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Benjammin11

27 Islip, NY Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 24
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Status
Open relationship
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Undoubtedly a Ravenclaw. Compulsively honest, emotionally adventurous, an aggressively hopeful cynic. I am a person who tries very hard to become better and less wrong. I prefer to listen before I speak.

I believe in empowerment of women in the workplace and discarding gender norms. Probability is the closest thing I have to a god, and I reject the idea of universal morality.

I practice ethical non-monogamy. I try to give more than I take, and my ideal self is a person who is compassionate when under stress, and courageous when afraid.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I currently have 2 homes, one in Queens and one in Islip. The one in Queens is where I go on weekends to hang out with friends and do city stuff. I just got a studio style guest house (with a hot plate!) in Islip a couple months ago to have a better commute during the week.

I'm a pretty career-centered person. When I'm not working or spending time with my partner aresenum, I am listening to business podcasts and planning to start my own engineering firm. I'm not a terribly social person, but the friendships that I have are really important to me, and I value such people down to their core. I like to go swimming a lot and I hike whenever I can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hiking, eating Chipotle, making eggs, and taking board games way too seriously.

If you play Go (AKA Weiqi Baduk Igo), you should message me! I don't know anyone in Long Island that plays, and would love to get back into it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Well, of course the first thing that everyone notices is that I look like a god damn super-model.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Mostly nonfiction and essays. Books about psychology and sociology. Finished "Lean In", "Naked Economics" and "The Art of War" not too long ago. Now reading "The Loving Dominant" and "More Than Two".
Movies: Documentaries, Troll 2, The Room, American Beauty
Shows: Better Call Saul, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, Adventure Time, Girls, Louie, Broad City, House of Cards
Music: Opeth, Stephen Wilson, Folk Metal, Explosions in the Sky
Food: Sandwiches, Gatorade, granola, Chipotle. Every week, I make a batch of my very own home-made Chipotle.
Radio: OK, so I listen to a lot of podcasts: This American Life, Planet Money, Serial, Startup, Reply All, Radiolab, Welcome to Night Vale, Ted Radio Hour, Invisibilia, etc. If you're into any of the podcasts I listen to, we'll probably get along.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Corporate culture
Kink culture
Secrets I keep from my family and co-workers, but which I seem to have no problem broadcasting to strangers on the internet
Leadership
Business
How strange it is to identify as a moderate, despite my eccentricities
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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For the sake of tags: poly, polyamorous, polyamory, non monogamy, non-monogamy.
You should message me if
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you like being physically active or like the idea of just walking around and talking as a date

you're okay with the idea that I'm probably not going to be attracted to you within 4 hours of meeting you. It comes much more naturally with time.

you embrace some form of polyamory / non monogamy

you can answer this question:
If you could pick one super power, flying or invisibility, which would you pick, and why?