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32 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:58pm
Body type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Apparently I'm an "ENFJ" personality, which pairs best with an "INFP" or an "INTP" but truth be told, I'd like a little mix of E and I cause I'd really like to shut up and listen to someone else talk for a change 😺

What keeps me going....

Moments of uncontrollable laughter

Road trips

Cotton candy clouds

Rediscovering old music

Sunsets and rises

Anything cooked in my cast iron skillet

Seeing the beauty in every moment

Charles Bradley

Giant trees

Sucking at playing my banjo

Meeting strange strangers

Moutain views

Counting how many weeks instead of days that go by between fill ups in my car now that I bike to work.

Banana ice cream

That moment when it FINALLY rains

Seeing mount Tam from the crest of the hill on MacArthur when I'm biking in to work

Those winding roads that twist through

Discovering a new ingredient

Rocky beaches

That perfect glass of water after a long workout

Live music

Telling stupid stories

Trying that new cocktail

Learning something new

Clear stary nights

Appreciating the little things

Climbing hills in a harder gear than I did a few weeks ago

Getting it

Perfecting that recipe

Finding that new hiking trail

Revisiting my old neighborhood in west oakland to feed my pack of stray cats

Seeing what color the bay is today

Finding that new food dive

Experiencing different cultures, dispositions and personalities with an open heart and open mind
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Moved out here from DC almost 2 years ago for a job that morphed into another job, 2 restaurant openings and a million hours worked later, I've transitioned into a more normal pace since August. My newfound free time has been much enjoyed. I've been taking more time to travel, drove up to z Lake in z Crater up in Oregon a couple weeks ago and I've got a trip to Columbia (South America) early next year for my brother from another mother's wedding.

Also very important, I got the hell outta Frisco. No more overpriced rent, ridiculous parking tickets and walking 10 blocks to get home after you park your car. Life is so much better over here in Z Land of Oaks.

I just started volunteering at, "Berkeley Humane" animal shelter.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Singing loudly and poorly while driving
Making lemonade out of lemons

Throwing the "do not park between 8am and 4pm" construction signs into a pile on the side of the road away from where anyone has parked their car when I come home at night so I can sleep in the following morning! 😺


Driving with my knees, I can make it all the way from the Great Highway on Ocean Beach to the exit to my brothers house in San Jose without using my hands!😺
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you dig my profile lets just meet in person and find out 😺
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
It should be noted that I ditched having a tv just over 7 months ago and I don't plan on purchasing one again, occasionally I still watch some Netflix on my laptop 😺

Anything Stephen King, The Passage, Game of Thrones (both book and tv), The Office, Louis C.K. , Its Always Sunny, All music except country but I do love bluegrass, lotta soul music and classic rock ( Otis, sabbath, monk, KRS-1, JLHooker, Didley, Queen, Gogol bordello, Toubab Krewe, Bela Fleck, Jack White, Neil Young, Ella, Louis, Cash, I go all over the board. ) Star Wars, Wes Anderson, Alfred Hitchcock, the recent batman movies, Step Brothers, Old School, Roots, Eternal Sunshine, God Bless America, Goon, Super, A Beautiful Mind, The illusionist, The Inside Man, Love Actually.......... The list goes on and on, but I think you get the idea 😺

As far as food goes, I love it all. I'm always looking to try new things and love exploring ethnic cuisine.

I still do not own a tv and I am quickly approaching my 2 year anniversary of quitting playing video games, HOORAY!😺
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Great food from all around the world
Good people to share it all with
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What my next tattoo will be and what country I will get it in.

Traveling to places like Turkey, Thailand, Italy, Morocco, Croatia, Peru and New Zealand. (I've decided that next year I will start traveling to 2 new countries every year.

Going on new adventures such as hang gliding, horse riding and sky diving. This world has so many interesting experiences to offer, I want to indulge in as many of them as possible.

Will I ever become decent at playing this Banjo?

Kunta Kinte........ My neighbors have a puppy that's always misbehaving and I constantly hear them scolding him with his name every day, "TOBY, TOOOBY, come here boy" maybe one day I'll scream out the window "MY NAME IS KUNTA KINTE!" 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is nothing typical about a Friday night for me. I still work most Friday nights, but they are a hell of a lot easier to get off when I need to now a days haha To tell you the truth, being off on a Tuesday beats the hell out of being off on a Friday or Saturday IMO. You never have to deal with massive crowds of people in bars and long waits in restaurants. Seriously, try walking into Brown Sugar Kitchen on a Saturday morning, getting a table immediately and stuffing your face full of Shrimp n Grits less than 10 minutes later, not on this planet... but on planet Tuesday...............................😺
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The final battle in 8 mile makes my eyes a little watery....... 😺🙈
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you don't need to send a million messages back and forth before meeting up. I love to chat and have no problem forming long thoughtful e-mails. But the reality is that all the time spent typing messages back and forth doesn't mean anything if you don't click in person. Lets not waste each others time. 😺

If you like kitties 😺

Doggies are good too! 😺