"There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy." - Hamlet

I finally got the promotion that I've been working for years to obtain. Good news is I'm doing something I love for a profession. Bad news is it's gonna take some more of my time away from my social life, at least until I get more acquainted with things.

I'm a unrepentant flirt in an open marriage. My wife is on this site as well. I try to be candid and honest yet diplomatic and I expect that from anyone I associate with, be they friends or more. I am fiercely independent. The more popular someone or something is, the warier I am of it. I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I am not.

Some people abhor labels; I don't mind them so long as they are used as a frame of reference and not to pigeon-hole. But it seems I can't even get the frame of reference right. Example: we're not swingers, nor are we polyamorists (at least not in the true definition of either word); we are at some as-yet-unnamed spot in between. Maybe it would be easier if people would stop playing proverbial tug-of-war and just stick to an accurate definition; but I suppose that is a microcosm of life in this society.

I'm learning how to play Australian Rules Football, and it's pretty damn tough even in a no-tackle league.

I am a fan of the four major sports (for some reason I still consider hockey a major sport). I love my hometown San Antonio Spurs and the Chicago Cubs. Why do I love the Cubs? Because of Scooby-Doo, and yes I will be glad to tell you the story if you're interested. I'm not one of those guys who turns his wife into a sports widow, unless the Cubs are in the World Series... so she has no worries.

I am doing just about everything I want to do with my life, I just want to do more. I travel as often as I can - usually a couple of vacations a year. My wife and I enjoy a great open marriage. It continues to be an incredible experience that allows us to experiment and share our affection with those close to us.

Finally getting back to my favorite vacation spot, Chicago, in June.

Sarcastic remarks & sexual innuendo. My anxiety in any situation is directly inverse to its severity.

I'm fat... for now. I fidget. I'm quiet until you get me talking.

My favorite books: science fiction (Peter David) and true crime (John Douglas). I also like graphic novels - okay, okay, comic books - especially if they have artwork by George Perez, Alex Ross, or Phil Jimenez, or are written by Geoff Johns or Grant Morrison. My favorite book is by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett; go grab a copy of Good Omens, highly recommended. And, of course, The Ethical Slut.

My favorite movies: sci-fi and comedy. My all time favorite is Mystery Science Theater 3000: The Movie, and if you're nice to me I'll let you come over and watch it. Other faves are L.A. Story, Bull Durham, Batman Begins, Hot Fuzz, Stranger Than Fiction, Citzen Kane and Casablanca

My favorite music: Collective Soul, Cowboy Mouth, Brother Cane, Alice in Chains/Jerry Cantrell, Tantric, Audioslave, Cool for August, Foo Fighters, Nine Inch Nails, Rob Zombie, Seether. On the lighter side Hootie & the Blowfish,Great Big Sea, Edvard Grieg, Georges Bizet, Mozart.

My favorite foods: Sushi is the best, but I'll try just about anything. I also love to cook.

My favorite TV shows (not that anyone asked): 24, Smallville, Venture Bros., Heroes, House, and Chuck. Oh, and I love watching Good Eats, so much that I've developed a crush on Alton Brown. Mystery Science Theater 3000, Millennium, Pretender, and Frasier are my favorites of TV shows past.

My Favorite Martian: Ray Walston

My wife, my cats, my house, toilet paper, garlic, & sports.

The nature of existence, the yin and the yang, the light and the dark, the equal and opposite reaction.

Winding down from the work week & going out to eat with my wife and/or friends.

I'm a bisexual quasi-polyamorist, but you'd know that if you read my profile.
I'm a sucker for redheads.
I will call your bluff.

I have only one requirement for people who are thinking about messaging me:

You can respect other people's beliefs even if you don't agree with them. If I read your profile and you openly express hatred or insult a particular person or group, I will ignore you. Pay attention to this, people, there's a hell of a lot more of them on this site than you think.

You can YIM me at bichailatte.