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BenE23

30 Jakarta, Indonesia Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23–30
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:06pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Indonesian (Okay), Swahili (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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About a year ago, I moved to Jakarta to work for a social enterprise (Ruma, www.ruma.co.id) that provides low-income Indonesians with a business-in-a-box to make more income. The founder of the company and I worked together at a microfinance organization in San Francisco called Kiva where he worked on Asia and I worked on Africa. Over the years, we'd kept up our friendship and I came out to Indonesia in 2011 for the first time to see Jakarta and explore a position at Ruma. It took me about two days to fall in love with the country and sign on to the job.

I'm passionate about what I do and I've always been fortunate to be able to work on a cause I've thrown myself into fully. I find myself drawn to people who are similarly passionate about something (though what they are passionate about is less important).

Before coming to Indonesia, I lived in San Francisco for 4 years after graduating from Stanford. At heart, I'm an East Coaster (New York) but do not miss the winters or the cold. My friends are spread around the world but I've been fortunate to meet a number of people in Jakarta I've connected with. The people I am close with, that I genuinely get to know and can share my deepest thoughts with, I am fiercely loyal to.

My friends describe me as funny, intense, a good listener, and occassionally goofy. I'm typically introverted (INFP) but come out of my shell over time as I get to know someone.
What I’m doing with my life
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Exploring my new home, making new friends who will hopefully become old friends, and working for a startup social enterprise. I initially signed on to my job in Indonesia for 2 years but expect to be here for awhile...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
detecting accents. I don't know how I acquired this skill but I can tell whether someone's from California, the Midwest, the Upper Midwest, NY, Nigeria, Kenya, etc. I'm still getting used to Indonesia's different accents like the Sundanese accent, Javanese, etc. With all of that said, I'm really bad at separating out English from Australian from Kiwi accents.

I'm also good at Scrabble, softball, Microsoft Excel, and falling asleep in moving vehicles (when I'm not driving!). I'm good at working hard when I need to and I've gained the ability in the last few years to balance that with my personal life much better.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Are typically that I'm usually wearing a batik between Monday and Friday (I love that they are formal wear in Indonesia), that I speak more Bahasa than you'd usually guess, and that I'm usually smiling.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Elusive Quest for Growth (about aid and international development), It's Our Turn to Eat (corruption and politics in Kenya), Emma's War (about a British aid worker who married a southern Sudanese rebel commander).

My book tastes run non-fiction and kind of nerdy. I just finished The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt about the six moral anchors that underpin most moral philosophies around the world and explain liberalism and conservatism in the US.

Food: Indian, Thai, Italian are probably my favorites. I like Indonesian but eat it every day for lunch so get tired of it from time to time.

Places: Jakarta (for all of the macet, craziness, banjir, and smog, I still love the city and the fact that people are still incredibly hospitable in a place of 8 million people), New York (home), Silicon Valley (so many of my memories from college), and Washington DC (still something amazing about seeing the White House and Congress)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Friends
2. Passion for what I'm doing
3. My computer
4. Caffeine and a good coffeehouse
5. My passport
6. Ojeks
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what motivates people and why, where to travel on weekends and holidays, whether it's going to rain and if I forgot my umbrella.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing and unwinding from the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a horrible cook. I am good at the basics, I can boil pasta and cook meat, but I'm not good at making anything complex.
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