48 Brooklyn, NY
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
Inquisitive, funny, optimistic, compassionate, sometimes irreverent, progressive. Comfortable with myself. ENFJ.

I'm a native East Coaster who studied in southern France, served pizza in London and spent 11 years in the midwest doing social justice work, teaching and alternately freezing and defrosting. When I packed up and moved to New York, I breathed in the air, the pace and diversity and knew this was home. After two decades here I still have a crush on NYC.

My contradictions:
I'm a planner with a spontaneous streak.
I feel strongly about my beliefs and love when someone teaches me something new and/or helps me shift my thinking.
I am a lover of language and words. And silence.
Creativity feeds me. Currently taking photos (with slide film) and assembling those slides into lampshades. Nothing like images of Brooklyn illuminated in a dark room! Yet, I don't consider myself a photographer.
I'm very nice. I'm direct (tactfully honest, not rudely so).
I've got my shit together and I'm still working on getting my shit together.

I'm looking for a strong, long lasting, passionate and supportive relationship where we lean on each other, grow together, and can't wait to see each other. As we know, chemistry has the final say for the most part. Just to put it out there, humor = very hot.

In case you were wondering:
Yes, I've been dunked in a dunk tank while impersonating a police officer and I once saved the life of someone who choked on a plastic frog.
What I’m doing with my life
I run an educational consulting firm that mostly focuses on social and emotional support for youth. Incredibly passionate about what I do.

Raising my hilarious and awesome daughter when she's with me (half the time). Lately we've been skateboarding.

Attending a few MeetUps, doing DIY projects, practicing mindfulness meditation and sweating through hot yoga.

I'm not petting tigers or elephants, unlike a lot of women on OkCupid. Call me non-conformist..

And, as is evidenced by this profile, I'm looking for you.
I’m really good at
Looking on the bright side, making mistakes, learning from said mistakes, Boggle, making others laugh and laughing at myself. Forgetting where I parked the car. Kissing. Whispering secrets in French.
The first things people usually notice about me
Here's what I hear:

"You've got great energy"

"I feel so comfortable with you"

"Wait, that really happened?!"

"Your (sic) nice and pretty" (written by an 8th grader on her workshop feedback form)

"You're the best mom in the world!" (usually exclaimed following the purchase of a dessert item).

"Hi Angel. You've got great _____" (OkCupid messages. Sigh.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've thought a lot about this section. Music, books and films have both saved my life, changed how I see myself and the world, and have given me pure pleasure. The truth is that similarities in this section aren't the deepest predictors of a successful relationship so my lists are short.

I'm continually looking for that next experience where I can get lost in a book, gain insight, or dive into another world. I love non-fiction and fiction alike. I just finished reading A Little Life. A few authors: Erik Larsen (Devil in the White City), Cheryl Strayed, Kafka, Zinn, Gladwell, Jhumpa Lahiri, Murikami, Ta-Nehisi Coates.

Am a big fan of food. Recently decided to become a vegetarian and/but don't at all mind if you aren't. I'll find something I like at a steakhouse, burger joint or late night diner. (Note- bacon, I miss you).

Shows: The Americans, Breaking Bad, The Wire, BSG, Inside Amy Schumer, Orange is the New Black, Transparent, (loved Colbert Report/ Stewart).

Am a total nerd for TED talks, This American Life and Radio Lab.

Music has always been a love of my life. While I have favorites (from reggae to funk, W. African to punk) I like to explore new music and am open to almost anything (although I'm not a big fan of opera).

Films: The Big Short, Intouchables, La Haine, Birdman, Crazy Sexy Love, Grand Budapest Hotel, Les 400 Coups, Silver Linings Playbook, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Exit Through the Gift Shop, Blue is the Warmest Color. Trainwreck was hilarious.
The six things I could never do without
Family, emotional and physical intimacy, my glasses, belly laughs, social justice, great friends who love me enough to tell it like it is. Music and chocolate (best when paired).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can best make a difference.

Its's 8:59! Which side is the car parked on?!

Is this yoga pose supposed to look like this?

On a typical Friday night I am
Eating out or having a few friends over, at a hot yoga class, seeing a film or occasionally going dancing when I can rally some friends to join me.

Alternately, relaxing at home with a cup of tea and a good book, a fun project or Netflix/ Amazon Prime. Ok, sometimes I catch up on work...

Looking forward to hearing from you.
You should message me if
You prefer face-to-face over virtual relationships/ texting relationships
You value self-awareness and communication.
You want to laugh. I will make you laugh.