Benjamin1250
28 Woodside, NY
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My self-summary
Undoubtedly a Ravenclaw. Compulsively honest, emotionally adventurous, a hopeful cynic. I am a person who tries very hard to become better and less wrong. I prefer to listen before I speak.

I believe in empowerment of women in the workplace and discarding gender norms. Probability is the closest thing I have to a god, and I reject the idea of universal morality.

I practice ethical non-monogamy. I try to give more than I take, and my ideal self is a person who is compassionate when under stress, and courageous when afraid.
What I’m doing with my life
Started a new job in Manhattan in October, which is pretty excited about. My title is Senior Engineer, and I honestly don't know how I feel about the word 'Senior' to describe myself. Am I old now?! I'm going to be one of the few NYC dwellers who can take the LIRR to work in the morning.

When I'm not working or spending time with my partner aresenum, I am usually listening to podcasts, playing Just Dance with my late 20s roommates (without the proper console to play it on), or planning a trip to West Virginia for a hippy camp that has a mild resemblance to a cult. I like to go swimming a lot and I hike whenever I can.

Just signed up for membership in Brooklyn Boulders Queensbridge. I go whenever I'm not sore from last time.
I’m really good at
Hiking, eating Chipotle, making eggs, and taking board games way too seriously.

I do happen to be a huge dork with a big collection of board games. I host board game parties every month or two. Let me know if you want in on that.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, of course the first thing that everyone notices is that I look like a god damn super-model.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Mostly nonfiction and essays. Books about psychology and sociology. Finished "Lean In", "Naked Economics" and "The Art of War" not too long ago. Now reading "The Loving Dominant" and "More Than Two".
Movies: Documentaries, Bad horror movies, Troll 2, The Room, American Beauty
Shows: Better Call Saul, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, Adventure Time, Girls, Louie, Broad City, House of Cards, Steven Universe,
Music: Opeth, Stephen Wilson, Folk Metal, Explosions in the Sky
Food: Sandwiches, Gatorade, granola, Chipotle. Every week, I make a batch of my very own home-made Chipotle.
Radio: OK, so I listen to a lot of podcasts: This American Life, Planet Money, Serial, Startup, Reply All, Radiolab, Mystery Show, Invisibilia, etc. If you're into any of the podcasts I listen to, we'll probably get along.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Corporate culture
Kink culture
Secrets I keep from my family and co-workers, but which I seem to have no problem broadcasting to strangers on the internet
Leadership
Business
How strange it is to identify as a moderate, despite my hippy like eccentricities
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Survivor is probably my favorite show. #noshame

For the sake of tags: poly, polyamorous, polyamory, non monogamy, non-monogamy.
You should message me if
you like being physically active or like the idea of just walking around and talking as a date

Meeting someone from OKC sometimes has this weird subtext where you're supposed to be attracted to one another. I don't like that. Please be understanding that I probably won't be attracted to you within 4 hours of meeting you.

you embrace some form of polyamory / non monogamy

you can answer this question:
If you could pick one super power, flying or invisibility, which would you pick, and why?

OR, you know what's better? Tell me the best story you have about shitting your pants. I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours ;))))
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