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31 Santa Rosa, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
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Asian, White, Other
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You know there is said to be only one photograph of Frederic Chopin in existence, and in that photograph he's kind of scowling. This is the only picture people have of him, and they form their opinion of who he was based on one photograph. One moment in time. A scowly crotchety old man. But this one photograph can in no way capture his true essence; what his smile was like, his laugh, or any other expression he ever had on his face that day, or the day before, week before, year before, decade before. The dude was a complex living thing. Just as we all are (Some more than others...zing!), so it seems to me so arbitrary, or rather hopelessly limited to capture something in one snap shot.

That's kind of what it feels like when writing this self summary. It's a picture of who I am on this day, whatever mood is governing where I'm coming from right now is only one of so many. I could fall into the easiest method and just shit out a bunch of inflated self reflections shown under nice, soft gold and red lights to make all their warts and blemishes disappear. I dunno, sounds tempting...meh... Sounds self indulgent actually.

Take note right away, that I'm not a judgmental person at all, and if you love nothing more than to write about yourself, that is totally cool with me, and If you're rad I'm definitely interested in reading about you!

I do not project my world view onto others, nor do I wish them to feel judged by me being different, or expressing my opinion. My only expectation is that you have that same capacity to be understanding and we're cool.

I like to enjoy life and be a goof, but I can also be very serious. I am dualistic in that I truly feel connected to both the pessimist and optimist philosophical stances. I can be funny and on point and I can be off base completely. I am pleasant to people at all times and rarely do I get into heated situations. I've never been punched in the face. Maybe I deserve one one of these days, ha!! however I believe at least 85% of punches to the face are probably deserved or instigated in some way, so if I haven't been punched yet, I haven't deserved one yet. This says a lot about who I am, and you should know this. Because the other 15% (by the way these numbers are completely arbitrary) of punches are on people were seen as vulnerable or weak and were taken advantage of. It's horrible but this is very much the life of young boys all the way through adult hood. You either fight because you wanna, or you fight because you haveta. I'm one of the few men who can humbly say that I've not ever had to fight for either of those sides... Yet.

I would enjoy much more having a dynamic conversation with you about who we are and what we are about together!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
residential counselor doing social rehab therapy at a group home in santa rosa. basically keeping people out of trouble because they lack the ability not to get into it. it's very rewarding, eye opening, and hilarious every day I come into work.

I work at a facility that is client centered and humanistic, which are quite rare to see in mental health, because most facilities are behavior mod formats, which is kind of outdated, and not proven to be the most successful way to help someone manage their mental health disorders. I am proud to do the work I do for the company I work for

I play music in some kind of a punk rock band; not really sure how to describe it tho. The Marked Men meets Elvis Costello meets Rush meets Miles Davis. Ha! HOWEVER LET THIS BE KNOWN: I am definitely not a band dude. I don't walk around town looking like one of those guys that is "probably in a band" haha! There's a part of me that revels in not being able to be pegged.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
keeping up with the changes
ducking the punches
crisis triage
being nice
keeping calm
lending a hand
picking neighborhood flowers
hanging out with kids
hanging out with cats
hanging out with any animal actually
breaking rules
getting distracted
absolute concentration
being serious
being ridiculous
being mysterious
being whimsical
being morbid
being real
being true to myself
just being
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
most often it is my eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like the kinds of books, movies, shows, and music that excite me, or make me think, however thinking excites me, so I guess I just like being excited...and thinking...

Food also excites me. I'm excited right now thinking about it...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I am pretty sure i would need more than six parts of my body to stay alive so I am not sure this question is answerable.
if i were to speak basic human needs id say water, food, a shelter, people to care for, music to play and hear, and warmth both emotional and physical.
if I were to speak to the material world, I would say, bleh next question.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
something, and then something else, and then another thing, then a series of things, then a few other things, then nothing, then more things... I just keep thinking about things.. I enjoy the nothing moments perhaps the most because I feel clear, not going here and not going there. just being here, and feeling clear. I try to cultivate more times when I am thinking about nothing. it makes all the somethings actually mean something.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
making sure I don't stay up too late, because I have to work at 6:30 the next morning. however i do make exceptions and am willing to suffer the consequences of sleep deprivation, however I don't make it a habit usually
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies is the main reason I have trust issues.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Well seeing as most girls on here are not the first to initiate a conversation, I don't even think an answer for this question is appropriate. If you're interested and you're the type to write a dude first, then please, be my guest :) otherwise I'll probably write you if I'm interested.