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45 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 37-56
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Nov 1
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm loving, sweet, funny, smart, emotionally secure, silly, and I like to meet new people. I make a lot of effort to be culturally and politically aware, thoughtful, physically active, and independent. I'm a loyal friend. I have a lot to give and love helping others. I spend a lot of time at a job I love, as well as on taking care of my physical health. I'm also really psyched about who I am at this point in my life and looking for an equally confident partner.

I generally prioritize pleasure and honesty.

I'm looking to meet someone IN PERSON who is relaxed, intelligent, culturally curious and sexually assertive. I've got room in my life for something deep that can last. I'm seeking out connection, attraction, affection and ease.

PLEASE I will not respond to messages coming from outside California.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have an excellent job, fabulous friends, and take advantage of the cultural and natural advantages of the Bay Area as much as I can. I'm a writer. I work for a cultural institution and I believe my work is meaningful and helps advance people's lives. I dance and/or exercise nearly every day, eat well, take long drives by the ocean, sleep and generally maintain a healthy emotional life. I like to be active. I spend a lot of time with my friends who span a range of academics, activists, non profit professionals, artists, burners, parents, healthcare workers, techies, sex-positive educators, and other progressive professionals. I'm attracted to friends and lovers of different races and backgrounds. I'm most attracted to men who have an active professional and intellectual life. I like to go out to plays, dance, music (a wide range), movies, take walks in beautiful places, and seek out new adventures. I'm definitely an introvert so I protect my alone time and enjoy quiet moments quite often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and being thoughtful about what I'm hearing as well as giving honest feedback. Kissing. Editing other people's writing. Putting a beautiful home together. Critiquing art. Finding fun stuff to do with friends. Setting boundaries.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read. Right now I'm mostly reading fiction. I enjoyed the Hillary Mantel series about Thomas Cromwell and the Maddaddam trilogy by Margaret Atwood. I also really like Junot Diaz' book on the life of Oscar Wao. Now I'm reading Daniel Alarcon. Sometimes I read nonfiction as well. I like reading a physical newspaper or magazine as opposed to reading online. I try to see all the award-nominated movies and lightly follow Hollywood cinema for fun. In general, I love watching films and often find action flicks very entertaining as long as there's no blatant misogyny. I'm not a documentary lover, surprisingly.

I love to hear live music though I don't have the budget for big shows. I'm open to learning about what's current but I tend to rely on what I've known, friends who play music or something with a great beat. I go out dancing at least once a week. If I seek out music, its usually part of an alternative music scene that mixes genres and uses odd time signatures. I listen to a lot of different stuff at home but I'm solidly a 70s child so CSNY, Zeppelin, Hendrix and Joni Mitchell are always on my favorites list. Other than those, I generally listen to classical, celtic, jazz, rock, reggae, or electronic dance music depending on who I'm with and what we're doing.

I'm not entirely a "foodie" but love going to nice restaurants, especially trying something new in Oakland. When we go out on a date, I'll want to go somewhere with a good cocktail.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ocean, Friends, Writing, Sex, Art, Dance
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
This often depends on what I'm working on or what I'm reading. In general, though, I think a lot about eliminating racism and sexism, homophobia, and drug addiction. I'm not saying this to be "pc," I'm saying it because it's true and I am looking for someone who wants to think about changing our society like I do.

I like the idea that we are always improving our lives and our circumstances. I've worked on myself a lot and I'm grateful. But there are always going to be places I want to go, to improve. Relationships are one of those places. I like how when you get to know someone new, you often learn something new about yourself.

I also spend a lot of time thinking about the responsible shit. Making enough money to stay in the bay area, serving my community to the best of my ability, taking out the garbage so I don't attract vermin into the house, treating the people I love well and not getting taken for a fool by the ones who aren't paying attention.

I think about women's health, equality for women and women's liberation a lot. It's a passion of mine.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Taking a long walk in nature to help let go of the work week. Most free nights I go out for dinner with friends, see an art show or a performance, cook at home, exercise, go out dancing, go on a date, or just hang out alone entertaining myself.
You should message me if
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You want me to check our your profile.
You want to go rummage sale shopping with me.
You want to have a thought-provoking conversation.
You like to communicate with words as well as other methods.