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43 M Makawao, HI

My Details

Last Online
Aug 18
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Hawaiian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Is there anyone online who's not a flake? Really over it.

Hats off to instagranniepants on Tumblr for amazing conceptual art, profound statement about how women are treated online, and a treasure trove of lyrics Zappa would be proud of.

I'm very passionate about music (public radio dj) and especially piano. Also a slew of other instruments depending on my access to them. I dream of one day finishing a book for children like my son and adults too that teaches kinesthetic and ear playing alongside theory. I also dream of creating cross genre and interdisciplinary music schools that will teach it as a holistic art beyond the boundaries of classical and popular and traditional. I'm excited about how music is an integral piece of each of our brains and human evolution.

I took my little trusty piano to LIB & BRC, so if you know what that is, we'll be off to a good start, not that it's a prerequisite. I got kicked off the big Earthharp thing, even though I was making it hum like Bach's Cello Suites... I'm just misunderstood. I play other instruments with equal intensity, it's a lifelong passion while I support myself and my son as a bodyworker.

I suppose I consider myself a merry prankster/warrior: I give myself permission to be myself, my truest, highest, brightest, sexiest self, and in doing so allow others the space to be their truest, highest, brightest, sexiest selves. I am a heart centered person of intentionality.

I care about my kid more than anything else in the entire world, and I go back and forth from SF Bay to Maui. I'm an LMT, focusing on Lomi Lomi in upcountry Maui. It's truly life changing, learning ho'oponopono and ho'omana and sharing this ancient tradition with people.

I've been called a chameleon. I guess that's better than a gecko, as geckos often loose their limbs to cats and other creatures. Not many of those back in Colorado, where I grew up.

Masculine yet feminine, yin yet yang, idealistic yet realistic, metrosexual yet good ol' boy, new-age yet old-school, analog yet digital, breakbeat yet backbeat, hipster yet dorkster, warrior yet clown... looking for a superhero goddess who transcends the normal, wants to bite deep into me and taste the nectar of inspired collaboration on many levels... comprendés?
What I’m doing with my life
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Listen to my show Thursdays 10am-2pm HST on 91.7FM KMNO Mana'o Radio Maui or iTunes: Radio:Internet:Eclectic! and streaming at
Recording and promoting my folks' amazing art & music:

Being a papa to a wonderful little boy.

Surviving on Maui while keeping my dreams and talents valid, merging my expression and my love whilst being a kick ass dad; learning nonviolent communication, mainly to work with my ex, yet also to help me with everything and everyone.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
arpeggios... being purple, obsequious , and clairvoyant...being a loving, providing father... playing piano, guitar, bass, drums, kalimba, banjo, harmonica, ukelele...tele-skiing, dancing... tech support for my parents, acting like I know what I'm talking about... facilitating community, flirting...
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm pretty loud for a quiet guy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Howdy Doodie: Man or Myth?; Ceremony For A Fat Lip (Steve Martin wrote some great ones); The Power of Coincidence, Fear and Loathing on the Campaign Trail '72... Ishmael by Daniel Quinn; The Joke's Over by Ralph Steadman; The Wisdom of No Escape; The Wisdom of Not Getting Trapped in the First Place; Using The Mind As An Ally; The Power of Intention; This Is Your Brain on Music; Renegade Nuns On Wheels; Where The Sidewalk Ends;
How To Make Money Off The Mentally Ill

I love that technology has broadened our musical world, yet I fear the language of music is dying. I dig most music, yet especially:
-Cheech & Chong when Cheech wears a tutu
-All my friends and peers, like Beats Antique, YardDogs Roadshow, Mutaytor, and all the rockstar DJ's in the mix like Ill Gates, an-ten-nae, Laura, Shawna, Sia, the list goes on... kinda getting tired of the dubstep, though guys. Whomp whomp whomp... ok, we get it.
-Very loud live acid rock from the late 60's/early 70's such as The Who, Queen, Hendrix, Bowie, Zeppelin, Stones, you know, with wailing orchestral drums and feedback. And never forget Zappa and The Mothers. Dweezil's doing a damn fine job these days.
-80's surf punk like JFA and Angry Samoans and 2 Tone Ska like The English Beat, Bad Manners, & The Specials; The Police, The Clash, and The Sex Pistols, of course.
-all those concocted electronic genres like dubstep.
-Haydn, Bach, Beethoven, Mahler, Mussorgsky, Chopin, Ravel, Rachmaninoff
-Ellington, Jobim, Coltrane, Miles, Monk, Mingus, Marsalis, Metheny, Mays; ECM (special prize if you know what I'm talking about)

Blade Runner was good. Anything by Peter Weir except that godawful Truman Show. I am also of the generation that will never forgive Lucas for the terrible screenplay and acting in the Star Wars prequels. Gimme Han and Leia any day over that shmaltz. But Episodes 7-9 have to be better. I miss the 70's. Chinatown was awesome. Steve McQueen, American Graffiti, Close Encounters...

Food: Organic/no processed crap; whole foods, free range, some raw. Monsanto rot in hell.

Kill your television. Read a book. Go for a hike. (I like Whale Wars & Nurse Jackie, though. Oh! And Foyle's War on nflix).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my son is not a thing, yet is the numero uno in my life
>5 more: music, snow (I know, wtf am I doing in HI?!), sensuality, beautiful women, childlike fun, humor, my community (festivals, etc), mad genius, my patagonia puffball parka, coconut water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
c#m #9 #5, a flat maj13 flat 5, G7#5, Amaj9, Fmaj7#11, Cm flat5/F, Bdim, Ravel, I can't get Ravel's Piano Works out of my head... where can I find a piano? a soulmate with a piano? maybe she has a Bechstein...

How I can create a sustainable lifestyle, sharing music, how I can be closer to my son, find a real partner who will accept me for who I am and co-create with me on a deepest level possible?

I wonder why we're such a bipolar society. I wonder why the Right wants to win and the Left wants to be right. I could write several theses on this shit, really.

Then, there's women and all their astral bliss... I wonder why we are a culture that sanctions violence and proscribes sensuality. Yeah, I'm waiting for women to rule the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I used to wonder why everyone stays in on Friday night. That was when I was hitting the underground parties all the time, before I had a kid or before I knew what was important. These days... wishing I had a kind, sweet, adorable woman to snuggle with or go out with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Absurdist humor seems to be part of my blood. Monty Python, Ralph Steadman, Hunter S. Thompson...I listened to wayyy to much of Steve Martin's stand-up albums growing up. God, I wish he were still funny. Robin Williams too. Those guys stopped doing drugs and it was all over... ramBLIN!

Sometimes I have an almost adolescent fear of not fitting in with the cool kids... but I think I'm taking a break from the festival season this year.

and, I'm a lipstick lesbian.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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Attraction counts and you don't mind weird without crazy (or maybe it's vice-versa), you're open minded and accepting of my peculiar nature and creative genius, you are unconventional and ready to play with a raw, open book of a person. You are childlike instead of childish.

You do not have typical mainstream American hang ups about sex and sensuality (or anything else, for that matter) while you do not go off the deep end the other way and wear it on your sleeve... maybe I need a European woman...or one with European sensibilities... ahem...I originally put bi girls only because I usually have more in common with them on a sensual level (yeah, it's a trendy thing too, every guy's fantasy, blah blah blah), yet I changed that because not everyone knows where they are, especially on the West Coast; I guess I need to be honest: women who are too mainstream and have no capacity to expand their sensual horizons are not very interesting to me, even if they're totally hot. That really comes down to how I connect with and caress and care for a woman more than any male fantasy thing.

And, going for broke: You are a goddess who likes the music school idea and you want to be an amazing auntie (not a step mom) to the most adorable, incredible little being on the planet. Ok, maybe I'm mirroring some things for a woman, like adult interdependence awareness and all that. Life's too short not to try to evolve together.