According to the "rules" as well as my own personal experiences, a relationship that begins with the woman pursuing the man is basically doomed from the start. Does this same "rule" apply to online dating as well? I don't think anything meaningful has ever come about as a result of my initiating contact with a man...Does anyone have any thoughts about this topic?

I joined this service a couple of months ago, and I've been ruminating about the differences between OKC and Yahoo Personals. The main advantage of this service, obviously, is that it is free (although it demands a more significant time investment). Since the service is free, there seem to be a lot more people on here, and consequently a lot more possible matches.

However, it seems to me that the likelihood of actually meeting someone in person is a lot lower on OKC than on a "pay" dating service. I have come up with the following theories to explain why: 1. There are people on here who are seeing someone, but since they aren't paying anything, don't see the harm in putting a profile up. 2. It is human nature to appreciate something more if it is expensive, so people do not use this service to its full capacity.

Anyway, if you have any thoughts about this topic, I would love to hear them.