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43 Saint Paul, MN Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 37-54
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 24
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Judaism and laughing about it
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), German (Fluently)
My self-summary
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The morning I signed up for this site, I put up my pictures first, and had a dozen messages immediately before I ever had a chance to say anything in my profile, which leads me to wonder whether I would be better off just leaving it blank. ;-)

I can tell you that I'm funny, full of energy, good to talk to, outgoing, and interested in all sorts of things one wouldn't think could go together in the same head -- but really none of it would matter, because it all comes down to how we would relate to each other when we meet.

Write me a note. Start a conversation. My friends say I'm an excellent responder.
What I’m doing with my life
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50% helping my children grow into happy, well-adjusted, fulfilled, successful adults
30% helping university researchers get funding so they can be happy, well-adjusted, fulfilled, successful professors
20% being a happy, well-adjusted, fulfilled, successful adult
(well, at least, working on it)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
anything with instructions (IKEA furniture, Photoshop, a Julia Child recipe)
keeping my head in a bad situation
throwing caution to the wind
translation (between languages, cultures, genders, generations, and seemingly incompatible sets of expectations)
The first things people usually notice about me
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my confidence and my openness
My best friend once said "Anyone who spends 15 minutes with you can tell that you are brilliant," but, you know, she's my best friend. . .
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: Being John Malkovitch, Blade Runner, Donnie Darko, Bringing Up Baby, The Lives of Others, Goodbye Lenin, Edward Scissorhands (however Jackie Chan and James Bond marathons on rainy Sunday afternoons are not out of the question)
TV: Firefly, Breaking Bad, West Wing, Mad Men, Dr. Who, Rescue Me, Ugly Betty, Better Off Ted, Dead Like Me (don't watch TV, but watch shows on Netflix)
Books: anything about cognitive behavioral processes, especially the odd ones (Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat; The Tell-Tale Brain; Thinking Fast and Slow); and I'm a sucker for a good murder mystery
Music: Love all the local indie venues: The Cedar, Aster, Amsterdam, etc. Will listen to almost any genre as long as it is well-crafted, interesting, and doesn't sound mass-produced; grew up with classical and jazz, so that goes without saying
Shows: If it's from a foreign country, has multi-media, crosses genre boundaries, and involves putting actors in extremely unlikely poses in a small black box theater in the back of a warehouse, I'm all over it. But nothing beats watching Shakespeare in London, Brecht in Berlin, and Wagner at the Met.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My camera
My passport
Internet (until they invent a way to teleport to far-off friends and family)
Music (no, wait, I can get that on the internet . . .)
Something beautiful in my vicinity
The voice of a loved one
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My current projects at work
How to get my children to eat more vegetables and spend less time on the computer
The cognitive processes behind how people think and behave
How language works
The latest book I'm reading
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with one or two friends listening to live music, or seeing a performance, a reading, a movie . . . Afterward, we'll have a drink and talk about it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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is that I have very few inhibitions and will probably answer any question you pose with far more private details than is prudent
You should message me if
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you are seriously looking for more than a one-night stand and are not put off by the fact that I have some intellectual interests that you may not necessarily want to share in