I'm a recent Colorado transplant from Iowa for college, and Texas
before that. I work as a software engineer in Boulder, and I try to
hang out with friends in and around that. I enjoy riding bikes, I
just recently started rock wall climbing and enjoyed doing it. I
also fence, have interests in cosplay and costuming, and a bunch of
other stuff. If I haven't done it before, I'm generally willing to
try it too.
Artistically, I have a decent amount of experience singing choral
and solo music and I also have a musical theater background. I also
do technical theater, mainly carpentry, lighting, and some
This is largely still a work in progress and I've not given a lot
of thought as to the kinds of relationships I'm looking for here. I
went ahead and listed casual sex, but that is likely saying for me
that I'm okay with having sex with someone outside the confines of
an established relationship but I do generally prefer having an
emotional attachment in any case.
More to be added as it occurs to me it should be!
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying working, staving off corporate drone onset syndrome, and
learning not to be a workaholic. I'm adjusting still to having
friends that don't live within walking distance of me and the
travel complications surrounding dependency on public
I'm also continuing to learn as best I can, appreciate the new
opportunities I'm being presented with, become active in
communities once again, and learn to be an adult. You know, living.
I’m really good at
Mathematics and programming, though I do have degrees in each. I'm
also politically active and try to stay aware of such things. I
feel like I'm capable of holding my own in a discussion, and I'm
The first things people usually notice about me
Assuming we are speaking of non-trivial things like my height, it's
that I twitch my nose and sometimes it's subconscious. Other times
I'm just expressing myself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Dune, Starship Troopers, A Handmaid's Tale
Zero Dark Thirty, Cabin in the Woods, Avatar (James
Babylon 5, Boston Legal, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica, Mr.
Sterling, Mai-Hime, Full Metal Alchemist: Brotherhood
Various soundtracks, Les Miserables, Chess, Next to Normal, Within
Temptation, After Forever, Nightwish, Pink Floyd, Journey, The
Eagles, Peter Gabriel, and more.
Asian of all sorts, Indian(as in former British colony/chicken
marsala), Egyptian, and tasty/spicy food in general.
The six things I could never do without
In no particular order:
My cell phone
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'm going to be doing in the next few days, work, whatever
I've been reading, life, my friends, and how I can make things
On a typical Friday night I am
Either a quiet night in because I don't have something else to do
or hanging out with friends generally.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am transgendered(male to female). This is a thing, and one which
I admit throws a wrench into someone else's plans. Either they are
looking for a girl and generally want the full package
(particularly if the person looking is also female), they hear
trans and think transvestite/crossdresser (which I'm very much
not), or that they want a feminine partner with a penis (which I
can be, but I'm not very comfortable with).
I've been on hormones for over two and a half years, I've been
living full time for more than three, and I'm scheduled to have the
SRS surgery done later this year. And that's as much of my medical
history as I think I'm going to publicly share for the moment, but
hurray for informed consent.
You should message me if
Please feel free to message me if I sound interesting. If you think
I'd be fun to spend time with in any sense of it, regardless of
whether or not the intent is romantic or otherwise. If you've read
my private admission and understand what that entails or if you
want to ask questions about it. Or if you just want to ask