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34 San Francisco, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 19
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
(If you're one of those flakey and unreliable Bay Area citizens, please close this window now.)

You don't have to read my whole profile and think of a clever message to reach out (but you should read this section at least). If you get a sense we'll hit it off in some way, send me a message. I talk to strangers on public transit—you don't scare me!

I find meeting and connecting with strangers to be one of life's greatest pleasures. I use this site to meet people I wouldn't otherwise. I love technology when it's used to enhance human connections—not to replace them. I don't want an Internet penpal, I want to connect with you. If you message me and I like you, I'll probably just reply with my phone number and hope that you'll use it to meet me.

A very near-death experience left me with a deep appreciation for how incredible and important life is. I do my best to live boldly and precisely—taking risks, facing and thriving in uncertainty, turning failure into success. I do not want to take a single moment of life for granted.

I am deeply spiritual and continue to develop my own practice from integrating many different sources; primarily buddhism, yogic science, and stoicism.

I have been happily and emphatically non-monogamous (aka polyamorous) for seven years, and it has been an endless fountain that keeps on giving, both in joy and in challenge.

I am both primal and cultured. I am just as natural in a sloppy carnal sex romp as I am in a classy-dress upscale event. I am unquestionably masculine and I prefer my women feminine. I especially love strong, independent women who have their own active life to cross paths with mine. I love kink as much as I love vanilla.

While I've been told that I sound high energy or intimidating in text, I am deeply grounded in person, and often hear that I am a calming presence in the room. Even shy people find me safe and easily approachable, and tell me so often.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Turning my 16 year career around and teaching it to others at General Assembly. Helping manifest Camp Grounded, the amazing summer camp for adults. Building giant tech art pieces for Burning Man and Coachella. Running with the intention of doing an ultra marathon (this is a new one).

My life's work is to constantly thrive in every moment by being the best possible human being I can, and every action I take and every activity I do feeds back into that. I try to make everything I do have a positive impact on the world, no matter how small. All of the work I do facilitates that. If you know the definitions, bodhicitta and tikkun olam may tell you everything you need to know about me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Attracting the people that matter and repelling the ones that don't. Convincing people to do things they're scared of and thank me for after. Making people feel loved and special. Being manly in all of the best possible ways without any of the crappy ones. Extraordinary empathy. Being comfortable and building rapports quickly. Mind-blowing sex. Fulfilling fantasies. Saying "yes" when asked if I want to try or do something new (but I'm usually the one doing the asking... Surprise me?)
The first things people usually notice about me
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The first thing people notice about me is my name because everyone yells it when I come into a room. The second thing everyone notices about me is my radiant smile which never stops (sometimes even when I'm supposed to be serious).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love the experience of sharing wonderful things, so I find these conversations so much more exciting when you're sitting next to a computer with Netflix, or with your iPod out, or while we're standing next to a bookshelf at a library. Let's not spoil that awesome moment by knowing it all in advance.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Earplugs, dental floss, condoms, clothing, a music player, and a backpack to put it all in. I've learned this from extensive practice.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
That a lifetime is the longest period of time you will ever experience in this body; the application of quantum mechanics to daily science and spirituality; evolving personal growth for myself and others around me; how to avoid the "second death" (Calhoun) of the human race; the rapidly evolving sex and dating behaviors of the post-industrial and post-feminist era. You know, the little things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I often do random playful activities with strangers, like convincing them to cartwheel with me and roll down hills or sing songs or share their ice cream. I secretly hope that one day a random stranger will challenge me to something fun, especially if they were inspired by someone I inspired.
You should message me if
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You want to play the deal breaker game.

You don't have to sit and think of something clever or witty to say about my profile, I don't even care if you read it. If you feel like we will vibe (even just as friends), send me a message! Especially if you think I'm hot.