I retired in December 2013 and am now spending all my time goofing off ... wondering why it took me so long!
Onto the older news story:
I've pondered a bunch about how and what to write in a self-summary on an online dating website. I've concluded that extreme candor is the best way to go. I certainly won't disclose everything here, but what I do disclose will be accurate. I'd much rather meet fewer women who fit well with who I am than many women who don't quite fit. We've all done things we've regretted or been ashamed of at times. Agreed? Somewhere along the way I realized that all that "bad" stuff is as much of me as all of that "good" stuff.
I'm 66 years old; a tall reasonably attractive white male, thin by many people's standards, who wears glasses (and detests them). I think I have a nice smile, and certainly enjoy and like the company of interesting women. I both look and act younger than my age.
I've been successful in technology and business in the Silicon Valley start-up game. People who win this lottery are both smart and lucky. I'm both of course. This success often carries a price. In my experience 50% of technology company founders and early stage executives go through at least one divorce partly caused by the stress of making a company out of nothing. I used to tell friends that I was married to my job and having an affair with my wife.
My marriage of 20+ years ended 3+ years ago when we separated. Actually it probably ended years before that but these things take time to recognize or accept. Our divorce process, final this July, has been surprisingly amicable and we are still decent friends. We have a lot of shared history together and have taken our time with the divorce.
I live in San Francisco (moved here 3 years ago from Santa Cruz) and work in San Jose 3-4 days a week. I'm contemplating "retirement" at some point, but can't imagine a life without something challenging to think about. What drew me to San Francisco is that it’s the best biggest little city I know, even with the lousy weather. And especially important is that two of my grandsons, who bring me enormous pleasure, live here.
I'm seeking a monogamous long-term relationship, although it takes time to reach that level of commitment. In the short term I'm simply interested in meeting an interesting and exciting woman, who might enjoy a walk in the afternoon, talking over coffee or a drink, maybe enjoy a bit of 420, and then enjoy a nice dinner (say Lolo 22nd Street in the Mission, or maybe the Slanted Door in the Embarcadero). After that catch a show or a band in a bar, or just head for bed with cuddling and the extras. And if we like seeing each other in the morning we could make breakfast (easiest meal too cook!) or go to say Chloe’s Café for a leisurely repast. Why would we do this? The pleasure of our company. The slow warm natural progression into deep intimacy. The long-term stuff, if it develops, will grow at its own pace, and can’t be forced.
I rarely watch television – I’m repelled by commercials, most tv “news” shows, and even many of the “quality” shows. I see television as a medium which encourages passivity. And when I do find a series I like (The Sopranos was one), I’m usually bored with it after a few episodes. I have enjoyed Bill Maher a lot – he’s thoroughly irreverent, openly praises marijuana, and is only on maybe 25 or so Fridays per year.
When I have spare time, which doesn’t seem to be all that often, I will browse the web (I’ve been involved in the WWW since 1994), read a book, or watch a favorite movie. I’m a voracious reader – maybe a book a week. Oh and I’ll see my grandkids once or more a week.
If you sense a kindred spirit here, then by all means do something to get my attention, and we’ll see if anything develops. We’ll have fun for at least one meeting. I’m warm and interesting, and very interested in who you are.