Books come below, but check out Karmic Management by Michael Roach
(more about him below);
but since I just watched a very wonderful gay film and this guy
keeps coming up as being really amazing, starting out of
First off, the movies with Matthew Montgomery - he is an awesome
gay actor, and his films he is in are inspiring and not the
cliche's that can also be really fun and sweet, but he takes it to
another level...check him out!
Saving Grace (I think I was a hot sexy lesbian cop cowboy in a
Justified (I think I wanted to be a hot Marshall in a former
In Plain Sight,
Sex and the City
(Like Carrie, I believe in Love...and integrity...and humour)
and few others you'll have to ask me about :)
Okay, those are obviously thematic. I do like hiking in boots near
rivers and chapparal alot.
Buffy, Firefly (woo hoo, a space western), Dollhouse, Angel - yes,
a shameless Joss Whedon fan - he always writes about empowerment,
justice, virtue, The Powers That Be, and nobility of honor; things
that inspire me to be my best. I try to be my best. And if you
caught an episode or two of Buffy, and think its about vampires,
watch them back to back on Netflix, and a deeply spiritual,
humanistic, inclusive, very pro gay/lesbian, mythological arc of
inspiration, empowerment, and love and compassion will likely make
you a fan for life, and while you will laugh, you will love the
characters, and you will be deeply moved, and I think even changed
for the enrichment of the profound journey "dressed up as an
apparent show about a girl who slays vampires"; All of Whedon's
shows are similarly subversive works of humanity and
Also in the Whedonverse:
A late discovery this year would be the surprisingly smart, funny
as fuck, yet sweet and with a good soul and a texture of
transgender specific morality (how did this happen on CBS?), the
series How I Met Your Mother (many Joss Whedon
producers/writers/actors in the mix here); going on association
with the Awesomely talented and Very Gay and Smart Neil Patrick
Harris, Prop 8 - The Musical, and the webmovie: Dr. Horrible.
When people think I'm not with it (listening to old dead composers
mostly) I point out that I am not missing pop-culture and in fact,
I could probably teach an academic class how that Buffy is as great
an artwork as the Symphonies of Beethoven (which I really love -
but only on period instruments - the Hanover Band does a bang up
job.) Anyway, I point out that I am very well balanced in my
And Law and Order, (there's still somethin about that justice
Movies; part I: Trick (hey, I'm a pianist, one of my favorite gay
movies; and with both Tori Spelling AND Coco Peru!); The Broken
Hearts Club (that Timothy Olyphant DOES get around, huh?), Muriel's
Wedding (always inspired by the triumph of overcoming adversity),
and lots of Australian Films....like the wide open spaces...What's
Up Doc - Madeline Kahn's debut, and a non-stop laugh fest about the
perverted twisted world of a Musical Archeologist, also known
officially as Musicology. the ology of Music. Music as a science?
"That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard" (Judy Maxwell). Also how
can you not love Buck Henry (very gay and very smart) who wrote
this amazing screenplay, and it's easy to fall in love with his
exchange "Emerson....I adore anyone who adores Emerson....I adore
anyone who adores anyone who adores Emerson....your turn...."; and
Eunice Burns/Madeline Kahn schrilling "You call this a honeymoon?"
I am probably a combination of both Judy Maxwell and Howard
Banister, so I can't help it....and I'd love to have know the late,
great Madeline Kahn. We all miss her.
And just recently re-watched Brokeback Mountain and was blown away
.... it is amazing we are still on page 1 of that struggle with
Deserving its own paragraph, Absolutely Fabulous and French and
Saunders. And French and Saunders "Mamma Mia" which immediately
disqualifies me for the OGT awards, since I can't even imagine
sitting through the original that the parody, well, parodies. I'm
sure I have upset alot of people now.
And some of my other favorites and inspirations: Queer as Folk
(helped me realize how rich the gay community can be), Pink
Flamingos (mostly all of John Waters with Divine, and Serial Mom),
the 2009 version of Battlestar Galactica; one of the best "coming
out" genre book: The Movie Lover. Back to films, hmm, The Year of
Living Dangerously (electricity when Sigourney Weaver and Mel
Gibson - before he was a schmuck - caught each others eye...ever so
romantic...and yes Linda Hunt getting the Academy Award for her
portray of a guy, awesome), Gallipoli, The Last Picture Show,
(amazing...Peter Bogdanvich is ubertalented) - and relatedly Barry
Lyndon - Staney Kubrick and one of the most stunning Langsam
artistic FILMS ever made - and no matter what we think now, Ryan
O'Neil was more than a sexy musicolgist and eye candy (and very
very funny in What's Up Doc), but truly a talented actor. Also yes,
going on free association, Paper Moon, also amazing.
Also mainstream favorites are Smallville (thought season 10 was
lame duck "season"; season 8 with Doomsday would have been a GREAT
place to end - depth of writing, character, and c'mon, you just
have to love Chloe Sullivan (or want to be her), and Damages (note
that Season 2 has that Olyphant guy, again...go figure).
Movies: Again, Brokeback Mountain, Milk, both very moving, and also
very important and very sad, too. Some recent new favorites for
their own peculiar ways: Easy A, (just so funny..and
sweet...talented actress...always a sucker for a strong smart
female lead, or an underdog that makes good) and Thor....all about
nobility, honor, integrity, things dear to my heart.
And a list to round things up:
Tigerland, The Home At The End Of The World, David's Birthday,
Latter Days, Jeffrey, Elizabeth, The Living End, Joy Ride,
Dangerous Liaisons, The Adventures of Priscilla Queen of the
Desert, Rescue Dawn (totally blown away), Southland Tales, The
Buddha, and by association, The Matrix (great score, and Keanu, how
can you go wrong?), and finally despite the Scientology mishap, Tom
Cruise in Top Gun and The Last Emperor; the latter he proves he is
truly talented, and cinematographically, the film is
OK, and my all time possibly favorite film - Muriel's Wedding; for
so many reasons....but that's what a date is for, right?
And I just stumbled on (in case its one of your favorites as well,
and you just cant help to laugh and smile: -
I also like watching rowing (did some rowing in school), swimming
and water polo
I'm forgetting some things, but they'll come later...that's what a
date is for, right?
Too many to list here, but some dear ones:
Tales of the City...I keep hope I will get to meet Mrs.
Eric Berne wrote some awesome books on how to figure out this life
thing. (If you haven't read "What Do You Say After You Say Hello -
The Psychology of Human Destiny")
So did some amazing spiritual teachers like The Dalai Lama, Michael
Roach (check out The Eastern Path To Heaven), and Dame Edna. Yes,
Dame Edna. On that note, Jane Wagner and Lily Tomlin have done a
lot for us to both laugh and learn and grow spiritually...all at
the same time. Alot.
Music...that's a huge sweet topic. I'll go with performers for
$1000: Glenn Gould, Trevor Pinnock, Wendy Carlos, Anthony Newman.
Simon Standage and his The Solomon Quartet (You don't know him? He
turned the Four Seasons back into a true Masterpiece that is as
good as Bach!). And the greats of the past - Alfred Cortot,
Furtwangler, Fritz Reiner (Am I the only one who thought he looked
like Grandpa, from the Munster's, on the cover of his recording of
Ein Heldenleben?), and the great Billie Holiday and friends. And I
can't leave out the Swingle Singers (The Swingle Singer's rendition
of Mozart's Magic Flute and The 1812 Overture will make you laugh
and bring tears to your eyes)....my iTunes is a sweet lovin'
paridise. 340GBs and counting of hi-res Apple Lossless
Oh yes, and MINA, the Italian singer; if Edith Piaf was the
antecedent, MINA was the consequent! She is amazing! You can hear
she is singing about great love even though I don't know Italian!
She deserves her own paragarph!
Classy Books: Mary Renault's Alexander Trilogy - Fire from Heaven
and The Persian Boy. I want to go to Greece; a past life thing for
sure. And Yes, when I was younger and very idealistic, I did read
Plato and Homer from the Loeb Classical Library editions...and for
a NY minute I tried to learn ancient Greek.....I realized working
out triple counterpoint combinations in Bach were more my
Theres a theme in all of this I think! Mostly anyway.
Food.....can be pretty ordinary stuff....like great Italian food,
but the best part is the dinner companion. Tacos with a buddy by
the shore, in wetsuits after tumbling in the surf, with sand still
on our chest and in our hair (hopefully not in the tacos)....a home