasy fans, strong noses, brainy sardonicism, interesting hair, guys who love to laugh, being asked thoughtful questions, a hint of girliness, geeks, a wry, edgy sense of humor, diverse hobbies and interests, challenges to authority, challenges to traditional gender roles. An attractive speaking voice is probably my biggest physical turn-on, more even than anything visual.

Here are some things I don’t like. Dealbreakers? I don’t know. You never know where there may be exceptions, and much depends upon degree, but in general, these are some traits that make me less likely to be interested in a guy.

Turn-offs: Machismo, militaristic interests, excessive sports-watching, materialism, shallowness, conservatism, poor communication skills, horror, people who can't close their mouths or use hard consonants when they speak, arrogant evangelism, sexual entitlement, self-centeredness, excessive competitiveness, poor writing and bad grammar, slack inarticulateness, a lazy mind.

I don't do the polyamorous thing; if you're in a relationship, I'm not interested. I'm also not shopping in the under-30 or over-50 markets. There may be exceptions. I require a certain level of maturity, and I'd like for me and my partner to be similar in some ways that seem to be loosely related to age.

One thing that will make me very unlikely to contact or respond to you is if you have “Casual Sex” selected as one of the things you’re looking for. I mean, come on, people.

OK, so now for the other side of the coin... I hate surprises— more accurately, I hate surprising others unpleasantly. So let's just get some of the "warts" out of the way, shall we?

Things That Might Scare You Away From Me:

I’m a feminist, I don’t do the girly-submissive thing, and I don’t put up with any crap. “Because everyone else does it” has never been a good enough reason for me to do anything. I speak my mind. I won't jump into bed with you after just one or two dates. Sorry, it just takes me a little longer than that. “Not now” doesn’t mean “not ever”. Doesn’t anyone believe in a little courtship anymore?

I can't have kids. I had some health problems and had to have surgery in June 2012. My health should be great from now on, and I doubt anyone is looking for someone in my age group if he wants someone to bear him children, but just in case, you should know I can't. It could be really cool to adopt someday.

I've been working out and embracing healthy eating habits, and I've lost 40 pounds. I'm moving toward my ideal health and body shape, but I'll never be "skinny." So I'm not interested in dating someone who is only looking for a supermodel or athletic body type and doesn't appreciate curves-- I have fewer than I used to, but I intend to keep that voluptuousness. I don't tolerate a judgmental attitude about that. I don't tell guys what *their* bodies should look like...

I want anyone I date to at least be willing to appreciate my humor and laugh at my jokes. When a guy in these ads says he wants "a sense of humor", too often he doesn't mean he wants his date to be funny. He means he wants her to laugh at everything HE says. People seem to like to withhold laughter for some reason; maybe it's just self-consciousness. I am generous with my laughter, so I'd like to get the same in return.

I need a date to listen, be interested, and ask me questions about myself. I’m not gonna do all the work. You’ll have to put some effort in; can you handle it?

Last but not least, although I talk tough, I'm actually pretty shy, and will probably require your patience and drawing-out.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've always been a writer; it comes as naturally to me as breathing. Lately I'm trying to reconnect with that fundamental part of me. I'm writing a novel, and I also like travel writing and personal essays. I dabble frequently in both.

I know you probably want to know what I do for a living. I actually just got the biggest promotion of my life, and for the first time in over 10 years (except when I was freelancing) my job title does not have "assistant" in it. I went from being an admin (don't get me started on what a career trap that is for women) to having an assistant of my own and managing 6 people. Just when I had stopped believing in the whole concept of "moving up" in the corporate/academic world! I'm the Director of Testing at a medical school. I copy-edit exam material, coach doctors in writing skills, and score exams, among other things. It's my favorite job that I've ever had, though I never thought I was that interested in medical science. I like the writing aspects of it most of all.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Wordsmithing of any kind, editing, random silly rhymes, photography, asking and answering questions, writing poetry, spontaneously creating parody lyrics to fit any situation and song, writing fiction and personal essays, thinking of just the word you want, finding the silver lining, making dogs happy, listening. I've been told I have a great phone voice, that I speak well, and even, occasionally, that I sing well. Oh, and I bake a mean batch o' chocolate chip cookies.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm usually described as having a "big personality," even though I'm shy, and I don't think I'm obnoxious or anything. I can express myself in what I think is a really mild, normal way, and people react strongly. I guess I have a very vivid presence.

People also spontaneously compliment me on the color of my hair, (dark auburn) sometimes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A) Ursula Leguin, especially The Earthsea Trilogy (worst book-to-movie adaptation ever, though), The City, Not Long After, by Pat Murphy, A Soldier in the Great War by Mark Helprin (though I usually hate war books!) Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card, most of Neil Gaiman. I like Lois McMaster Bujold and Emma Bull, too. I have no trouble admitting that I love the Harry Potter books. I loved The Agony and the Ecstasy by Irving Stone. The Lord of the Rings has always been a favorite; I've probably read it 30 times.

Poets: Rainer Marie Rilke is possibly my favorite poet. I love him. I also like Neruda, Gerard Manley Hopkins, and Marilyn Krysl.

B) I love movies, but I can never think of the ones I really loved when put on the spot. OK, I'll give it a go: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Whale Rider, Dead Poets Society, Spirit, Stallion of the Cimarron (and I don't care what you say!) Apollo 13, The Station Agent. The Namesake sticks out in my mind as an absolutely perfect film, somehow. I remember feeling, after I watched it, that only a handful of times in my life have I seen something I found truly flawless, and I cherished the feeling. I almost never like comedies, but The 40-Year-Old Virgin made me laugh until I cried. I Love You, Man was also pretty good. The recent Star Trek reboot was great. Obscure art movies and interesting indie things that fit no particular genre are favorites, but I also love Pixar films. I grew up repeatedly watching The Princess Bride, and it's still awesome. I weep openly, at least once during most movies.

I can't tolerate too much in the way of really disturbing concepts or dark violence in movies; I just feel everything too deeply. You would have to pay me at least $500,000 to watch a horror movie, and I might still refuse.

C) Chris Whitley, Nick Drake, Jeff Buckley, older Prince, The Police, Coldplay, Fiona Apple, some Red Hot Chili Peppers, Oingo Boingo, Midnight Oil, Shawn Colvin. I don't listen to it regularly anymore, but I will always have a soft spot for 80s Brit-pop and alternative (back when the word meant something). Echo and the Bunnymen, The Smiths, The Cure, even Duran Duran (well... I was a 13-year-old- girl in 1984... what do you expect?) and an endless slew of wonderful one-hit wonders... anyone remember Big Pig?

D) Ah, I love food. Middle Eastern food is a favorite. Italian, Chinese, Ethiopian... and there's something to be said for a great burger. I'm always on the hunt for the perfect one.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My best friend, my wonderful, big, loud Irish family, natural beauty, a good book before bed, an occasional change of scenery, and creative expression.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Love. Whether I can make it in this world. Why creativity and money can't coexist in my life. And, as cliche as it may sound, why I'm here.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Do you really care about the typical? Why don't you ask me out for a nice, atypical Friday night?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The pictures on here (except for one) are a little old... and I'm thinner now. But I'm sort of afraid to post thinner pictures of myself, because 1) I'm still not exactly "slim" and 2) I've sort of used my larger size as an asshole-repellant. I'm worried that sexier pictures would attract more assholes... I know it's kind of silly.
You should message me if
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You made it this far. You’re unusual and you’d like to be appreciated for it. You like what you read. You’re interested in “the real thing”...