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25 / M / straight / Single

Santa Fe, New Mexico

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White
Height
5' 10" (1.77m).
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New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals, Casual sex
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and laughing about it
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Education
Dropped out of space camp
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay)

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I am in love, with love, and lousy poetry.

My Self-Summary

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Forgive undue indulge purge resent prepare concord distill delay forget freeze mortal hat trick stack free-fall fathom Johnson negative remorse sorrow reject conjure pretext fabricate induce diabolical tickle select nostril rampart gate gather fall foursome linger tentative fervent stipend Jehovah general dictate fornicate jump slide lamb crumb flat tunic shopping-mall flounder shipwright break dance crepuscule piano forte flipside beat box brandish bobsled delicate broadside loophole hell-sent north face slick sharp snowshoe forehead beef border rifle island eye-patch gold grammar radio sail circuit bungee back flip side-step cornrow king size flowerbed quilted head case priest preset cacophony elusion bra brood chicken hay-fever french-fry folding flyby biscuit-cutter cat-claw chainsaw shark fin flaming mango palm tree tapestry transvestite cave dwelling marmite blender wench washcloth cold war butter knife I like shapeless sensitive naked stopwatch prank playing bingo fuel station oil rig army man desperado daydream. And there’s tons more where this came from if you go to the dance with me.

日本語が分かる人はこのsiteに参加していないから国語で自己紹介するかちはないね。

What I’m doing with my life

At some point I stopped understanding the meaning of words like, "work", "vacation" "weekend" "hobby" "career". The pursuit of craftsmanship has taught me that every action is a prayer if it is performed as well as you are able.

I've been involved in blacksmithing about half my life, which recalls an interesting saying:

Do not fall into the error of the artist who boasts of twenty years
experience in his craft while in fact he has had only one year of
experience -- twenty times.

I’m really good at

Sitting.

And I'm getting pretty good as standing too.

I'm amazing at not watching TV.

Retaining objectivity at the hardest times. Which sounds diplomatic, but usually just annoys everyone.

The first things people usually notice about me

My tits and my eyes... teehee.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Andy Goldsworthy: Rivers and tides, Realms of the Unreal, Himalaya, A Complete History of My sexual Falures, The Diving Bell and the Butterfly.

Lately, Phil Ochs on Vinyl.

mmmm.... food. I stick to the three Pollanian rules: eat food, not too much, mostly plants.

The six things I could never do without

I guess it's not really in my nature to think of things in these terms. I think we all find that we can (happily) get by with very little when it comes down to it.
But rather than answer literally (water, air, blah blah), how about a few things I would like to keep getting more of?

Balance. Physical, mental, all kinds.

Knowledge. All kinds. The useless as well as the useful. I am a curious person. It is the act of engaging the world around me that I find important; not whether or not I have memorized exactly how to use a semicolon.

Beauty. I am endlessly interested in beauty but not in decorations. Thats all I feel like saying about that right now.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Tlön, Uqbar, and Orbis Tertius

On a typical Friday night I am

very important top-secret things.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I have an account on one of those internet dating sites.

And I immediately lose respect for anyone who lists Harry Potter as one of their favorite books. Sorry, its true. Doesn't mean I hate you. Doesn't mean we can't be friends, but you lose points. Big time.

You should message me if

日本語が話せる友達を作りたいんだ。言語は使わないと忘れてしまうもんだからね。

Eyes of a blue dog and I mean that.

Or if you think you can list every book, movie and song I quoted in my profile.