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34 San Francisco, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 4
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Not at all
Wants kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You don't have to read my whole profile and think of a clever message to reach out (but you should read this section at least). If you get a sense we'll hit it off in some way, send me a message.

I find meeting and connecting with strangers to be one of life's greatest pleasures. I use this site to meet people I wouldn't otherwise. I love technology when it's used to enhance human connections—not to replace them. I want to connect with you.

A very near-death experience left me with a deep appreciation for how incredible and important life is. I do my best to live boldly and precisely—taking risks, facing and thriving in uncertainty, turning failure into success. I do not want to take a single moment of life for granted.

While I am a scientist at heart, I am deeply spiritual and continue to develop my own integrative practice from many different sources; primarily buddhism, yogic science, stoicism, and theosophy.

I have been happily and ethically non-monogamous (aka polyamorous) for eight years, and it has been an endless fountain that keeps on giving, both in joy and in challenge. I am presently in relationships that will last for the rest of my life, and there is plenty of room for you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Adapting my outer life to how I want to live my inner life. I came to Cape Town from Silicon Valley after a successful twenty year career to share technology education, help grow the economy, and create new opportunities for people in South Africa. I’m otherwise making time for people that I care about, spending time in nature, and dancing like no one’s watching.

Bonus points if you understand this: my #1 love language is quality time, and the words “bodhisattva” and “tikkun olam" may tell you everything you need to know about me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Attracting the people that matter and repelling the ones that don't. Convincing people to do things they're scared of. Showing people how to feel loved and special. Being manly in all of the best ways without any of the crappy ones. Extraordinary empathy and compassion. Feeling comfortable in any setting. Building strong rapports quickly. Mind-blowing sex. Fulfilling fantasies. Saying "yes" when asked if I want to try or do something new.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My radiant smile which never stops (sometimes even when I'm supposed to stop laughing).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Power of Now, Bhagavad Gita, Blindsight, Hardboiled Wonderland and the End of the World, Urban Shaman, Yoga Sutras, Sex at Dawn, Born to Run, Way of Aikido, Holographic Universe, Zurich Axioms, Zen Mind Beginner’s Mind

I love to share my favorite things with others, so let’s save the rest for when we’re in the same room and can listen or eat together.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Earplugs, dental floss, condoms, clothing, a music player, and a backpack to put it all in. I've learned that this all I need from extensive practice.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
That a lifetime is the longest period of time we will ever experience in this body; evolving personal growth for myself and others around me; how to recreate my good fortune for others; the rapidly evolving sex and dating behaviors of our generation; the application of quantum mechanics to daily science and spirituality; how to bring my partners more pleasure. You know, the little things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I often do random playful activities with strangers, like convincing them to cartwheel with me and roll down hills or sing songs or share their ice cream with me. I secretly hope that one day a random stranger will challenge me to something fun, especially if they were inspired by someone I inspired.
You should message me if
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You want to play the deal breaker game.

You love to share with other people and understand compersion even if you've just looked up what the word means.

You don't have to sit and think of something clever or witty to say about my profile, I don't even care if you read it. If you feel like we will vibe (even just as friends), send me a message. Don't be shy. Especially if you think I'm hot.