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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20-37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

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Open relationship
6' 6" (1.98m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
English, Arabic (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I have an almost debilitating interest in everything. Try me. I will be intrigued.

I know: so earnest. But I see cynicism as location for struggle not self-identification.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I call NYC home but am often on the road or in the air.

Most recently, I made a long due return to the arts as the right hand to a prominent painter.

Previously, hard-knuckled domestic political operating.

Before that: working abroad getting micro finance operations off the ground in far-flung places.*

*This is not an uncomplicated line item. You want to get into a critical discussion on the aid-industry as it bisects good intentions and neo-colonialism? Welcome.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Running impulses to ground. Being intensely interested. Flourish. Careening between savoir-faire and a willing guilelessness.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The long shadow. Literally, not proverbially.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read, watch, and listen, widely and often.

I adhere to the adage, "if you go home with someone and they don't have books, don't sleep with them. Seriously: don't."

That's John Waters speaking, though my choice in movies isn't always so half-cracked.

No to favorites. Not trying to be too serious with it BUT it's just that I'm trying to cast an ever-wider net. The flipside is that the tape's finite.

OK, I'm half-serious. I'd just rather list currents:

You're Dead!
The Half Has Never Been Told (Edward Baptist)
Mr. Loverman (Bernadine Everisto)
Gypsy (the Bird's version)
My Vinyl Weighs a Ton
Something in the Air
Sex at Dawn by Cacilda Jethá and Christopher Ryan
Ta-Nehisi Coates

So who knows? I am a cultural omnivore. I wish there were a better phrase, one that doesn't imply the violent consumption of culture. But, eh, you feel me?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
poetry vs. potatoes.

We've been cave painting for 30,000 years and farming for 10,000. That has to mean something, right?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not highbrow, not lowbrow: unibrow. Down for it all.
You should message me if
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Please excuse this interruption to our regularly scheduled programming:

1. If you have pictures of yourself sporting (ironically or otherwise) "indian warpaint", co-opted Native American apparel, (fucking) BLACKFACE, or any other joke that functions in the service of perpetuating any/all of a litany of racist, sexist, ableist, homophobic, classist, etc. biases or agendas...

(update: Just don't with "it's Halloween." Do. Not.)

Then, I say respectfully: please move along.

Actually, scratch that. I'm willing to engage you on any of the above. But it won't be pretty. I don't need to lighten up. You need to be less of an asshole.