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BigFerb

51 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:23am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Law
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm completely unique, just like everybody else.

I'm smart: pretty smart, anyway. Not bragging, it's just what I hear and observe.

I can communicate: have no problem carrying on long conversations on various topics.

I'm kind. I have 3 dogs, all rescues. [update: I lost 2 this year; they were all very old.] I release spiders rather than kill them. I kill mosquitoes though, feel really bad about it.

I'm funny, to me anyway. They tell me my sense of humor is "dry". Most can't tell I'm joking. A few think I'm hilarious. One example: a friend noticing a sun dial on my deck, "Cool, does it work?" Me: "Yes, but it needs new batteries."

My humor can sometimes be "inappropriate." A woman who worked for me once asked what I was doing when I was under her desk connecting something to her computer. I said, "The web cam is out of focus." Once, on a first date as my date was saying good-bye outside her building, I asked, "Are you sure you don't want to invite me up for some sex?" She seemed like the type that would find that funny, and she did.

I'm told I have a fine sense of the silly. I might break into interpretive dance of a good song in a passing car, a cheesy commercial jingle, or the rhythmic beat of an espresso machine steam pump or a washing machine out of balance. Somebody has to show appreciation for serendipitous funk, right?

I'm still a bit of a kid. I spin in my office chair, get "happy feet" when I'm eating something I like, love skipping stones in the surf.

In other ways, I'm pretty much a man. I use power tools and fix things. I can sometimes fix computers. I chop a lot of wood in the backyard -- with only a sledge and wedge (no power tools there, that's cheating).

In some ways, I'm a gentleman. I offer my coat if you seem cold. After 2-3 coat-sharing incidents, I'll probably start bringing 2 coats.

I wear jeans most of the time, but I can look the part in a suit.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, living, parenting.
I’m really good at
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Computers, lifting heavy things, reaching high things, and listening.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall, big, quiet. The next things people usually notice about me is that I'm shy, I'm kind, and I'm funny.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like Terri Gilliam movies.

I read all kinds of stuff but have lately developed a taste for Margaret Atwood.

My musical tastes vary fairly widely, but I have a hard time appreciating country and trite pop songs.

I like all sorts of food, and I can hang with foodies but I'm not one myself. I'm currently trying an Atkins-style diet, so I'm currently eating mostly meat and some veggies.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
How 'bout just 6 things that are kinda important to me?

+ daughter (more than just kinda important)
+ Redwood Regional Park
+ one cafe mocha every morning
+ trees and plants in abundance and constantly threatening to consume my house
+ Cal Bears football (a mercifully limited sports obsession if that sort of thing bothers you)
+ Zachary's stuffed pizza, spinach and mushroom special with pesto, and yes, I know they charge pesto as two toppings (they always ask me that)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Pretty much everything.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The world's smallest giant.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was born with club feet. I love some really sappy love songs from The Carpenters. Ha! I named TWO! How many of you have named two?!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you are so inclined for any reason.