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Ben-Mack

47 Asheville, NC Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 5
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Aspie curious? If you have heard great things about dating a man with Aspergers, then you know an aspie like me is truthful, has delightfully big ideas, and that I have an internal energy many girlfriends have said is palpable, and that I taught them how to feel more, with their entire body, in ways they hadn't known they had been missing out.

I'd like us to make art together in some way, shape or form. I like performing at open mics, and would like going to these events with you, whether we perform and play together, separately or just to see me rock star an audience .

Are you impeccable with your words as humanly possible? Do you like when somebody uses exactly language in ways that make you laugh and smile? Then we are off to a good start.

I am an artist with a very modest residual insurance income that allows me to focus on my craft. Peace, Love & Magic is my current art project, a documentary inquiring into the positive side of persuasion, and this spring will take me around the country interviewing some of the best practitioners of peace, love and magic.

You and I, on our first date... "It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for - and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool - for love - for your dreams - for the adventure of being alive." -Oriah Mountain Dreamer

I'm looking for a woman who loves listening as much as talking, who takes the Bill of Rights literally and the bible figuratively, and most importantly is authentically kind. I am seeking a woman who actively develops herself, whether it be her artistic crafts, her mind or whatever she wants. What I am looking for is a woman who sees herself as a project on which she lovingly works.

I tend to be an introvert, yet I will regularly put myself out there for art projects. For the last two years, I promoted the celebration of Peace Day on 9/21. In 2013 and our Asheville strategy helped make #PeaceDay a trending topic for the first time. That was fun to see the needle move.

As an artist, I am so far best known for a novel I wrote a decade ago called Poker Without Cards, a book a few critics said was an overnight cult classic, and got my words included in The Quotable Atheist. LOL if my novel is such a classic, how come so few people have heard of it?

I paid my way through UCLA as a magician. Then, I worked in advertising. Now, I'm a performing philosopher, a recovering advertising executive, a marketer, a lover, a friend and a bunch of labels. I'm an author with best-selling books across a few categories: Fire Eating, Cyber Punk and Marketing.

Here's me performing street magic on Lexington Ave in Asheville... https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=396707730474559
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Playing with folks who enjoy solving for R. Buckminster Fuller's parting challenge to humanity: "How do we make the world work for 100% of humanity, in the shortest possible time, through spontaneous cooperation, without ecological damage, or disadvantage to anyone?"

What would it look like to see an instance of global spontaneous cooperation, without ecological damage, or disadvantage to anyone?

And, if it happened once, might it happen again, and again, and again? I think so.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at theatrical magic, strategic planning, and on great days, writing.

I wrote this this morning 2/8...
Paranoia?
Sometimes it appears to me that we are being fed a language of unhappiness. For instance, you can be disgruntled, but standard dictionaries won't allow me to feel gruntled. ✔ There are 4 English nouns ending with the root: noia, but if you are like most Americans, you only know the -noia word that is always considered negative:
1) Paranoia - n. a mental condition characterized by delusions of persecution;
2) Metanoia - n. a shift in one's way of life resulting from spiritual conversion;
3) Hyponoia - n. In theology, a mental condition characterized by seeing hidden meaning or double sense underlying the language of religious texts;
4) Pronoia - n. a mental condition characterized by seeing the Unviverse as conspiring to shower you with blessings.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been told that the first things people usually notice about me is that I listen actively and tell poignant and engaging stories.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books: Cat's Cradle, Of Human Bondage, Ender's Game, Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep, Past Watch, Poker Without Cards
Favorite movies: Wag The Dog, Gross Point Blank, Shawshank Redemption, Zero Effect, Rudy
Favorite shows: Life on Mars, Battlestar Gallaticca, Twilight Zone... um, I haven't owned a TV in over a decade.
Favorite music: Ben Harper, Regina Spektor, Amanda Palmer, Vermillion Lies, Pink Floyd, Eels, Jane's Addiction, Beatles
Favorite food: Sushi, Indian, Ethiopian, anything with cheese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Gratitude, Love, Meaning, Sense of Self... physical things... um, I've found I can do without most things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend less and less time thinking, and more and more time doing and simply being. I am reminded by R. Buckminster Fuller, “The things to do are: the things that need doing: that you see need to be done, and that no one else seems to see need to be done. Then you will conceive your own way of doing that which needs to be done — that no one else has told you to do or how to do it. This will bring out the real you that often gets buried inside a character that has acquired a superficial array of behaviors induced or imposed by others on the individual.”
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday or Monday, there isn't a typical night. When we play with magic, little is typical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll tell you anything you want to know that I can tell.
You should message me if
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You feel like meeting for coffee, taking a hike or seeing a movie at the Fine Art Theatre.