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24 F Madison, WI

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  • Ages 22–35
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  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Sep 3
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm learning to play the banjo, and sometimes the guitar but its not as interesting. Oh, I'm somewhat decent with a ukulele.

I'm in a pretty committed relationship, but it's open and I'm open to entertaining the idea of a bit on the side. My primary is, however, primary and I expect that to be respected.

At any given point I have a dozen or so projects on a side burner I'm really itching to get back to but haven't due to lack of time/energy/resources/creative inspiration (getting a chronic illness sucked balls).

When I've got the first of the above but nothing else, I like meandering around town trying to get lost.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working. It has its ups and downs.

Long term? Trying to actually be skilled in one of my many hobbies. I'm rocking the "jack of all trades" but "master of none" stings a bit.

Saving the universe.

If I ever disappear, check Alaska, since I might follow my aunt in pulling a "so long, folks" and ending up somewhere in the middle of nowhere with really fantastic stars at night. Actually two of my aunts kind of did that.
I’m really good at
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Finding new hobbies.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Haven't the foggiest.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: A lot of sci-fi, though I do still need to read the Foundation Trilogy (I know, I just havent yet and at this point I worry its over-hyped. Like Dune. I hated Dune.) I love Vernor Vinge, and I do have a fondness for Michener. I think I'd like to branch out from the world of Sci-Fi/Fantasy though- I feel like I want something to sink my teeth into, and as much as I love Gaiman, Butcher, things like Song of Ice and Fire, I want something with more depth.
I do like a lot of non fiction- James Glieck has a few good books, I forget the name of the guy that goes the really narrative histories- The Devil in the White City is one I read lately that I loved. Bring on suggestions.

*Editing this because the "currently reading" thing I had below was woefully out of date, so I'll just add the new stuff to the bottom and keep the old stuff.

The History of White People. Its is a historical look at why there's this notion of whiteness and how its been used in society. Spoiler alert: bad science done to affirm positions that validated and enforced power structures has a lot to do with it.

Guns, Germs. and Steel. The entire book is summarized in the title.

Fun Home by Alison Bechdel. Dykes to Watch Out For nearly saved my life when I was reading it in the back of a Borders as a weird outsider kid on scholarship at a conservative christian boarding school that tried to expel me, and Fun Home is really a fantastic piece from an artist I hold so dear. I was worried, since it seemed a little bit too much of a maudlin, intellectual, self indulgent memoir at times, but its the best of the maudlin, intellectual self indulgent memoir genre.

What then Must We Do by Gal Alperovitz, which is sort of a call to action/argument for collective ownership structures and slowly restructuring the economy in a private/public mashup. Interesting stuff- the question he poses is "If you don't like free market capitalism and you don't trust socialism, what else is there?" I'm impressed that in the entire book, he didn't really use the word "externalities," despite most of his argument being about the inability of current corporate structures to handle them.

Access Controlled- The shaping of Power, Rights, and Rule in Cyberspace- a publication of the OpenNet Initiative. Published in 2010, so it doesn't have a lot of the most recent stuff (Snowden), but its interesting as a round up of these issues across the world and in that it shows the patterns we've seen lately are nothing new.

Social and Economic Networks, which is a textbook by Matthew O Jackson, and I found it because I've been fiddling around with graph theory problems on slow days at work and I was creating a head-model of power structures to see what could be done with them, and then found a coursera class on this topic. It doesn't start for another few months, though, so I just checked the book out of the library and started having fun- and this book is pretty fun so far. This is pretty typical for me- I more or less use online courses (like what's on coursera) as book recommendations and problem sets for my random interests.

Movies: Bad sci fi movies, good sci fi movies, eye candy movies, stupid action films, kung fu movies, cerebral indies.

Shows: ST:TNG, battlestar galactica, Lexx, Buffy, Farscape. Also, I believe the industry term for me in regards to TV programming is either a "cord cutter" or a "cord never".

Music: Almost everything. Honestly. When I put my music on shuffle it has an odd tendency to switch back and forth between indie folk/bluegrass and rap. And dubstep.

Food: I like food. I became a vegan a year ago, for primarily moral reasons, though I also had some health scares that led me to really want to try to take care of myself more. Veganism has been great, honestly. Arthritis sucks though. Tempeh marinated in soy sauce and vegemite is awesome.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Some way to make stuff. Making things feels like biological imperative to me and when I've been unable to I just feel wrong.
-An instrument- I've occasionally gone without for a bit and one just sort of...happens after a while.
-The ability to go outside
-Occasional human contact
-Time to myself

As much as I'm a gadget geek, I can actually do without my phone/tablet/computers. I just really like messing around with them.

And everybody hates this question, I think they leave it in to torment their users. Or they're really collecting some very odd data about how people react to various aspects of this question. I really miss the statistics they used to pull from this site.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How I'd manage if for some reason modern civilization fell and I had to fend for myself. Also, how I'd manage the fledgling village-thing that for some reason always forms up in my imagination.

The evolution of language and how it effects people. I will spend a lot of time thinking just about things like vowel shape and dialect shift and what causes that, and then notice the vaguely gene-like behavior and then how it's easy to draw parallels to what Richard Dawkins called "memes" and then you think about how his idea and popular coinage of the term meme has now itself morphed into the current usage of the term meme, and then you can start wondering if words have always evolved this quickly, which maybe, how would you get that data? But Dictionaries!

And my mom earnestly uses the word "groovy" when she's high.

How to solve the issues of inner city poverty and social immobility in the States. How to organize a school system, from how I'd run a classroom if I ever taught, to how to run a nation of public schools.


Android phones and development. I've gotten as far as hello world on an emulator but one day, when I have time I'll play more with it, I'll probably build some stuff that no one but me will use. I blame work and all my other hobbies for taking up all my time.

Fun math problems. Gradual sweeping shifts in network behavior.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with people or tending to hobbies, depending on the kind of week.
Really good: Out
Decent: Either
So-so: In
Not Great: Either
Really bad: Out
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I hate having to admit this but after being asked out to go climbing or a handful of other things I can't do several times, I really am tired of going through the following information.
I have really bad auto-immune arthritis. Some days my hands don't work, and I can't type so good. Or open things, or climb, or play my instruments. There have been days when I can't really walk, either. I recently started meds I can't have alcohol with, so my love of beer and wine has ceded to my love of being able to do things.

Some days I'm fine though, and its awesome.
You should message me if
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You'd like to hang out and don't really care what direction things go in, whether its casual, just friendly, or what have you.

You are an experienced Dom that takes safety seriously and would be willing to work with someone who has been out of the scene for a bit due to reasons.

If you want to have an IRL vegan friend, I'd like one.