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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–70
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Mar 9, 2014
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
**Honestly I'm only on here to stalk friends I know in real life. I'm not looking for a new partner, as I'm quite happy, fulfilled, and preoccupied with my current relationships **

I'm intellectual, honest, respectful, and completely irreverent/goofy in the right company. The labels dork, scientist, and artist all apply, though I could argue that scientist-me has artist-me locked in a basement somewhere and she's desperately trying to escape. I have lived on three continents, visited four, and would love to pull that up to six one day. When people get to know me they call me things like snarky, feisty, fun, and free-spirited, but at first they tend to think me aloof and/or intimidating. I do fly in the face of gender norms, which confuses people. Think of me as a dude in a chick's body, who happens to wear make-up and high-heels when the mood strikes. I am polyamourous, body-positive, sex-positive, and kink-positive, though pretty picky about who I share the second two interests with. I'm interested in people from whom I can learn new things. I want to meet others who love to learn but don't think they're better than everyone else for trying. So there.

In all seriousness, I'm looking to connect with friendly, creative people who are also turned on by intelligent conversation, strive to live with purpose, and know how to enjoy life (not read as "love to drink heavily").
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Having fun during a prolonged, multi-year visit to the mid-west. Looking to advance my career. Trying to get back into painting and meditation. Organizing and hosting events for the local kink community, Bloomington Kink (
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Spatial reasoning, pontificating, lifting heavy things, and being aloof
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My boobs and propensity to use large words
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: On Human Nature, The Poisonwood Bible, Atlas Shrugged, Dune, Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell, Guns Germs and Steel, In Defense of Food, Ender's Game

Movies: Hackers, Titus, Wristcutters: a Love Story, Shortbus, The Big Lebowski, Spaceballs, Amélie, Labyrinth

Shows: West Wing, House, TED talks

Music: Tool, Underworld, Puscifer, Type O Negative, Peter Gabriel, Moby, Gotye, NIN, Massive Attack, Rebirth Brass Band

Food: anything from Southeast Asia, especially Thai, Indian, Japanese, and Vietnamese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Well-written books, honest and loving friends, gainful employment, a subwoofer in my car's trunk, a bike, sunny skies
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social constructs and interactions among ages, genders, cultures, races, and socioeconomic classes. My life/career goals. My loved ones. And honestly, me. I spend a lot of time trying to understand myself better and learning how to be a better, wiser person.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either hosting a party, attending someone else's, out at a bar with friends, or spending wonderful one-on-one time with my husband or paramour.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have no shame. Ask me anything.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
1) You have already met me in real life.

2) You're OK with the very high possibility that I will not respond to a message on here. I usually get on here at a rate of once per three months or so.

* If you know me in real life and want to successfully contact me, please use another social platform that I actually keep track of, like Facebook or FetLife.