Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I usually prefer to meet a woman in person and share a cup of
coffee or a bite to eat and find out about each other in a more
straight forward manner. You can find out much more about a person
face to face than in a written summary. I understand the idea of
summarizing in this context is to help focus the search. I have a
background in philosophy and psychology, though I don't practice
either professionally. I get too wordy for these types of
"assignments". I've lived a life. Filled with adventures, and the
mundane. I've been happily ecstatic, and morosely sad and every
emotion in between. The emotions have been appropriate to the event
or occasion I experience. I experience life. Both directly and
vicariously. I do what we all do. At least in my experience. There
are no uninteresting people. Everyone has a story about their life.
When you tell your story to a person, how they hear it, "see" it,
and unfortunately judge that story says more about the person
listening, than it does you. So, while not having said much about
me, and my day to day activities and lack thereof, maybe I revealed
too much. Yeah, I do get too wordy, but I think I completed the
assignment enough for now.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work from home. A telecommuter for a large company. I work to
live. Shelter, food, pay bills. The necessary stuff. My work is not
who I am.
I like to find new music. Prefer to hear/see music live as it
happens. Professional sports are not my thing. The most exciting
sporting event was watching the Chula Vista little league win the
championship. I regularly watch the UCONN Huskies women's
basketball team. More about the history than the game.
Politically I am a liberal,not a progressive, some might say a
radical. I watch C-Span. All three channels. On the weekend too
when there is nothing else to do. Also UCSDTV.
I have been scuba diving, liked it a lot, but haven't gone
I take photos. Not a photographer really, More of a shutterbug.
With digital photos if you take enough, you are bound to take at
least one half decent one that you can then edit and make into a
Okay, that's enough for this one for now...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being in the "in be-tweeness" ala Martin Buber in the Life of
Relationships. both long term and transitory.
Sometimes too good.
The first things people usually notice about me
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lately when I've been walking around OB and elsewhere wearing my
sunglasses looking for a photograph, people have stopped me and
called me Dude, or The Dude. So much so that I had to Google it and
find out what they meant. I finally bought the video of "The Big
Lebowski" and found out what they meant. Not entirely sure it is a
compliment. I liked the film. It was humorous. I laughed loudly a
time or two. Coincidentally I am of Polish decent. I used to bowl
in my youth. And while I do dress casually when I walk around OB, I
like to think I don't dress quite THAT casually.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don't read enough books. I used really like to, years ago. Then I
got caught up in the political, environmental, and social
blogs/websites that take up more of my reading time. My sister and
a good friend tell me I would like the author Clive Cussler. So
some time ago I went and bought "Arctic Drift" but haven't read it
yet. Movies? Well I canceled my subscription to Netflix because I
had a movie sitting on my counter almost a year I never watched. I
do like to go out and watch a movie. I think the last one i saw was
"Red" Not a Oscar contender but it was fun. While I enjoy the TV
channels above under "What I am doing with my life" (I like
channels that I can learn, passively, from) (now I see that entry
doesn't fit there too well does it?) I love good writing and acting
for TV shows. The majority of USA Networks shows. Some Sci Fi
shows. The History Channel, Discovery Channel some of the shows are
good (although they have destroyed much of what was good about
those channels with pseudo science and other shows that are the
antithesis to what the channels name implies) . Travel Channel
Anthony Bourdain. I have to say, I abhor 99% of "reality TV. I do
like the Amazing Race, because I love to travel, but otherwise
(whatever happened to Lonely Planet on the Travel Channel"?) Loved
Boston Legal, The West Wing. Enough about TV. largely it is
contributing to the downfall of civilization. Music, I said above,
prefer it live and a pretty wide variety. I like to dance. No. Not
a certain type of dance. Although I wouldn't mind learning swing or
zydeco steps. I just kind of do my own thing. I don't think I
embarrassed any women I have danced with. The music I have found
out about or seen live many people don't seem to know. Although I
recently went to see Melissa Ethridge who you probably know.
Not a huge fan of the idea of eating bugs.
Don't like certain veggies.
Cuisines? Have tried or will try almost anything. All sorts of
venue's/ restaurants from street food to upscale. I savor food, as
I do sex.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my five senses and my imagination.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Hmm, Well, being a single typical guy I suppose the honest thing to
say here would be sex. I'm glad to see they don't have a lot of
sexually based questions here. it should be obvious everyone enjoys
sex. Now I do believe people should be comfortable talking about
sex freely and without inhibitions, no need to go into it all here.
If a person can't express what they enjoy during sex but before sex
actually takes place, how do they expect their partner to know what
they enjoy most? In my experience, well, we'll go into that at
another more appropriate time...
But, that is just a jumping off point for other things when I am
satiated for the time being.
I think about others. My thinking is outer directed. Sometimes to a
fault. Not enough self reflection I suppose like many of us.
I had to stop being such a bleeding heart and investing in 'causes"
that are near to my heart. Family of course is very important. It
is the starting point for who we come to be.
I fantasize some as well though. About traveling. What I would do
If I were "king of the forest"... ! (where are you Oz?)
How I would change things.
Not too much time, but you know, while I'm in the shower...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depends. if I have been successful at finding a live event, not
just music, the local community theater, art show.
If not I'll catch up with relatives in a phone call back east or
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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oh they must be kidding. Here?
There is a reason they are "private things".
I've heard the phrase occasionally "too much information" well
these things are better left until after you get to know someone.
Everyone has something they prefer not known at the outset and
those things more often than not require some background, some
history, or explanation. Discretion.
You should message me if
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or rather NOT message me if you own pets. Are religious.
Spiritual...mmm okay, not a big believer in anything along those
lines myself. If you're idea of a good time is to "get wasted". If
you haven't graduated or have a high school equivalency diploma. I
prefer a college graduate, or a trade school. I get that not all
learning is classroom based, (see above "passive learner") but I
like to at least have someone I can converse with.
If I sound boring, don't message me. I am the way I am, and while I
like to think I can adapt, and compromise in certain circumstances,
generally people have formed their personalities in their late
teens and early twenties.
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