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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 1
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Undoubtedly a Ravenclaw. Compulsively honest, emotionally adventurous, a hopeful cynic. I am a person who tries very hard to become better and less wrong. I prefer to listen before I speak.

I believe in empowerment of women in the workplace and discarding gender norms. Probability is the closest thing I have to a god, and I reject the idea of universal morality.

I practice ethical non-monogamy. I try to give more than I take, and my ideal self is a person who is compassionate when under stress, and courageous when afraid.
What I’m doing with my life
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Starting a new job in Manhattan in October, which I'm pretty excited about. My title is Senior Engineer, and I honestly don't know how I feel about the word 'Senior' to describe myself. Am I old now?! I'm going to be one of the few NYC dwellers who can take the LIRR to work in the morning.

When I'm not working or spending time with my partner aresenum, I am usually listening to podcasts, playing Just Dance with my late 20s roommates (without the proper console to play it on), or planning a trip to West Virginia for a hippy camp that has a mild resemblance to a cult. I like to go swimming a lot and I hike whenever I can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hiking, eating Chipotle, making eggs, and taking board games way too seriously.

If you play Go (AKA Weiqi Baduk Igo) and you want to play, you should message me!
The first things people usually notice about me
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Well, of course the first thing that everyone notices is that I look like a god damn super-model.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Mostly nonfiction and essays. Books about psychology and sociology. Finished "Lean In", "Naked Economics" and "The Art of War" not too long ago. Now reading "The Loving Dominant" and "More Than Two".
Movies: Documentaries, Bad horror movies, Troll 2, The Room, American Beauty
Shows: Better Call Saul, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, Adventure Time, Girls, Louie, Broad City, House of Cards, Steven Universe,
Music: Opeth, Stephen Wilson, Folk Metal, Explosions in the Sky
Food: Sandwiches, Gatorade, granola, Chipotle. Every week, I make a batch of my very own home-made Chipotle.
Radio: OK, so I listen to a lot of podcasts: This American Life, Planet Money, Serial, Startup, Reply All, Radiolab, Mystery Show, Invisibilia, etc. If you're into any of the podcasts I listen to, we'll probably get along.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Corporate culture
Kink culture
Secrets I keep from my family and co-workers, but which I seem to have no problem broadcasting to strangers on the internet
How strange it is to identify as a moderate, despite my hippy like eccentricities
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Survivor is probably my favorite show. #noshame

Also, I'm a nudist. At a clothing optional kink event I went to where most people were naked frequently, I was known as 'that guy that was naked all the time'.

For the sake of tags: poly, polyamorous, polyamory, non monogamy, non-monogamy.
You should message me if
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you like being physically active or like the idea of just walking around and talking as a date

Meeting someone from OKC sometimes has this weird subtext where you're supposed to be attracted to one another. I don't like that. Please be understanding that I probably won't be attracted to you within 4 hours of meeting you.

you embrace some form of polyamory / non monogamy

you can answer this question:
If you could pick one super power, flying or invisibility, which would you pick, and why?