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43 F Oakland, CA

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Today – 7:50am
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
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Trying to quit
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I am quietly fascinated by so many aspects of life. I love to watch what's happening around me to see what's beautiful in it. I love watching performances, seeing art, attending events where people put care into the experience. I'm attracted to adventure, what seems intriguing, unusual or funny. My interests tend to be focused on what's beautiful, truthful, strange, bold and playful.

I spend a lot of my free time doing what I need to stay healthy and sane in what seems to me like a very complex and fucked up world. I have a great job but it takes a lot out of me. I want to meet people who have similar attractions for art and culture and who are up for a little romance.

I'm equally attracted to adventure as I am to consistency. I'm both seeking entertainment and craving comfort and like to strike a balance if I can. I live a full life with a good balance of relaxation, entertainment, and creativity, as well as routine, expectation, and honesty. Work, friends, family, exercise, and home all take my time and attention. And I have room for more. I'm a really caring person and I have a lot of love to give. I'm looking to meet someone in person who is relaxed, intelligent, culturally curious and sexually assertive. I'd love to find a man who really wants to please me in usual and unusual ways, who is smart, attractive and confident without being arrogant, cocky and sexist.
What I’m doing with my life
I have an excellent job, fabulous friends, and take advantage of the cultural and natural advantages of the Bay Area as much as I can. I'm a writer by profession and I love it. I work for a cultural institution and I believe my work is meaningful and helps advance people's lives. I dance and/or exercise nearly every day, eat well, take long drives by the ocean, sleep and generally maintain a healthy emotional life. I like to be active.
I’m really good at
Listening and being thoughtful about what I'm hearing as well as giving honest feedback. Kissing. Editing other people's writing. Putting a beautiful home together. Critiquing art. Finding fun stuff to do with friends.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've been reading fiction mostly lately. I've enjoyed the Hillary Mantel series about Thomas Cromwell and the Maddaddam trilogy by Margaret Atwood. I also really like Junot Diaz' book on the life of Oscar Wao. I am currently reading Dickens just because its a fun difference to modern novels. If I have time, I usually read the fiction and some of the news in the New Yorker and flip through Sunset magazine.

I've been trying to see all the Academy Awards nominated films. The ones I most like so far are 12 Years a Slave and Dallas Buyers Club. In general, I like funny, I like drama. I just like the movies. I can even find action flicks very entertaining as long as there's no blatant misogyny.

I love to hear live music. I'm especially into the excellent new music scene that mixes genres and uses odd time signatures. I listen to a lot of different stuff at home because my music taste really varies but I'm solidly a 70s child so CSNY, Zeppelin and Joni Mitchell are always on my favorites list. I really love listening to classical, celtic, jazz, rock, reggae, or electronic dance music depending on who I'm with and what we're doing.

I'm not entirely a "foodie" but love a good meal. I am often eating out with friends. I also love a good cocktail. It gets to be a bit much, though, after a while. All the pretensions around food kind of get to me.
The six things I could never do without
Ocean, Friends, Writing, Sex, Art, Dance
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I like the idea that we are always improving our lives and our circumstances. I've worked on myself a lot and I'm grateful. But there are always going to be places I want to go, to improve. Relationships are one of those places. I like how when you get to know someone new, you often learn something new about yourself.

I also spend a lot of time thinking about the responsible shit. Making enough money to stay in the bay area, serving my community to the best of my ability, taking out the garbage so you don't attract vermin into the house, treating the people I love well and not getting taken for a fool by the ones who aren't paying attention.
On a typical Friday night I am
Taking a long walk in nature to help let go of the week. Most free nights I go out for dinner with friends, see an art show or a performance, cook at home with friends, exercise, go out dancing, go on a date, or just hang out alone entertaining myself.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–54
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You think you're a cool guy, you like yourself. Honestly, I'm looking for someone who is pleased with his own life and wants to think about another person. Even if its just a sexual thing, I have a low tolerance for flaking, lying, and other crappy behavior. Human consideration and communication are really important to me.

If you've read through my profile and want to message me, please tell me what you find interesting here. Also, I will not respond to a symbol or a two word sentence and I won't send you that shit either, sexy:)