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BenAlles

39 M Bryn Mawr, PA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 28
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm very good at times, very bad at times, and sometimes both.

I like to sing at the top of my lungs, mostly when I'm alone, but under the right circumstances I am not afraid to belt it out with other people around. Sometimes I think they enjoy it!

According to okc I'm "less attentive" than others, ; how'd they figure that? Less attentive to what, I'd like to know...I'm very attentive to the things/people I care about. I'm curious about how people I don't yet know see things, and what they really want or enjoy. I also like to try out new things--especially when they are edible, musical, or literary. Most people don't know me as well as they think they do, but perhaps that could change...

since I have not posted a pic, a self-description might be in order (though I'm sure you''re not just all about looks...right?): average height, thin, pale (unless unshaven, I suppose), dark hair, uh...sexy, deep, moody, ferocious eyes? the next time I look in a mirror I will have to work on this...

I am curious, creative, and excitable
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Looking, wondering, musing, and thinking it all over. And sometimes writing about it. Also talking about it. And I get paid for that; how could I possibly complain?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
incrementally improving my profile...check back in three months to be amazed at how much more quirkily interesting I am than I at first appeared.

...wondering whether The Ethical Slut is an oxymoron.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, there are all sorts of people, after all. And at least two sides of me. But people tend to wonder if I'm as young as I look. I tend to wonder how young I look.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Interpol, The Strokes, White Stripes, U2, Andain

food: not into large chunks of meat, but most other edible objects are worth trying out. I'm especially fond of things that combine flour, butter, and sugar.

Books: oh, where to begin? here's a start--Dumas. Paolo Coelho. the book that has been renamed Blade Runner, historical fiction of most sorts, first of all The Name of the Rose. Science fiction is cool enough that I'm not terribly discriminating about what I like. Fantasy=even better. Philosophy of science by John Dupre.

Movies: I still love Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. Shaolin Soccer is pretty good, too (and much funnier). Firefly.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
books...how many is that?
at least six, I'm sure, so long as we include things inside books, like ideas, stories, arguments, words, and the letter "e". I am also fond of saying "uh".

I'm also very fond of the internet, which I find to be very much like a giant choose-your-own adventure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why we do the things we do. It can't be just to spread our genetic code, can it?

Also: wondering why an otherwise fairly sophisticated site cannot seem to get its gender pronouns right in automatically generated text
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not impressed with Dan Brown. or Ayn Rand. But I did like Bioshock--or actually, I don't like FPSs so much, but the critique of libertarianism Bioshock offers is on the money.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I REALLY wish I could spank my students. Some of them really ought to be spanked.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–38
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
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you think I would want you to. and you have ESP. or if I messaged you--in that case, there's a really good chance that you should message me (or so *I* think!).