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Bakemann999

49 M Falls Church, VA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 31–49
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:44pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
$60,000–$70,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, and might want more
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Dutch (Okay), French (Okay), Hebrew (Okay), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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The job thing first (this is DC): I finally am where I want to be, teaching once again (Earth science now, but used to teach communication at a university). A while back I took the LONG personality test, which pegged me (accurately!) as an ENFJ--"The Teacher," a profession I love because it helps others develop their ability to lead full lives with compassion and awareness. I'm thrilled to be back in the classroom again (and on the academic calendar), with kids, trying to get something valuable done.

Work doesn’t soak up all my energy--and I have LOTS of energy.
I love to bike--you'll often find me on weekends going fast on the W&OD doing a 50-mile ride), am planning to run my first marathon soon, and enjoy being outdoors. I used to be an avid kayaker and had a small sailboat and still love any chance to be out on the water. I'm hoping to learn kitesurfing this coming summer: what a thrilling, fun sport that must be!

I also have a deep appreciation of the arts--especially music. I've played violin since 14 (started late but kept with it) and play in an excellent community orchestra. I used to perform in operettas, have sung in some excellent choirs, and studied music on a Fulbright in 1987 in Hungary (WHAT a fabulous year that was; every weekend I'd take the train in to Budapest and go to the opera and attend about three or four different musical or theater productions). I also lived for a year in Amsterdam and had a season pass to the museums and USED it, and now that I'm back in DC I enjoy going to the museums (love going to the Kennedy Center, can't get enough of the National Gallery).

Being sporty and active and in excellent shape and enjoying the arts is one thing, but I'm curious about how you think. Here's what goes on in MY head and heart: I have a special place in my heart for those who care enough to do constructive things to build a better world, not just ride it for fun and personal gain until they drop. My politics are bright pink; I detest the dog-eat-dog selfishness and shameless greed so openly practiced in America—the regressive taxation, heartless immigration policies, obscene orgies of military spending, the bailing out of banks and insurance companies while failing to protect people from losing their jobs and their homes, the gross unfairness of soaring corporate profits and unconscionable executive compensation packages and golden parachutes amid mass layoffs. We’re a country that sacrifices the health and education of our children in order to fund corporate welfare and guarantee profits at the expense of the environment, fails to honor workers with a decent living wage, turns a blind eye to disenfranchising voters, incarcerates more people per capita than any country in the world, and raids the social security fund to finance pre-emptive wars that cost trillions of dollars. America is number one at an awful lot of awful things and way back in the line on so many issues that count. I cringe, but I also try to make my voice heard loudly as someone who refuses to accept this horrible vision for our country. I criticize because I care, see the potential for improvement, and try to bring about that change, never to knock down and berate.

I'm looking for someone who delights in finding and understanding what her partner likes and then gives that in greater measure than he could ever wish: that will always be my approach to you. I'm fiercely loyal, never one to shy away from controversy or from risking and doing all to help a friend. My door is always open, and my greatest joy is bringing happiness to others, be they two or four-legged (not much experience with others). I love being outdoors, in the sun, doing some sort of vigorous activity: kayaking and cycling and hiking are favorites. Inclement weather will find me happily engrossed in reading a book, playing my violin, giving my cat a full-body massage (which he loves and needs), writing music, doing crossword puzzles, browsing in a bookstore, or enjoying a museum exhibit.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living with a sense that--however good it is--it could be both much worse and much better, which means....?
I work. I stay in decent shape--and am working to be in better shape each year. Constantly thinking of tunes and stories in the back of my mind, and when I get inspired they come busting out. In need of a muse to jumpstart a novel that began as a short story and needed to change a lot to fit a completely different form. It, too, will come busting out some day--sooner, I hope, with your inspiration.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I learn (esp. languages) quickly, love word games and am OK at them, am a demon on a bike and on rollerblades, and used to be a darned good swimmer. I have an intuitive feel for how to prepare delicious food, and I wing it almost all the time (recipes are good for giving ideas, but they usually need so much adjusting...). I make delicious hummus, baba ghanouj, vegetarian food, challah, and killer apple pies. I have an excellent sense of direction and can sing in solfeggio as well as anybody has done it, apparently. Movable Do, please.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm having a bad hair day, that I have a lot of energy (if I'm moving, I'm probably moving fast), that I'm outspoken about what I believe.

By the way, when next they notice me, I'll again be having a bad hair day. You've heard of the Lady of Perpetual Sorrows and the Lady of Perpetual Help? Well, my hair is a masculine triangulation between the two and a Hungarian curse: it's a perpetual sorrow, in need of help.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: anything Tolstoy, Hemingway, Roth, Updike, Heinrich Boll, Isabelle Allende, Coetze, Kingsolver ; Movies that involve character development and--quite often-- subtitles, and don't focus on special effects (I loved My Dinner With Andre: nothing happened, but it was a hoot!). Soft spot for old Woody Allen films (esp. Annie Hall, Manhattan, and Hannah and her Sisters). Have seen Brazil more than a dozen times--and it always has abundant insights applicable to the moment. Food: anything veggie that's prepared well or just raw; peppery but grassy and bright olive oil, olives, brussel sprouts, kale, spinach, any roasted vegetable (esp. peppers and asparagus), tomato anything, beets, goat cheese. I absolutely adore eggplant parmesan when it's done right. Salmon any way imaginable, fresh oysters, scallops, dark chocolate, sauvignon blanc, Rioja, unpeated Scotch, dark, musty rum. Music: jazz, classical--esp. Beethoven, Bach, Haydn, and Mozart (all fabulous to play as well as listen to. I get together with friends periodically to play quartets (I play violin)). I also adore good banjo playing and bluegrass: where this comes from, I haven't a clue, but the banjo has such a happy twang. I love to (swing) dance but have gotten rusty.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:
Friends and family
Music (playing and listening)
Getting away from the city into the green countryside
Summer warmth/mountains/beach
A bike--for transportation, freedom, exercise
Beauty in all its forms
Interesting ideas to knock around
Love

Using a clever accounting trick that any Congressperson would know, I count only three things, allowing me to attach three more to the list:
Delicious food
Humor
*.* (cut due to the Sequestration)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The positive: how this world didn't have to be made so beautiful: surely we're supposed to note and appreciate beauty wherever and whenever we find it and be thankful!
The negative: how greedy, nasty, dishonest people live with themselves. Whatever happened to a having a sense of shame and a conscience?
The random: how to sing in solfeggio any tunes that come to mind, and whether they're worth jotting down. I need to think more about my book.
The expected: my son, who is 10 years old and growing up so quickly (he lives with his mother in St. Maartin).
The unexpected: how to prevent my bike from being stolen (3 stolen so far in DC, despite hefty locks!). POSTSCRIPT: I recently RECOVERED one of the stolen bikes! It's one hoot of a story.
The bizarre: why so many otherwise worldly, articulate, intensely literate, and strong women curl right up when they encounter a book.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home with my cat (Spanky), relaxing, having a glass of wine, cooking something good, occasionally getting together with friends for a lovely evening of playing music, eating well, telling stories, and practicing my Hebrew and Dutch.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Depends on how well you know me. With that special someone whom I hope to find, I'd pretty much tell it all. But for here and now: I have a Mitch McConnell voodoo doll with a shishkebab skewer up its butt.
You should message me if
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you're interested. I promise to write back!