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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 33–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs
English, Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Beneath the boyish appearance lies something you might not be expecting. I've lived a lot of chapters in my life, and I've kind of got "me" down pretty well. It's easy to approach, but difficult to sum up. You've been warned, and invited.

I've held close to the good parts of my Midwestern upbringing, but grown into the Bay Area as my home forever. In many ways, this is the most exciting time of my life, and there's nothing but good stuff to look forward to.

In my work life, I am a leader, an innovator, a social enterprise executive, doing some pretty exciting things and working with some pretty inspiring people. It's the core of my professional identity and, I hope, will bring some good to life here.

I may live my life with purpose, but I'm not always Mr. Serious... I'm intense in a crisis but also first to make a joke that takes everyone to the floor. That's me.

So look, the heart of the matter is: a great connection, in any form it comes, is life changing. There's so many of you I'd have a drink with, or share a laugh with...let's find the spark shall we?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Life ain't bad. Aside from doing some exciting stuff at work, I'm looking for new experiences and places to see, and all around feeling optimistic about the future.

I've made some pretty great friends in my life, and feel like the world is wide open to me.

You will never see pictures of me in a desert in August, doing something cooler than you.

To help my fashion sense, I need a fashion Sensei. This could be your honor. For you, I shall sweep the leg.

If you think you've summed me up, you're missing the point.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The list: rock climbing, cycling, hiking, fitness, eating everything, cooking, home improvement...

I'm a competent cook, though it's really more fun as a team sport. Can you get down in the kitchen? Let's go.

I have long arms. Not only does this make me a better climber, but it's also good for reaching the highest shelf or grabbing something far away. And hugs. Really good hugs.

I'm almost inexplicably good with plants. I'm also a very impartial listener. These aren't really related.

Some say "Dance like no one else is watching." I am the exception to this rule.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I look young. That isn't a huge source of pride (cuts both ways you know) but it beats looking old. Besides that, hopefully poise, self confidence, authenticity, and sense of humor. You decide.

I'm actually a good dresser. I don't know why I dont have photos of this. Thankfully people tell me I look good in person. I look sharp. Or almost sharp. I try though. Help me and we are compadre for life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Holes in My Shoes - the story of Jack Beers. You really gotta see this piece. Jack lived 100 lives in his 99 years and looked at the world every day like he couldn't believe they let him in on it. Amazing.

Searching for Sugar Man - if you haven't seen this documentary, see it with me. Or don't see it with me. Just see it. It's fantastic.

Reading -- just finished Detroit: An American Autopsy. If you'd like to know what's at the bottom of the commode Oakland's teetering on the edge of, this book explains it.

Eating -- there's nothing I don't love about it. It's a religious experience at its best, and great even when it's average. I've found a Lomito Completo in Santiago, Morcipan in Buenos Aires, noodles in Bangkok, Dal Bhat in favorite Banh Mi in the Richmond, and there's more to come.

I'm by habit kinda semi-vegetarian (get greens in every way I can, cut out the starches, you know...) but the little meat that I eat is anything goes. That means sweetbreads, pork belly, offal, oysters, sushi, all the good stuff.

Still one of my favorite pleasures is eating an avocado straight from its shell, with a little soy sauce in its dimple.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Phil Dunphy is a goddamned American hero.

I hear there's a lot of dudes with Tiger photos. The converse are yoga poses on a log or cliff. Stop doing yoga poses. You are one with the universe. We get it.

When I'm feeling down, finding things to be grateful for. When life hands me WTF, I try to LOL.

Everyone was put on this Earth for a reason, and few of us ever really learn what that reason is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wishing I'd planned something for Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a loud sneezer.

I'm *very, very good* at reading people, and I learn more about people than they think they're letting on. I can smell trouble like shit on a shoe.
You should message me if
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You are a cute, smart, happy balance of salty and sweet, feminine and tomboy, serious and goofy, and everything in-between...

You have stuff to share, and time to share stuff. And among that stuff is an insane amount of happy...

You have relationship skills, and you're not afraid to use them...

You're emotionally and financially in a good place...

You're not fooling yourself, because you're not fooling anybody.

And most of all, you know what the real deal is, and you're not stopping til you find it.