First things first, I want to be clear and upfront about this. I am in an open relationship with my wife, ScarletFoxy. We're both polyamorous and you need to be aware of that. This will not change. Polyamory has been one of the best decisions we've ever made and we couldn't be happier. You are welcome to check out her profile. She is gorgeous, bisexual and very popular. She is also picky, so if she is your type, good luck.
My friend, the-andrew, put it so eloquently that I asked to borrow his words:
"Put simply, the notion that I should demand one person to be responsible for meeting all of my intellectual, emotional, and sexual needs for the rest of my life has always struck me as rather puzzling and--given the divorce and infidelity rates in our ostensibly monogamy-oriented society--broadly unrealistic. While monogamy is a fine choice if that's what truly suits you best, I do believe many people would be happier if they embraced the concept that lifelong monogamy needn't necessarily be a do-or-die goal that defines one's "success" in love and dating. There are many misconceptions about polyamorous relationships, and of course each individual/couple/whatever will define it somewhat differently. In short: Yes, I am free to date and to have whatever sort of deep, meaningful, lasting relationships I choose (and yes, I do seek and enjoy deep, meaningful, lasting relationships). Yes, I am very open about my dating lives with my various partners. Yes, I want my partners to feel free to have as many romantic or sexual partners as they feel is right for them. No, I'm not trolling for casual hookups. No, I am not interested in helping you cheat on your partner. No, I'm not going to try to get you into a threesome, triad, or love tribe of some sort. (If you speak poly-parlance: I'm not unicorn-hunting.)"
I agree with him completely. If you're not interested in dating someone who is poly, that's fine. Please just do me the courtesy of responding to my message with a no thank you. You won't hurt my feelings, I'm a big boy. If you're not interested in dating but think we'd be super awesome friends. That's great too. If you're just curious about the lifestyle, I'd be happy to field your questions as best I can.
If you are still reading this, you're either OK with this lifestyle or you're just entertained by my train wreck of a profile.
**********This marks the beginning of my profile**********
Actually, I don't take myself too seriously. I am almost always laughing and usually at myself. I do know how to be appropriate when the situation calls for it and still practice chivalry. However, most of my filters have eroded away and I may come off as blunt or brutally honest. I recommend only asking questions if you want the truth.
I love learning new things, talking to strangers and going places I've never been. I was born and raised in the San Fernando Valley. I lived in Las Vegas for 3 years working in some of the big theaters. I used to rig for Le Reve at the Wynn. I met my wife in Vegas and brought her back to LA. So I feel like I came back from Vegas a winner.
I am a complete optimist and can find the best in any situation. The phrase I've adopted is "I may not be able to control the world around me but I can control how I react to it." I am not unrealistic but I can't recall the last time I have truly been angry. It really seems pointless. I can also find something attractive in anyone but still don't understand why some make it so hard to find. My current goal is to take complete personal responsibility for my whole life. It's proven difficult to reprogram what society has trained me to believe all these years, but I'm getting much better.
I'm a big guy or so I'm told by people gathering in my shadow. I honestly forget how big I am until I hit my head on something or stand in front of a mirror next to average folk. I'm 6'4 and a fairly solid 250 lbs. So tall girls win extra points with me. Not that I would kick a shorter girl out of bed for eating cookies, but I do have a weakness for height.
I played almost every sport I could in school and now I work out for only 2 reasons: vanity and longevity. My knees and back are grateful. I do enjoy backpacking in the summers and snowboarding in the winters. I got SCUBA certified while I lived in the desert; go figure. I love to swim and enjoy hanging out by the water but avoid too much sun if I can help it. You'll never get me, skin cancer, never!
In fact, I was a jock in high school, a theatre geek in college, a computer geek professionally and now a finance geek. We're all geeks about something.
I am kinky and also on Fetlife (same username, BigBadWuf) but it does not define me. Kinky is not a prerequisite to hang out with me but often a topic of conversation. Some of my best friends are vanilla.
I also have an unnatural love for Disneyland. Going with me is like having your own tour guide. Are you an annual passport holder?
I am a vocal atheist and active in the skeptical movement. I consider faith to be a 4 letter word. I require evidence before I hop on any bandwagons.
I am a chivalrous feminist. No, that is not an oxymoron.
Well, that's a good start. You can ask me questions to fill in the rest.