"Alas," said the mouse, "the world gets smaller every day. At first it was so wide that I ran along and was happy to see walls appearing to my right and left, but these high walls converged so quickly that I’m already in the last room, and there in the corner is the trap into which I must run."
"But you’ve only got to run the other way," said the cat, and ate it.
Someone once said, "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." What do you think?
Mitsuko Uchida & David Dubal (12/15/1985):
8 Reasons Why You May Still Be Single:
Trying to find happiness?
"Valuing happiness might lead to a focus on the self, potentially damaging social connections."
Words of Wisdom on Pain
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me--or will they? Same areas of the brain are activated when we experience social rejection or the betrayal of a loved one as when we spill hot coffee on our arm. In other words, emotional pain hurts the same as physical pain. Science has developed drugs that can alleviate, and in some cases eliminate, our physical pain. Some of those same drugs are proving helpful in eliminating our emotional pain. So the prescription for a broken heart might actually be take two Tylenol and call me in the morning. But is numbing our pain always a good thing? The more we know pain in all its varying flavors, the more we can appreciate the sensations and feelings that we like. That's the nature of contrast. If we never felt bitterness or anger, we wouldn't deeply appreciate our happiness. If we never knew fear, then we couldn't admire courage. Maybe to enjoy the beauty in our lives, we must first acknowledge and embrace our pain.
Do you need a friend? Interested in dating someone new? If you answered yes to either of these questions, maybe you've found the right guy. However, before we start messaging each other, there are two things you need to know about me.
(1) I prefer simple, introspective, rational guys, ones who don't obsess over appearances. (2) I like people who continually improve themselves (both emotionally and intellectually).
** FYI: Don't let your imagination run wild with my profile pic. I'm not a model. I'm not muscular, and I'm not into sex. I hope this admonition effectively screens out unwanted traffic.
Simple, friendly, and considerate. Avid listener.
I'm a traveler, musician, and writer—oh, and a man of impermanence with no permanent abode, who enjoys taking spontaneous pit stops along the road we call life. Continuing "this journey" alone is an option; however, it'd be more entertaining to stroll my way toward the final destination with friends.
So where's my one and only love? Maybe he (or she) isn't here; maybe he (or she) is out there passively waiting for me to cross his (or her) path. Hmm. Nah. Must resist the urge to drown myself in misconceptions.
Back in the good ol' days I was a hopeless romantic; I believed in fate, in predestined love. But after realizing the illusory nature of reality, I began to wonder why we cling to fantasies about life, love, and happiness and why we revel in things that only exacerbate our suffering.
Anyway, I don't care about fashion. I don't care whether you're into the latest trends. Dress with mismatching colors! (Just remember to bathe once in a while.)
Intellectually I enjoy learning new things, languages in particular. Right now I'm striving to assimilate Japanese, Korean, Thai, and Russian into my internal language database. I learned Mandarin as an adolescent, but I seldom discuss that part of my life. Well, if you want to know more about it, then read the following paragraph.
For three years, I slaved away in a Shangri-La prisoner-of-war camp, translating intelligence reports from English to Chinese. Sure, translating sounds kosher, but when guards are slashing your back every day with a 16-foot bull whip, gorging your mind with Mandarinistic modalities, and using your body as a perch for unruly prisoners—it transcends the simple act of expressing words in another language. Just kidding. Psst. When you send an e-mail, write QRSTZ.
Compared with most people, my definition of love is atypical. Some might call it cliché. Yeah, I know. Let me put it this way: If you live next door, I'll saunter on over. If you live across town, I'll drive. Live several hundred miles away? Again, I'll drive. In a different state? (holds breath) Greyhound. Outside the country? Ah, uh, hmm, yeah... Before booking a ticket, I'll need to tell my boss, find accommodations, compare the accident rates of several airlines, consult my psychic about an ideal departure time..
You get the point.
I'm willing to make anything work as long as we desire the same thing; besides, whatever ultimately happens between us, at least we'll have something to reflect on when we're older.
What you need to be monogamous...
In the Vetral Tegmental area of monogamous men exists a special hormone that enables them to have long-term relationships. Do you have it? I do.
1. Tom Disney, Jerry Disney, Bulldog Disney. The association between oxytocin and monogometry in Caucasian males. NEJM, 287(6), p192-197.