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Betterwithyou30

30 M Saint Louis, MO

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:52am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black, White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Not long ago I was looking into a mirror musing over the handful of grey hairs mean-mugging me from the unkempt excuse for a beard I had going. Yet another reminder that I was an adult. Most people would lament such a thing and probably wax nostalgic about the good ole' days. I prefer to look in the other direction, forward instead of back. Now that we're all grown up, we're the ones who get to decide what that means. So I thought what I'd do here is just talk. Talk like it's just you and me and no one else would know what was said here tonight. That's when things are most interesting, wouldn't you agree? Some things have changed since last we spoke. Others have remained the same. No matter the case, I'll put it out there and hopefully you'll come away from this feeling.. well, something. What that is is up to you to decide. Alright, here we go.

Architect. Optimistic futurist. Scientist in a living world. Born too early to explore the cosmos, but my determination remains undiminished. A world traveler but I only ever feel lost when without inspiration. Recently I left my boring but stable position working in medical IT to pursue a dream, and now I spend my days in software development and game design. I used to hate talking about work, but now I love to tell people about what I do. It's been exhilarating and challenging and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Even though I grew up here, you probably wouldn't think I was from Saint Louis once you got to know me. My eyes tend to glaze over when talking about the Cardinals, or the Blues, or whatever the name of the football team is here. I'll still go to games to socialize and hang out with friends, but soccer is the only major sport that I get excited for. I blame that on a friend that grew up across the street from me, though. I call Saint Louis Bread Company by it's other name, Panera. I constantly confuse 40 and 44. When I was 18, I joined the military and was away for nearly ten years, and though eventually I did come back, I often feel like part of me is still out there roaming the globe. If you can find that part, he'll probably tell you some great stories.

I like to think I look for the best in people, but the cynic in me tends to be a little reluctant when it comes to making new friends. That said, once we do become friends we'll be thick as thieves. I'm very friendly and open up easily once I've had a little time to warm up. I love to talk at length about most topics, especially if you get me talking about something I'm passionate about. I love discussing ideas and theories with people about anything I can get my hands on. I can be self-critical at times, but I use that as motivation to do better the next time. I'm still debating if I want kids or not. I think there's a time and a place for all things. I know how to look at you just the way you like; You'll believe it when you see it. When it comes to courting a woman, I do everything within my power (and sometimes outside of it as well) to keep things fun and engaging. That doesn't mean I exist solely to entertain you, however. There can be a balance between the old-world charm of being a gentleman and respecting the independence and sensibilities of a modern woman, and I mean to find it whether I'm pursuing your affections or not.

So there it is. Of course, people are more akin to experiences than essays, but hopefully what I've said here has given you a better sense of how we might fit into each others lifestyles. I thought perhaps I'd tell you my name next, but I think it'd be more fun if you asked instead.
What I’m doing with my life
I ask myself this very question every time I laugh at something dumb on the internet. Still, I'm enjoying the simple things and trying not to take it all so seriously. As much as I enjoy what I do for a living, I'm not the type of person that lives to work. I'd much rather be indulging in some leisurely pursuit. Reading books. Window shopping. Playing with my dog. Driving around with the windows down and the music up just enough.
I’m really good at
Not treating music like it's a deal-breaker. My mom loves Bon Jovi, my dad prefers Michael Jackson. Somehow they've managed to remain married for 22 years. How weird is that.

I think I'm pretty good at following through on my word. I'm not the type that only talks about what they would do.

I tend to be pretty handy around the house.

Maybe a few other things that are inappropriate to discuss here.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably the freckles across the bridge of my nose. I guess that's kind of unexpected considering my complexion.

Also that I tend to walk more slowly than other people. I like to think it's just part of my leisurely nature, but subconsciously I think it's because I want people to see me coming. I wonder what that means.

Maybe my personality? I hope so, I'm banking on it pretty heavily. I hear you ladies like funny guys. I can be funny! Check this out..

Why did Mary fall off the swing?
Why?
Because she doesn't have any arms.

Knock knock.
Who's there?
Not Mary.

You get it? Because she doesn't have any arms. Practically writes itself, I tell you.

Not your cup of tea? How about a magic trick. Think of a card, any card. Now shuffle the deck in your mind. Is the card you were thinking of the seven of hearts? If so, some of you just had your mind blown. If not, you probably did it wrong.

I'll see myself out.
The six things I could never do without
Nothing. But that's boring, so here's some things I would prefer not to have to live without:

Warm summer nights somewhere under the stars are the best.

Going to the dollar show and throwing popcorn at the screen is the best.

Napping together on a lazy afternoon is the best.

Getting you to listen to this cool song I heard and you actually liking it is the best.

Having friends that you can't remember how you became friends but you always were is the best.

Cooking something together and it turning out better than we thought is the best.

Laughing your ass off playing Cards Against Humanity is the best.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Do you ever wonder if a tree feels like its roots are holding it down?

Have you ever stopped to think that maybe the stars are gazing at you?

If the world were blind, how many people would you impress?

Have you ever broken a heart because you were convinced there was something good inside?
On a typical Friday night I am
Maybe working on something code-related. Maybe out somewhere with friends and beverages and music. Maybe out somewhere without friends, but still with beverages and music. Maybe playing around on the internet. Maybe helping my parents with something. Maybe playing Dark Souls while waiting for ESO to drop. Whatever I'm doing, it'll be a late night and a ton of fun.

What I should be doing, however, is clearing the schedule because I'm making plans with you instead.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't use the words "amazing" or "epic" to describe anything. Ever. You know what I'm talking about.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Your head says "No", but your heart says "Maybe".

Or, of course, if you just want to. Who am I to tell you what to do.