was my first career and my continuing interest. I also live in
Arizona, so AzDesigner was a nice fit for my OkCupid nickname. My
second career was computer software
and my third career was
commodity speculator. I also had a side career, parallel to my
first two, as real estate owner/landlord/re-modeler.
In the "Questions" area, there is an interesting one about
"daydreaming". I DO daydream
and my daydreaming is
intentional, deliberate and "nurtured". It is a part of my creative
process. EVERY advance in human knowledge, innovation, production,
engineering, arts, crafts and living standards STARTED as
somebody's daydream--including the computer you are using to view
I recently finished migrating my personal website to
and I continue updating it. I am also
compiling--off and on-- the pieces for a book about my
architectural and classic music mentor: "Paul Yaeger: An Arizona Architect
I am remodeling my own adobe residence for the second time in 30
years (I've remodeled a dozen houses over the years). It looks
fantastic in my mind but is quite a chaotic mess in the real
world....never remodel while you live in a place. I broke my own
I've considered getting a summer place in Free State Wyoming
and "snowbirding" between
. From time to time, I replay the
possibilities but have not yet committed to such a move.
about love AND sex. It is also about an attitude--do you control
your lover's every action or is your lover a free person? A truly
polyamorous person chooses freedom over control. I am polyamorous.
I prefer a non-marital relationship with a woman who reflects my
values. I respond to values that I admire, being exhibited by other
people. I LIKE having sex with and being in the company of an
intelligent, imaginative woman who can think! That is certainly NOT
promiscuous. A reluctance to being in a single "committed"
relationship does not mean that one indiscriminately jumps into bed
with just anyone.
"Polyamorous" describes people who are open to more than one
relationship. Does a parent love one of her/his children and not
the others? Sure, that is "different"--but there are elements that
are very similar. I've written some on this subject. I'm currently
"poly-single" looking for an intelligent woman as friend who might
become a primary relationship.
I do not own other people. I have no interest in "controlling" the
actions or behavior of someone else. That includes who she sees or
with whom she has dinner and/or sex. People cannot "own" other
people and attempting to do so is the root of jealousy and
At my age, living together may not be an ideal arrangement. I
expect we both have many activities that would be difficult to
abandon or integrate into living together. But that does not rule
out the possibility of a good relationship, nor does it necessarily
rule out the possibility of living together.. Also, as I commented
on some of the questions, I enjoyed raising my two sons and, even
at my age, with the right woman and circumstances, I would
seriously consider raising another family.
I've also written (a blog?) on current events and individual
sovereignty. A Subject Index to those articles is at
This quote sums up my political views very nicely: "The quest for
freedom [is] a highly introspective, personal journey of
self-discovery and enlightenment. The eradication of government is
not necessary for one to be free. To the contrary, one must first
attain freedom in order to be rid of government."