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Benji108

40 Grand Rapids, MI Man

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:24pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
Drinks
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Bengali (Okay), Hindi (Poorly), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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The world is an amazing place to be, and I've spent my adulthood exploring it. I am by now a fairly resourceful person: scholar (just completed my master's at UVa), author (several published works, and more on the way), artist (see link below), family-oriented (even though I don't have kids yet). I teach philosophy at GVSU.

I spend a lot of time researching, debating, writing. But a research project doesn't make for the best snuggling partner. Nor does it make for a good sky-diving partner. Not that I'm a sky-diver. Yet.

I'm family-friendly, and have a sharp sense of humor. Spiritual but not religious, liberal but not a commie. I'm a fan of Jesus and the Buddha, but not a fanatic. I consider balance in all things to be an important virtue. And exercise. I do that. If you are ever feeling depressed, go for a jog. Clears the head right up.

Modesty means you place more faith in your actions than in your moods. Confidence means you commit to your decisions. I'm a bit of both of these.

I vote left, but identify as left-leaning centrist, because we could really use a bit less partisan hackery these days.

In my former vocation, I travelled to new places weekly for most of my 20s. Yet there are many places I still want visit.

I do the regular sorts of things that people do to stay fit and social. Back in Virginia, I had a great group of friends that I got together with a few times a month for this or that. I'm starting to cultivate friendships here as well.

I'm also an artist. Eventually, I'd like to make all my money this way. You can see a few of my pieces here:

bhavasindhu.deviantart.com/gallery/

I also write music from time to time, when the mood strikes.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Lecturing at GVSU. Making art. Writing a novel or three. Carpentry. Helping my older sibs startup small businesses.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making sense out of obscure philosophical arguments,
Boiling insanity down into sensible solutions,
Making art,
Making jokes on the fly,
Seeing in 4D.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I dress for success.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Totality and Infinity, The Silmarillion, The Artful Universe, India and Europe, The Red Book, The Guide, Saṃskāra, Aristotle's Metaphysics, Wheelock's Latin, Songs of Longing, Vyāsadeva's Jaya-saṃhitā, Aesop's Fables, The Adventures of Tom Sawyer, Sein und Zeit, art books of almost any sort...

Movies: Life of Pi, Casino Royale, Chronicle, Watchmen, Prometheus, Bladerunner, Alien, Avatar, Moulin Rouge, Thor, Iron Man, The Dark Night, Batman Begins, Spiderman, Star Trek, Defendor, Schindler's List, The Lower Depths (Les Bas-Fonds), Emelie, Juno, Pirates of the Caribbean (the whole series), Superbad, Babel, Sherlock Holmes (w/ Downey, Jr. et al), Gataka, Powaqqatsi, etc., etc., etc.

TV-wise (I pretty much only watch series on DVDstreaming): Dexter, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Lost, Sopranos, Scrubs, Key & Peele, John Stewart ...

Music: Leonard Cohen, Bowerbirds, Dirty Projectors, Radiohead, Andrew Bird, Eliot Smith, Band of Horses, J.S. Bach, Handel, Albinoni, Chopan, George Harrison, The Beatles, Pink Floyd, the Bee-Gees, ELO, Snow Patrol, Mumford & Sons, Ratatat, Beck, Primus, Nirvana, Jackie Deshannon, The Jim Carroll Band, Florence & the Machine, Ministry, Soundgarden, Angus & Julia Stone, Glen Hansard and Arketa Irglova, LMFAO, Dubstep and so on...

Food: Gourmet Veggie, anything made with Curd (i.e., Palak Paneer), simple, steamed veggies with a bit of salt and butter, Revolutionary Soup, Lemon Grass, Fruits, Organic, non-GMO, Naked Juice, Mangoes, Avacadoes (I have a secret recipe I'd like to share with you in this regard), California salads (ex., baby spinach, mandarin orange segments, dried cranberries, crushed tortilla chips, dried tomato slices, almond slivers, feta cheese, and raspberry vineagrette; if you don't believe me, try it for yourself), Kambucha, Stouts, IPAs, Single-malts, Oh, and regardless of gender, chocolate is good for the soul.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
True Friends
Unsullied Nature
Promising Career
Novel, Hearty Eats
Wit/Humor/Irony
Routine, Packed Schedule
Yoga/Exercise
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The basic human experience of Time, and the art of relating that to the history of human conflicts and resolutions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
somewhere in the world, doing something. It's inevitable, and happens every single Friday without fail.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I find most people far too open about their abstract opinions on questions of absolute morality and ontology, if you know what I mean.
You should message me if
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You think you need to meet someone in person to really get to know them.

You prize patience over passion, and passion over lethargy.

You don't practice self-loathing.

You have standards, because I do.