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31 M Santa Rosa, CA

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Asian, Native American, White, Other
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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you know, every few months or so I read my self summary and I think, what the hell am I even trying to say?

The concept of a self summary, at least for me, is a bit of a challenge. especially when it finally comes down to writing it out for another person to read and judge.

Who am I? And how do I do this honestly? Honestly, I don't know.

I would say that to some people I'm shy, to some people I'm not at all, in fact to some people I couldn't be farther from shy. Sometimes I'm quick witted and on point, and sometimes I can't think of what I want to say.

Generally I am more of an introverted type, but then I play in a band, so here I am kind of obligating myself socially even when my default way of being seeks no attention whatsoever. I just more than a default, I suppose.

I have strong beliefs about relationships, and I find myself never settling for less. Which means I also find my self alone, a lot. haha! I would rather that than continue seeing a person that I know isn't what I truly want. This being said, I do also love connection - I am a giver, a lover, and a damn good lover at that, and that has gotten me into trouble in the past. leading people on, letting myself be led on. I suppose we all experience these things in our lives some time or other, it's how we learn how to treat ourselves better and ipso facto treating others better as a result.

I believe that the true essence in an intimate relationship is sexual, and the quality of a relationship can always be boiled down to how well the two people match up chemically, and sexually.

I do not believe that a relationship should become stale and habitual, and devoid of sexual fervor, because it is in these moments that two people ascend to a completely empathetic, and open place that they can take in aspects of life that are otherwise missed while we are busy putting up social and personal defenses to protect ourselves from the psychosocial debris coming at us at all times.

This is not to say that my head is made of meat and all I want is the pussy. That couldn't be further from the truth. I could never love, and be with a person that I do not respect, admire, look up to, understand, find intelligent, funny, and so much more, but I could also never be with someone that I did not believe to be the most beautiful, sexy, delicious.

as for my more earth based self

My interests fluctuate, but generally I like the wild, I like everything to do with music (playing, learning, listening), I like funny things, I like deep things, I like off the wall things, I like, I like learning new things, I like sacred things, I like profane things, I like helping, and I like eating.
What I’m doing with my life
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residential counselor doing social rehab at a group home in santa rosa. basically keeping people out of trouble because they're too crazy not to get into it. it's very rewarding, eye opening, and hilarious every day I come into work.

I work at a facility that is client centered and humanistic, which are quite rare to see, most are behavior mod formates, which is kind of outdated, and not proven to be the most successful way to help someone manage their mental health disorders.

I love the work that I do, because I enjoy providing safety and understanding. I fault no one for sucking at life. life is fuckin rough, man.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
keeping up with the changes
ducking the punches
crisis triage
lending a hand
picking neighborhood flowers
hanging out with cats
breaking rules
saving animals
being serious
being ridiculous
being true to myself
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes probably
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like the kinds of books, movies, shows, and music that excite me, or make me think, however thinking excites me, so I guess I just like being excited...and thinking...

Food also excites me. I'm excited right now thinking about it...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I am pretty sure i would need more than six parts of my body to stay alive so I am not sure this question is answerable.
if i were to speak basic human needs id say water, food, a shelter, people to care for, music to play and hear, and warmth both emotional and physical.
if I were to speak to the material world, I would say, bleh next question.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Boycott the shampoo, we want the real POO!!!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
making sure I don't stay up too late, because I have to work at 6:30 the next morning. however i do make exceptions and am willing to suffer the consequences of sleep deprivation, however I don't make it a habit usually
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Raisin cookies that look like chocolate chip cookies is the main reason I have trust issues.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
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Happy hour at Stark's sounds good to you, and more for the food than the drinks