My absolute best matches.. friends, romantically or otherwise, are with those who can really laugh at themselves, & not take life to seriously.
Rarely am i not in control.(don't worry i'm harmless..unless..) With that said, why not keep it at ten?
If you're referred to as bashful, timid, shy or any variant, i'll more than likely be the hammer that 'cracks your shell' if you will.. If however you are equal parts hammer, equal part extrovert, i'm all about 'sharing the light'. '10' is usually my destination, meaning, whether i'm sitting on my Brooklyn stoop with a bangin rum punch, or in a three piece suit dining at Per Se, i'm having a DAMN good time.

I have my masters in Women's abnormal psychology/sexuality & work as a commerical photog/fine art photog. I also run an adolescent peer support group for LGBTQ youth.
I'd say i'm one of the few blessed enough to do what i love for a living. So. i'd say i'm
building -definitely going for the good life.
achieving-professionally i've had a good ride. On to the next!
evolving-growing up is pretty fly.
maintaining-never compromising core values, while always looking to 'maximize' the experience.

having/giving my opinion.
listening. (sometimes)
giving advice/telling you what to do (whichever you prefer)
Being a motivating, supportive friend.
starting a party.
NOT taking myself too seriously.
...& i've been told my...... is priceless.

I'm usually telling jokes/acting a fool(in good taste of course..) (well sometimes...)(well......) So my sense of humor, definitely.
as far as anything else.. i mean, i'm Black.. lmaooo

F A R to much good stuff out there to even begin to list. i enjoy a good read, particularly a biography/autobiography. indies are the best, followed by foreign film, though i live for a suspense thriller. television.. i'd much rather be outside..well, maybe a little Mad Men, Daria, Blackbooks(British Seinfeld)& yeah Seinfeld lmao & music, i'll just say i'm Jamaican by association so raggae is definitely where i get my life.
Food for me is like sex.
I want it all.
all of the time.(spicier the better)
...if you can cook?? you'll have a best friend, drinking buddy or wife for life :D

endless acts of randomness.
loads of laughter.
great friends.
great food.
great love.
my deep Brasilian tan in the summer (don't hate!)
cold rainy nights (NOTHING but good comes from these)
dark liquor & strawberry ice cream.

(fuck six eight is my favorite number lmaooo)

self improvement.
self awareness.
community.
honest impressions.
how to con someone into doing my laundry.
...where the next party is! (gotta have that balance)

any/everything or absolutely nothing

i like to start from the back..

you have a wickedly vibrant sense of humor, (or at the very least, are able to handle one)
&/or you're just a really dope lady.