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59 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 45–70
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:28am
5′ 0″ (1.52m)
Body Type
Other, and very serious about it
Ph.D program
Strictly monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Fluently), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
(I am) a work-in-process...

Thoughtful, caring, fun-loving, comfortable in my own skin, a life-long learner, playful in child-like (not child-ish) ways, a good communicator, honest, a woman of integrity, passionate and compassionate, with the capacity to hold and appreciate paradox -- emotionally, in life, in myself and in others...complex and yet simple and straight forward...

"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-- I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference..."
Robert Frost

" Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart
and try to love the questions themselves,
as if they were locked rooms
or books written in a very foreign language.
Don't search for answers, which could not be given to you now,
because you would not be able to live them.
And the point is to live everything.
Live the question now.
Perhaps then, some day far in the future,
you will gradually without even noticing it,
live your way into the answer."

-- Rainer Maria Rilke (translation by Stephen Mitchell)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Taking it one day at a time...
Doing my best to leave the world a slightly better place
personally and professionally.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-Caring --I am passionate and compassionate
-Thoughtful discussions
-Dancing -- Salsa, Hi Life, free style...
-Taking time to enjoy the small moments, small things, and beauty that surrounds us
-Laughing -- at myself and with others
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my twinkling blue eyes
my distinctive -- and infectious -- laugh(ter)
my presence
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love indie films:
Recent faves include:12 Years a Slave; Mother of George; Beasts of the Southern Wild; Intouchables; The Past

Some other faves: Daughters of the Dust, Follow Me Home, Dirty Pretty Things, After Life, Everlasting Moments, Sugarcane Alley, Unmistaken Child, O Brother Where Art Thou, Burn After Reading

Dance: As a former performing dancer (& teacher of dance), I enjoy a wide variety of dance genres...from classical (ballet, modern, jazz) to cultural dance forms and beyond...

Music: from Coltrane, Marvin Gaye, BeBe and CeCe Winans, Celia Cruz, Carlos Santana, Fela, King Sunny Ade, Cesaria Evora, Angelique Kidjo, Gil Scott Heron, Joni Mitchell, Sade, Ofra Haza...
*** I LOVE music and am interested in exploring other musical genres/expanding my musical horizons***

Books: Wide ranging, ecclectic...have been an avid reader since childhood
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The mysteries and wonder of life
passion and compassion
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
-the richness and diversity of the human experience...of this journey we call "life"
-my friends and family
- my creative legacy...continuing, in my own small way, to make the world a better place...
-social justice
-indigenous healing and spiritual traditions
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not sure there is a "typical" Friday night...getting together with friends for happy hour, dinner, a movie, dancing (Salsa anyone?) ... or perhaps simply spending a quiet night at home
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"Ayo" means "Joy" in Yoruba of my praise names is Ayodele (literally "Joy has come home", given to someone whose presence fills the home with joy)...
You should message me if
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something you've read here resonates with you,
makes you smile, and/or piques your interest....
let's get together and get to know more about each other over a cup of tea/coffee or a glass of wine...