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40 • Indianapolis, IN • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–52
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Online now!
- 5′ 9″ (1.76m)
- Body type
- Strictly anything
- Trying to quit
- Buddhism, and laughing about it
- Graduated from university
- Sales / Marketing
- Has kids
- English, Spanish (Okay), Italian (Poorly)
I went to IU.. degrees in history, political science, almost a minor in psychology, blah..blah..never worked in area of studies,.. but apply all those fields of study in all aspects of life.. .blahh..blah....I have traveled some what over the years, been to 15+ countries..most of Europe, most of America.. including Alaska.. Pretty cultured and well rounded and knowledgeable of religions & philosophies, cultures ...I use chopsticks like John McCain after years in Hanoi Hilton, blahh..blahh.... I like art, music, movies, interesting people with wit charm, intelligence.
Well, I just got "the dessert of the month" gift club pack recently and I'm looking for someone to share with. Pretty simple & generous of me! Cousin Eddie told me & Clark that "it was the gift, that kept on giving" & would help me, meet nice ladies. I Like girls with most of their teeth, also that didn't graduate high school a BIG PLUS!! Extremely religious & home schooled even a BIGGER PLUS!! If you can fill in the blanks..discern real from contrived...see the wit from the whim..you may have a chance and can hang! I like music & women that have lots of heart, depth, or cleverness(intelligence). I'm looking to meet new friends and go from there.
& soul to higher levels.. lol...I love to go to gym 3-5 times a week.. would love a work out partner.... or someone wanting a trainer.. or someone wiser than me , to train me.. wuff..wuff... I am a trainable dog-fellow.. lol
To pay the bills, I'm a sales manager at the indy office for a larger national roofing - restoration company.
Alan Watts once said " why wake someone from
a wonderful sleep, if they don't want to be awaken?!" Both the sheep, wolves, caring farmer, & occasional passer by that helps or accidentally runs over one of the before mentioned, is
All part of the plan ..& has a role to play.. In this version of the movie !?
and the angel on one shoulder in debate with devil on the other.... The angel reciting mantras while the devil is downing a shot of Crown looking for a pretty girl to hold court with.
I love all types of food, especially Thai, (and all Asian cuisine),
Italian, everything... (I have been to Thailand and Italy, so I
actually know the good from the bad) I like my Sushi very
well-done....steam rolling off it, so well-done.. . Movies, too
many to count.. all Quentin Taratino movies. Burn After Reading, Dewey Cox, Usual Suspects, Red, ...comedies, suspense, dramas, everything, name a movie & I likely have seen it..lol
Music - everything... too much too list, I will update as some people believe much of someone's soul or inner-being is revealed in their taste in music... from U2 to Jay Z, Grateful Dead, Phish to classical, Kenny to Kid Rock, lots of old rock, Linkin Park, The Clash, Clapton and all bands he was in. Just too much to list... The Killers, Bob Marley...too much to list.
"While the story teller speaks, a door within the fire creaks;
Suddenly flies open, and a girl is standing there.
Eyes alight, with glowing hair, all that fancy paints as fair,
She takes her fan and throws it, in the lion's den.
Which of you to gain me, tell, will risk uncertain pains of hell?
I will not forgive you if you will not take the chance.
The sailor gave at least a try, the soldier being much too wise,
Strategy was his strength, and not disaster.
The sailor, coming out again, the lady fairly leapt at him.
That's how it stands today. You decide if he was wise.
The story teller makes no choice. Soon you will not hear his voice.
His job is to shed light, and not to master.
Since the end is never told, we pay the teller off in gold,
In hopes he will return, but he cannot be bought or sold.
Inspiration, move me brightly. Light the song with sense and color;
Hold away despair, more than this I will not ask.
Faced with mysteries dark and vast, statements just seem vain at last.
Some rise, some fall, some climb, to get to Terrapin."
Sports Illustrated, Maxim, Playboy, Hustler, MoPAR, & Mopar muscle, Nascar Monthly, brail Menus, Bar Codes & FDA warnings.
Eckart Tolle, Hemingway, Greg Bradden, Abraham Hicks. Others, mostly non-fiction ...
live without except food, air, and water.... but things I LIKE to
have around: good positive compassionate people that smile a lot
good conversation.... music,
Question: what is the meaning of love?
Answer by Osho; Osho : It depends. There are as many loves as there are people. Love is a hierarchy, from the lowest rung to the highest, from sex to superconsciousness. There are many many layers, many planes of love. It all depen...ds on you. If you are existing on the lowest rung, you will have a totally different idea of love than the person who is existing on the highest rung. Adolf Hitler will have one idea of love, Gautam Buddha another; and they will be diametrically opposite, because they are at two extremes.
At the lowest, love is a kind of politics, power politics. Wherever love is contaminated by the idea of domination, it is politics. Whether you call it politics or not is not the question, it is political. And millions of people never know anything about love except this politics -- the politics that exists between husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. It is politics, the whole thing is political: you want to dominate the other, you enjoy domination. And love is nothing but politics sugar-coated, a bitter pill sugar-coated.
You talk about love but the deep desire is to exploit the other. And I am not saying that you are doing it deliberately or consciously. People are falling in love with horses, dogs, animals, machines, things. Why? Because to be in love with human beings has become an utter hell, a continuous conflict -- nagging, always at each other's throats. This is the lowest form of love. Nothing is wrong with it if you can use it as a steppingstone , if you can use it as a meditation.
If you can watch it, if you try to understand it, in that very understanding you will reach another rung, you will start moving upwards. Only at the highest peak, when love is not a relationship any more, when love becomes a state of your being, the lotus opens totally and great perfume is released -- but only at the highest peak. At its lowest, love is just a political relationship. At its highest, love is a religious state of consciousness. I love you too, Buddha loves, Jesus loves, but their love demands nothing in return.
Their love is given for the sheer joy of giving it; it is not a bargain. Hence the radiant beauty of it, hence the transcendental beauty of it. It surpasses all the joys that you have known. When I talk about love, I am talking about love as a state. It is unaddressed: you don't love this person or that person, you simply love. You are love. Rather than saying that you love somebody, it will be better to say you are love. So whosoever is capable of partaking, can partake.
Whosoever is capable of drinking out of your infinite sources of being, you are available -- you are available unconditionally. That is possible only if love becomes more and more meditative. `Medicine' and `meditation' come from the same root. Love as you know it is a kind of disease: it needs the medicine of meditation. If it passes through meditation, it is purified. And the more purified it is, the more ecstatic.
Nancy was having coffee with Helen.
Nancy asked, "How do you know your husband loves you?"
"He takes out the garbage every morning."
"That's not love. That's good housekeeping."
"My husband gives me all the spending money I need."
"That's not love. That's generosity."
"My husband never looks at other women."
"That's not love. That's poor vision."
"John always opens the door for me."
"That's not love. That's good manners."
"John kisses me even when I've eaten garlic and I have curlers in my hair."
"Now, that's love."
Everybody has their own idea of love. And only when you come to the state where all ideas about love have disappeared, where love is no more an idea but simply your being, then only will you know its freedom. Then love is God. Then love is the ultimate truth. Let your love move through the process of meditation. Watch it: watch the cunning ways of your mind, watch your power-politics. And nothing else except continuous watching and observing is going to help.
When you say something to your woman or your man, look at it: what is the unconscious motive? Why are you saying it? Is there some motive? Then what is it? Be conscious of that motive, bring it to consciousness -- because this is one of the secret keys for transforming your life: anything that becomes conscious disappears. Your motives remain unconscious, that's why you remain in their grip. Make them conscious, bring them to light, and they will disappear.
It is as if you pull up a tree and bring the roots to the sunlight: they will die, they can exist only in the darkness of the soil. Your motives also exist only in the darkness of your unconsciousness. So the only way to transform your love is to bring all the motivations from the unconscious into the conscious. Slowly slowly, those motives will die. And when love is unmotivated, then love is the greatest thing that can ever happen to anybody. Then love is something of the ultimate, of the beyond.
That is the meaning when Jesus says, "God is love." I say to you: Love is God. God can be forgotten, but don't forget love -- because it is the purification of love that will bring you to God. If you forget about God completely, nothing is lost. But don't forget love, because love is the bridge. Love is the process of alchemical change in your consciousness.
The older I get I noticed I am getting a thing for red heads.
Btw, All you fine ladies looking for a "long term relationship" , committed life partner, hubby, The ONE (lol) or whatever...in some permanent concrete relationship that will alwasy be there.. Maybe you should stop thinking like that, and refocus on making new friends, and dating, lovers, someone to hang out with.. etc.. A little more light hearted.. Putting the cart before the horse is always a recipe for disaster. If you can't date someone casually or be a friend, or a lover, how can you possibly be a ball and chain, that isnt a ball and chain.. lol. Btw, the whole "The ONE".. thing is a sick perversion of love from modern movies.. The idea of The One, is buying into illusion you need another to be complete and whole...but there are many The Ones for experiences in this life.
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