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37 London, UK Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:27pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Politics / Government
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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The simple version is that I am looking for an emotional, funny, sexual, somewhat kinky, sensual, and intellectual bond with someone that I actually like. But that's not so simple, perhaps, and I am so in love with that first flush of attraction.

Maybe this is what I need -

I'm intelligent (though, sometimes not so smart, and always happy to have stupid conversations, as well as deep philosophical ones), well read(ish), a little obscure, creative, well travelled, curious about the world, passionate, grown-up (most of the time), and with a well developed sense of irony about how we make life a container for things.

I am genuine in my desires, as you should be, but am not going to put it all out there like a market stall, because connections are individual. I also accept that there are some times where you just don't know in advance what it is that you need.

Also I can't do a shiny advert, without any admission of heartbreak, regret or doubts, because it wouldn't reflect who I am. Still, while I've been in those places, I don't dwell on them (well, not always!).

Anyway, if you look at my responses and tests you might get somewhat of an accurate idea, but please don't hold me to a particular one, as I may have answered that one drunk! Though they do say that alcohol is a truth elixir....
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Sitting in pavement cafés, metaphorical and real, speculating about the inner lives of the people who walk by - what motivates them, what are they into, what's their story? Are they all just people on a conveyor belt, ticking the boxes they think they should tick?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Discussing art, history, politics, literature, film, relationships etc, and pushing boundaries of conversation and convention.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been told I have nice eyes in a certain light, and a strong gaze, but damn bluey eyes and myopia.

Oh, and my randomness.

I'm really glad that the question was about what people notice, as opposed to what I share after a little while.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Feel free to skip this part (except the last bit!), yes, it's one of those lists, and quite a random one of things that popped into my head....but as long as you don't read the Daily Mail that's probably okay.

Lots. Eclectic. But, some things I've liked based on life so far: Haruki Murakami and Japanese culture in general, Mad Men, riverside pubs, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, sitting on a rock dangling my feet into a warm sea, Ella Fitzgerald, Amelie, Peep Show, Frasier, Seinfeld, the Big Bang Theory, Goldfrapp, Un Coeur En Hiver, the Eurostar, Pushing Daisies, Jazz (though I don't know much about it), Charlotte Gainsbourg, Regina Spektor, Britpop, lingering kisses, East Berlin, Rothko, Before Sunset, aimless wandering, some French cinema and some totally dumb films (the two not being completely mutually exclusive), autumn colours on Hampstead Heath, the Musée d'Orsay, Vinohrady, the Hakone Open Air Museum, Kyoto, the Tate, Neil Gaiman, Cervantes (in principal), pierogi, and increasingly rare personal letters.

But this is just a snapshot of the present. You always need to keep moving. Bikram Yoga's an interesting thing. I consider it offsetting, but it's difficult and I might like a partner in crime there to keep me motivated! But not one who is 100% pure.

Yet this stays with me:

And now this -

It's too soon to say whether this will be one of my favourite films. But, it is just so true about relationships; it is harsh at the same time that it is (bitter)sweet and funny. I could relate to each of the three protaganists from episodes at different point in my life. I thought it was wonderful, and the thought of the space really hit me. And the clip really encapsulates the sense of it. It's an adult film, as in grown-up - not that there's anything wrong with the other kind!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Art, books, both in terms of substance and the feel of them, travel, coffee, red wine, music (not an Ipod though - I can't close myself off like that), touch, communication, empathy, possibility, and the obvious, but that should never be mundane - exploration can be fun.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Trying to make sense of things, love, sex, kinks and fantasies, human relations, the next joke...and the fact that I went out with someone but not via OKC, and then looked at her profile here, and well the percentages are not everything...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing different things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The things that I'd admit in a profile are a lot less interesting than the stuff that I might admit in person or via email, whether cultural, sexual or outlook on life. So, nothing to see here.
You should message me if
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Your name is Julie Delpy, Claire Danes, Eva Green, Audrey Tautou, Sophie Marceau, or, um, Sasha Grey, and you resist creeping mundanity.

Otherwise, if you're attractive, intelligent, sensual, funny, romantic, creative, perhaps a bit kinky, and if you seek adventure and intimacy, mentally, emotionally and physically - and believe that relationships can at their best be our little conspiracy as we laugh at and yet enjoy the outside world and the people in it.

Apart from that (um!) I don't have a set type, or connection, though that doesn't mean that I'm not extraordinarily picky. Though it's not necessarily what you might imagine; different people inspire me in different ways. And I've based the age filter on that. It's not what you might think.

Update: I had not expected so many nice messages, I will try to respond when I can!