Character, integrity, sincerity, honesty, humor, long walks on the beach, etc. Well, if you are actually looking for a real relationship, who doesn't want those things? ( granted it depends on the beach, the company, and the weather!)
All those things are VERY desirable, I think it comes down to finding someone who has "interesting and unique personality traits" but we love them anyway because we understand that underneath it all there is a good, kind, sincere, honest, humorous person with integrity.
If you have not guessed, I try to be a realist. I am 49. I'm not going to magically change into something else. Mind you, I'm nearly perfect "as-is". I'm not nor would I expect you to ever change to become some "perfect man" for me. There is perfection in imperfection. I'd be with you because I enjoy you...as you are. I would hope you feel the same way. I believe that's how it ought to be.
Me? Clever, witty, out-of-the-box thinker in an in the box world, loyal, generous, sincere, kind, a bit introverted (but not shy), silly, ridiculous when necessary (which is frequently).
You? Be you 24/7/365...that's all. Being generally wonderful from head to toe would be a plus! As would a trust fund!
My interests include going places and doing stuff ( we have so much in common already!) but staying in and cooking for/ with someone with a bottle of wine is always nice. ( wait that sounds too much like those " long walk on the beach" lines)
I enjoy a wide variety of activities and am always willing to try new things or go new places...as long as it doesn't involve falling out of an airplane or injecting ink under my skin. The shore, NYC , Philly, or "Points Unknown?" Let's go! I also enjoy all kinds of music, shows, festivals.
I enjoy my kids and value the time that i get to be with them. They are all becoming more independent and therefore so am i. Anyone with children knows that parents have obligations in our lives that can sometimes encroach upon our "together time" ....stuff happens. Understanding and flexability are important. Although i am a mom of three, I do maintain a good balance in my life and am available to spend time with someone special.