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Benji108

39 M New Delhi, India

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
Drinks
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Bengali (Okay), Hindi (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Is it just me, or are the majority of men on this site on a scale somewhere between douchey and creepy?

I'm a typical guy in that I love my job. But my job, as epically wonderful as it is, doesn't whisper sweet nothings into my ear, so I'm looking to have a romantic affair with someone who will (just don't tell my job I said that; it gets jealous and wants me all for itself).

I also love studying languages, which means I hope to be reading (if not speaking) in at least two dozen or so before I die. So far, I can translate French, German, Spanish, Italian, Latin, Bengali, Hindi, Sanskrit, Vedic. On my bucket list (some of these are "dead" languages): Tamil, Persian, Arabic, Greek (Ancient), Japanese, Chinese (Mandarin, Classical), Hittite, Syrian, Russian, Assamese, Tibetan. We'll see if I have to add any more in the future.

I currently in the field research/dissertation phase of my PhD program (ABD, finally!). But a career doesn't make for a snuggling partner. Nor does it make for a good sky-diving partner. Not that I'm a sky-diver. Yet.

I travelled a lot (as in, I lived in a new city every week for five years) when I was younger. Yet there are still so many places I want to visit before this mortal coil breaks. I do the regular sorts of things that people do to stay fit and social. Back in the US, I had a great group of friends that I get together with a few times a month for this or that. But I have made very few friends to hang with since coming to India. My current work doesn't seem to favor spontaneously making new connections, so I'm taking matters into my own hands.

When I take to a person, I really do. But it isn't always obvious. That's the way one knows I'm still warming up to them. When I was younger, I spent most of my time in my own head. I'm no longer introverted like I was, but there is still a good part of me that is difficult for most folks to reach from the outside. I may appear quite gregarious at times, but you might wish to keep in mind that it's a workout for my will to be like that. I get tired of the limelight faster than you might expect. I think this is called "ambivert".

I tend to identify and vote as a liberal, but I take it that any community (particularly those organized around ideals) can have low moments. I'm not a communist, but I do believe a government has a responsibility to provide a safe, clean, just infrastructure for its people; sometimes that includes social programs for helping people out of self-perpetuating economically depressed situations, and strong regulation of monetary giants, stuff like that.

I've been an active participant in the visual arts since I was a wee lad. You might be surprised with what I've accomplished so far. You can take a peek of a few of my pieces here:

bhavasindhu.deviantart.com/gallery/

(I also happen to write music from time to time, but nothing like my paintings, illustrations, sculpture, writing).

Also, ladies, you might wanna check this link. As always, have fun, but it doesn't hurt to be a little safe, and Delhi nightlife can get a little craycray, from what I hear:
http://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/wiki/datingprotips
What I’m doing with my life
I am completing a PhD program, living in India for a year (or two), performing field research and writing my dissertation.
I’m really good at
Making sense out of abstruse philosophical reasoning,
Boiling insanity down into sensible solutions,
Making art,
Making jokes on the fly,
Seeing in 4D.
The first things people usually notice about me
I dress like success. Also, I'm a man. I get a lot of comments about my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Totality and Infinity, The Silmarillion, The Artful Universe, India and Europe, The Red Book, The Guide, Saṃskāra, Aristotle's Metaphysics, Wheelock's Latin, Songs of Longing, Vyāsadeva's Jaya-saṃhitā, Aesop's Fables, The Adventures of Tom Sawyer, Sein und Zeit, art books of almost any sort...

Movies: Life of Pi, Casino Royale, Chronicle, Watchmen, Prometheus, Bladerunner, Alien, Avatar, Moulin Rouge, Thor, Iron Man, The Dark Night, Batman Begins, Spiderman, Star Trek, Defendor, Schindler's List, The Lower Depths (Les Bas-Fonds), Emelie, Juno, Pirates of the Caribbean (the whole series), Superbad, Babel, Sherlock Holmes (w/ Downey, Jr. et al), Gataka, Powaqqatsi, etc., etc., etc.

TV-wise (I pretty much only watch series on DVDstreaming): Dexter, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Lost, Sopranos, Scrubs, Key & Peele, John Stewart ...

Music: Leonard Cohen, Bowerbirds, Dirty Projectors, Radiohead, Andrew Bird, Eliot Smith, Band of Horses, J.S. Bach, Handel, Albinoni, Chopan, George Harrison, The Beatles, Pink Floyd, the Bee-Gees, ELO, Snow Patrol, Mumford & Sons, Ratatat, Beck, Primus, Nirvana, Jackie Deshannon, The Jim Carroll Band, Florence & the Machine, Ministry, Soundgarden, Angus & Julia Stone, Glen Hansard and Arketa Irglova, LMFAO, Dubstep and so on...

Food: Gourmet Veggie, anything made with Curd (i.e., Palak Paneer), simple, steamed veggies with a bit of salt and butter, Revolutionary Soup, Lemon Grass, Fruits, Organic, non-GMO, Naked Juice, Mangoes, Avacadoes (I have a secret recipe I'd like to share with you in this regard), California salads (ex., baby spinach, mandarin orange segments, dried cranberries, crushed tortilla chips, dried tomato slices, almond slivers, feta cheese, and raspberry vineagrette; if you don't believe me, try it for yourself), Kambucha, Stouts, IPAs, Single-malts, Oh, and regardless of gender, chocolate is good for the soul.
The six things I could never do without
Old Friends
Unsullied Nature
Promising Career
Novel, Hearty Foods
Wit/Humor/Irony
Routine Schedule
Yoga/Exercise
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The basic human experience of Time, and the art of relating that to the history of human conflicts and resolutions.
On a typical Friday night I am
somewhere in the world, doing something. It's inevitable, and happens every single Friday without fail.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm actually a bit of a private person. Also, I am convinced that the compatibility algorithms used by this site are complete bullshit. I almost always find my so-called enemies deeply fascinating.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You think that people are more interesting in person than via web.

You don't believe that a personality test "determines" compatibility.

You prize patience over passion, and passion over lethargy.

You don't practice self-loathing.

You have standards. Because I do.