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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18-38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 23
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Post grad
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The simple version is that I am looking for an emotional,
funny, sensual, sexual, and intellectual bond with someone that I actually like. But that's not so simple, perhaps, and I am so in love with that first flush of attraction.

Maybe this is what I need -

There's a pretty long profile down there, but you can skip to the "message me if" bit if you want.

I'm intelligent (though, sometimes not so smart, and always happy to have stupid conversations, as well as deep philosophical ones), well read(ish), a little obscure, creative, well travelled, curious about the world, passionate, grown-up (most of the time), and with a well developed sense of irony about how we make life a container for things.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Sitting in pavement cafés, metaphorical and real, speculating about the inner lives of people around me - what motivates them, what are they into, what's their story? This is more fun in foreign countries where I can imagine that they're not talking about redecorating the kitchen.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Discussing art, history, politics, literature, film, relationships etc, and pushing boundaries of conversation and convention. Oh and a degree of self-awareness which means that I know how that sounds!

Not so good at the stages of life that other people find so easy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been told I have nice eyes in a certain light, and a strong gaze, but damn bluey eyes and myopia.

Oh, and my randomness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Feel free to skip this part, it occurs to me that us liking similar things might be a starting point for friendship, but its not conclusive for that or anything else. But, it might help you get a picture of me :)
I like this quote:

“If you go home with somebody, and they don't have books, don't fuck 'em!”
- John Waters

Some things I've liked based on life so far: Parks & Recreation, Haruki Murakami, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, sitting on a rock dangling my feet into a warm sea, Ella Fitzgerald, Amelie, Peep Show, Frasier, the Big Bang Theory, Pushing Daisies, Charlotte Gainsbourg, Regina Spektor, Britpop, lingering kisses, Guardians of the Galaxy, East Berlin, Rothko, Before Sunset (specifically), aimless wandering, some French cinema and some totally dumb films (the two not being completely mutually exclusive), the Musée d'Orsay, Coeur de Pirate, Kyoto, the Tate, Neil Gaiman, Chekov (both of them!), pierogi, and increasingly rare personal letters.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Art, books, both in terms of substance and the feel of them, travel, coffee, red wine, communication, empathy, and sex, which should never be mundane - exploration can be fun, though not an end in itself.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Love, sex, kinks and fantasies, human relations, "Sex at Dawn" and our failure to fulfil our bonobo potential and the harmony that might come with it...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Open to suggestions.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The things that I'd admit in a profile are a lot less interesting than the stuff that I might otherwise admit, whether cultural, sexual or outlook on life.

Apart from that I may have the same tragic romantic outlook as Gatsby, albeit without the nice pad on Long Island.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Your name is Julie Delpy, Claire Danes, Eva Green, Audrey Tautou, Lea Seydoux, Sophie Marceau, or, um, Sasha Grey. And, just out of curiosity, Miley Cyrus.

But, seriously, if you're intelligent, sensual, sex and culture positive, funny, maybe a bit kinky, and believe that relationships can at their best be our little conspiracy, as we laugh at and yet enjoy the outside world and the people in it, then we might get along ;)

I consider myself fortunate; those that have been significant in my life have all been incredible, in their own ways. I am picky but it's not something that I can define in advance.