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45 Washington, DC Genderqueer


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  • Ages 30-66
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Last online
Nov 22
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Buddhism and it’s important
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Queer / genderqueer / polyamorous / femme / voracious nerd with introvert tendencies but enthusiastically social when I'm around people I click with.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making websites and databases. Recording and playing electronic music and guitar. Thinking and talking a lot about identities and LGBTQ / sex nerd stuff. Playing board & computer games, wanting to run another taletop RPG.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Turning nearly anything into a piece of art or a musical instrument. Flirtatious sarcasm. Figuring out technology. Writing absurd sonnets and short stories. Shivasana. Aeolian arpeggios. Sidechain compression.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair. Once engaged in conversation, I have a dry, eccentric sense of humor that comes to the surface pretty quickly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The fiction section of my bookshelf includes the likes of Kathy Acker, Ballard, Balzac, Brecht, Burroughs, Raymond Chandler, Fitzgerald, Genet, Irving, Flannery O'Connor, Neil Stephenson and Wodehouse. Also I read a fair amount of non-fiction, ranging from social theory and politics (Foucault, Barthes, Chomsky) to practical texts (music theory & audio engineering) to all-around wunderbrains like Douglas Hofstadter.

(b) I tend to follow directors more closely than actors, a few perennial favorites are Woody Allen, Altman, Godard (I love Truffaut too), Kurosawa, Scorsese, Welles, Billy Wilder, Zhang Yimou. I have a special love of noir (my fave is probably either The Big Sleep or Touch of Evil, though Blue Velvet is pretty noir) and artsy-trashy directors like Almodovar, Jodorowsky and John Waters. I've been trying to get more acquainted with some of the quintessential rugged American filmmakers like Fuller and Pekinpah, both of whom are pretty interesting.

(c) Lately the playlist includes: UK garage mixes, Gossip, Baroness, Black Flag, Eric Dolphy, Ravel, Erik Satie, Keith Jarrett's recordings of the Shostakovich preludes & fugues, an assortment of Indian classical music (which is still new territory to me). Other folks who have played a big role in my musical upbringing, a brief list includes Blondie, Captain Beefheart, Coil, De La Soul, Dead Kennedys, Diamanda Galas, Geto Boys, Iron Maiden, Jesus Lizard, Melvins, Pixies, Public Enemy, Rush, Smiths, Social Distortion, Sonic Youth, Frank Zappa.

(d) Lots of cheap Asian/Mexican style dishes these days.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, friends, alone-time, language, fresh air, a sense of humor.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Analyzing the social mechanisms of power. Obsessing about whatever song fragment has been stuck in my head for the past two days. Getting back into being more involved with Buddhism and contemplating the balance between compassion and detatchment that makes Buddhism so appealing to me. Harmonic theory and psychoacoustics. Remembering whatever good movies I've watched recently, and which of my friends I'd like to share them with. That I should write more.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Potluck dinners with my poly family or out for a low-key evening around DC.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm on FL
You should message me if
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You are a compassionate odd bird of some description, that you think we might have a shared vocabulary. You place personal value on things like cultivating communication skills and trying to understand other people's perspectives. You have a strange and enthusiastic mind and you might want to hang out.