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32 Santa Rosa, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 11:28am
Asian, White, Other
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am Kyle - hear me roar.
I am a man of many complexities and simplicities all wrapped up in a healthy body of flesh and bones. I would say my interests are always changing, but playing music or making some kind of art always remains. As well as my love for the outdoors and traveling.
I dare not declare who I really am for only then will I fail at being my true self.
Things that I know I am not: mean, violent, selfish. Things that I know I aspire to live up to: being present and intentional, being compassionate and open minded, and being in front of a plate of incredible food.

Something else I don't do: keep up with modern day slang and text talk. My slang was imprinted in the 80's and 90's and that is primarily the way in which I communicate. A time before lol, lmfao, ty, omg, brb, yolo, swag, ratchet, and all that other stuff I find myself having to constantly look up to understand.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work in mental health social rehab. Psychological thinky stuff. Also a lot of babysitting kinda stuff too. Ha!

I love music and love playing guitar. I play music in bands, various bands over the years, yet as much as I do love performing, I tend to definitely spend more of my energy in the writing and creation parts of the musical process.

I want to build a tiny home. I like what people are doing with small living spaces.

I will be traveling to Thailand from March 31st to April 23rd.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
keeping up with the changes
ducking the punches
crisis triage
being nice
keeping calm
lending a hand
picking neighborhood flowers
hanging out with kids
hanging out with cats
hanging out with any animal actually
breaking rules
getting distracted
absolute concentration
being serious
being ridiculous
being mysterious
being whimsical
being morbid
being real
being true to myself
just being
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
most often it is my eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like the kinds of books, movies, shows, and music that excite me, or make me think, however thinking excites me, so I guess I just like being excited...and thinking...

Food also excites me. I'm excited right now thinking about it...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I am pretty sure i would need more than six parts of my body to stay alive so I am not sure this question is answerable.
if i were to speak basic human needs id say water, food, a shelter, people to care for, music to play and hear, and warmth both emotional and physical.
if I were to speak to the material world, I would say, bleh next question.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
something, and then something else, and then another thing, then a series of things, then a few other things, then nothing, then more things... I just keep thinking about things.. I enjoy the nothing moments perhaps the most because I feel clear, not going here and not going there. just being here, and feeling clear. I try to cultivate more times when I am thinking about nothing. it makes all the somethings actually mean something.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Squish the "a" over and make it atypical and now we're talkin!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies is the main reason I have trust issues.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Well seeing as most girls on here are not the first to initiate a conversation, I don't even think an answer for this question is appropriate. If you're interested and you're the type to write a dude first, then please, be my guest :) otherwise I'll probably write you if I'm interested.