4-13-2014 I turned on the TV just now. It's the weekend so Lock Up was on MSNBC. Horrible show, but they were doing a story on an inmate serving 12 years for attempted murder. He was getting married!!! So I guess there is hope, after all. Well, maybe... :-) Steve
4-13-2014 On a lighter note, I heard a radio news story yesterday on computer dating. They said that membership is way up. Interestingly, they also reported that 30% of women have sex on the first date. !!! That has NOT been my experience! It made me laugh out loud. So which or you girls are "workin' it" that way??? Please take this as just a funny story that I'm passing along. Maybe it's the younger set, or the 50 year old women who are dating 25 year old men.
They should really have a user forum on OKC, where you can just visit with other users. I find that most users in my age range have their chat lights turned off. I don't understand that. Maybe it's too personal, or maybe they feel pressured by someone messaging and wanting a response RIGHT NOW. I have had a few nice realtime chats and I think its a good thing. A user forum, where you would have threads and community conversations, could be a nice addition to this place.
04-10-2014 I took a few weeks off from OKC. Not because of anyone in particular. I just decided that I was spending too much time shopping for a mate. Anyway, when I signed back in there was a message from someone who had just seen a note from me from a few weeks ago. I messaged her back and we exchanged numbers. We're going for coffee tomorrow and I'm looking forward to it. You've got to have friends and things to look forward to! But, as I think I've mentioned, it's pretty hard to find someone who fits into a life that has been evolving into what it is for 50 years, or so. Both ways!!! Still, I'm hopeful that one day the right one will come along and that I'll be the right one for her, too. Just thinking of that makes me smile. Goodnight.
03-18-2014 It's always the same. It's not you, it's me. I had another woman cancel a date with me this afternoon. She said that she just had too much going on in her life to meet someone new. "I'm working
through some things and don't have the energy
right now to connect with someone else." Hmmm. We talked for an hour on the phone (twice) and laughed and visited about normal stuff. Hard not to get your feelings hurt, but I suppose she was doing me a favor in the long run. I know that I shouldn't be so open in writing this, but I'm hoping you get the feeling that I'm a real person. That would be the right impression.
03-17-2014 Maybe I'm the only one, but this dating thing is pretty interesting. When I read profiles that describe qualifications for ideal mates, I realize what a tall order that is! To be someone's everything? Smarter, stronger, loyal, kind, heroic, and humble, tender. Some descriptions go on and on. Knowing that I have to break beyond simple physical attraction (nearly impossible!!) and into the zone where I can be mature, communicate well, and have things that I'm passionate about without seeming over bearing or egotistical. And I have to do all that with a short personal message, two or three paragraphs in a bio, and a few photos. I don't usually even get a message back! Strangers at Trader Joe's or the dog park are MUCH more likely to say hello back and share a brief, pleasant interaction. Maybe I'll write something new in here every now and then. Stay tuned...
02-22-2014 Lots has changed since I filled out my original profile, so I'm changing it. I'm divorced and have been on my own for about 3 years after 22 years of marriage. I've learned a lot, and dated a little. Dating is different in your 50's that it was in my 30's. Let's face it, we all have more life experience. That can be good or bad, depending on how you see it. I know that I don't want to be single for the rest of the ride. I'd like to meet someone, but understand the complexity of life, and how hard it is to find the right one, and to BE the right one. I've experienced both sides of that in the past 3 years. I'm wiser, but I still believe that love is possible. I've raised my kids, and I'm so proud of them. My daughter is graduating from high school in June and will be heading off to college. My son is 22. Most of that work is done, although it's never really done. Just ask my mom. Or yours!!! :-) So I think I'm ready to be an adult, and a friend and a partner. I'm ready for fun and adventure and a loving smile from a friendly face at the end of the day.