Do you need a friend? Interested in dating someone new? If you answered yes to either of these questions, maybe you've found the right guy. However, before we start messaging each other, there are two things you need to know about me.
(1) I prefer simple, introspective, rational guys, ones who don't obsess over appearances.
(2) I like people who continually improve themselves (both emotionally and intellectually).
** FYI: Don't let your imagination run wild with my profile pic. I'm not a model. I'm not muscular, and I'm not into sex. I hope this admonition effectively screens out unwanted traffic.
Simple, friendly, and considerate. Avid listener.
I'm a traveler, musician, and writer—oh, and a man of impermanence with no permanent abode, who enjoys taking spontaneous pit stops along the road we call life. Continuing "this journey" alone is an option; however, it'd be more entertaining to stroll my way toward the final destination with friends.
So where's my one and only love? Maybe he (or she) isn't here; maybe he (or she) is out there passively waiting for me to cross his (or her) path. Hmm. Nah. Must resist the urge to drown myself in misconceptions.
Back in the good ol' days I was a hopeless romantic; I believed in fate, in predestined love. But after realizing the illusory nature of reality, I began to wonder why we cling to fantasies about life, love, and happiness and why we revel in things that only exacerbate our suffering.
Anyway, I don't care about fashion. I don't care whether you're into the latest trends. Dress with mismatching colors! (Just remember to bathe once in a while.)
Intellectually I enjoy learning new things, languages in particular. Right now I'm striving to assimilate Japanese, Korean, Thai, and Russian into my internal language database. I learned Mandarin as an adolescent, but I seldom discuss that part of my life. Well, if you really want to know more about it, then I suppose I could elaborate a little bit in the following paragraph.
For three years, I slaved away in a Shangri-La prisoner-of-war camp, translating intelligence reports from English to Chinese. Sure, translating sounds kosher, but when guards are slashing your back every day with a 16-foot bull whip, gorging your mind with Mandarinistic modalities, and using your body as a perch for unruly prisoners—it transcends the simple act of expressing words in another tongue.
Just kidding. Psst. When you send an e-mail, write QRSTZ.
Compared with most people, my definition of love is atypical. Some might call it cliché. Yeah, I know. Let me put it this way: If you live next door, I'll saunter on over. If you live across town, I'll drive. Live several hundred miles away? Again, I'll drive. In a different state? (holds breath) Greyhound. Outside the country? Ah, uh, hmm, yeah... Before booking a ticket, I'll need to tell my boss, find accommodations, compare the accident rates of several airlines, consult my psychic about an ideal departure time..
You get the point.
I'm willing to make anything work as long as we desire the same thing; besides, whatever ultimately happens between us, at least we'll have something to reflect on when we're older.
What you need to be monogamous
In the Vetral Tegmental area of monogamous men exists a special hormone that enables them to have long-term relationships. Do you have it? I do.
Words of Wisdom on Pain
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me."
Is that really true? According to researchers, it’s not. The brain doesn't differentiate between the betrayal of a loved one and the spilling of hot coffee on your arm. Emotional pain hurts just as much as physical pain.
People try to find ways to suppress their pain or eliminate it; however, in doing so they fail to realize the beauty of its gift. That is, the more we know pain in all its varying flavors, the more we can appreciate the sensations and feelings that we like. That’s the nature of contrasts. If we never felt bitterness or anger, we wouldn't deeply appreciate our happiness. If we never knew fear, then we couldn't admire courage. Maybe to enjoy the beauty in our lives, we must first acknowledge and embrace our pain.
Getting a Ph.D. or Ed.D.
"Alas," said the mouse, "the world gets smaller every day. At first it was so wide that I ran along and was happy to see walls appearing to my right and left, but these high walls converged so quickly that I’m already in the last room, and there in the corner is the trap into which I must run."
"But you’ve only got to run the other way," said the cat, and ate it.
Someone once said, "Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." What do you think?
Mitsuko Uchida & David Dubal (12/15/1985):
8 Reasons Why You May Still Be Single:
Trying to find happiness?
"Valuing happiness might lead to a focus on the self, potentially damaging social connections."