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47 Brooklyn, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

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5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'd describe myself as confident, funny, optimistic, cerebral, and self-aware. Lover of social justice. A bit of a rebel. ENFJ. I'm looking for a long term relationship that's full of fun, laughter, intimacy, and having each others' back.

I was born and raised in the East Coast, and spent 11 years in the freezing midwest. I also studied and accumulated passport stamps from my home base in southern France, and served pizza in London. After all that, I moved to New York seventeen years ago, breathed in the air, the pace and diversity and knew this was home.

Here in the BK, I taught HS for a bunch of years, then decided to start an educational consulting firm eight years ago. It's been pretty amazing being an expert (education) and a novice (at business) simultaneously.

I have a daughter who rocks my world. Her father and I have a friendly relationship and she spends 50% of her time with him.

I've created a bit of a bucket list for the summer and am enjoying checking the items off the list (checking out a rooftop film, kayaking, seeing stand-up comedy, eating delicious food, dancing, attending MeetUps, doing DIY projects, traveling, jogging, meditating, working on the book I'm trying to write).

Sitting on the stoop with a cup of iced green tea and a great book is also a frequent occurrence.

And, in case you were wondering:
Yes, I've been dunked in a dunk tank while impersonating a police officer.
I once saved the life of someone who choked on a plastic frog.

As we know, chemistry has the final say for the most part. Just to put it out there, humor = very hot.
What I’m doing with my life
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For work (and pleasure) I run an educational consulting firm that focuses the aspects of education that I feel most passionate about: youth voice/power, social and emotional learning, engagement and positive school culture and climate.

I find that time flies and I'm in the moment when I'm doing some DIY project (usually on the small, creative side like making lampshades out of slides/ photos I shot in Bklyn or making hanging candle holders for my back yard)

Of course, there's nothing better than hanging with my daughter when she's with me (50%) and our adorable cats (Toast and Bagel).

I've accomplished a lot of what makes me happy/stable (own a home, love my career, have a great kid) so my focus is on staying present and enjoying it.

Currently, I'm using the hell out my back yard.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking to my cats in French, reading a room, looking on the bright side. Making people laugh, Laughing at myself. Random DIY projects.

I have a strange mind reading capability that only presents itself when playing Taboo or Cranium! You want me on your team.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Recently I was on the beach and this guy tried, unsuccessfully, to sell me some jewelry. When he stood up to leave, he told me that I had "the most positive energy". Maybe the term "energy" is the new buzz word or something, but, I swear, people talk about my open or positive energy about 2x a month.

I know this is a total cliche but I also honestly get a lot of comments about how young I look.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Shows: I probably watch about 1-2 hours of TV a week. Given that, I really like(d): Transparent, The Colbert Report, Breaking Bad, Parenthood, The Wire, BSG (up until the very end when it suddenly sucked), Inside Amy Schumer, Orange is the New Black. Just binged watched the third season of House of cards.

Am a total nerd for TED talks and This American Life.

A few books:
Non-fiction: Carol Dweck (Mindset), Malcolm Gladwell (Blink), Paul Tough (Why Children Succeed), Franz Fanon (Wretched of the Earth), Anne Fadiman (The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down), Erik Larson (Devil in the White City).

Fiction: Jonathan Tropper (This is Where I Leave You was HILARIOUS), Cheryl Strayed (Tiny Beautiful Things), Kingsolver, Kafka, Alice Munro, Eugenides, Lots of others...

Food: cheese (stinkier the better), kale, Caramel Cone ice cream, Doubles and Bake (delicious Trinidadian food), kimchi pancakes, avocados, Cheese Fondue, Ethiopian food, pain au chocolat. The majority of my meals are vegetarian, but I do love (grass fed) steak and, of course, bacon.

Music: The Coup, Kool and the Gang, Johnny Cash, The Clash, Fela, Fugazi, P Funk, Ali Farka Toure, Toure Kunda, Tanya Stephens, Stevie Wonder, Luciano, Lykke Li, Carla Bruni, MC Solaar, Steele Pulse, Soulive, Al Green, Alabama Shakes, Everything but the Girl, Ok Go, Zero Seven, TV on the radio, The National, Red Baraat, Replacements.

Films: going for genres here- Foreign (Blue is the Warmest Color), Documentaries (Exit through the Gift Shop), Drama (Intouchables, Birdman), comedy (Crazy, Sexy Love, Grand Budapest Hotel, Silver Linings Playbook), I also liked American Hustle and August: Osage County
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter, lactose pills, laughs, emotional and physical intimacy, self-awareness/growth, great friends who love me enough to tell it like it is.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I might have done to cause the OkC bot to call me less suave! So untrue!

My car recently died so I find myself alternately snickering at alternate side parking signs, which I can now ignore, and missing sliding into the driver's seat to head up Route 87 into nature...

How can I best make a difference.

Whether I should become a vegetarian again.

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Like all of you, it depends on my energy.

When I'm hanging out with friends we're likely laughing, eating, out in Bklyn or the City (seeing a film, going to an event like First Saturdays, having a drink or playing a sport like shuffleboard, bowling or pool.) Sometimes I walk to a friend's place or have folks over. On occasion: game night, dancing, a Meet Up where I can speak French.

Sometimes I choose to hang solo which means making dinner, reading, and/or watching that one show I'm following at the time. Sometimes I work on some fun DIY project. I recently have taken up jogging and love to run through the neighborhood at dusk.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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On occasion, I pretend to be working from my home office when I am really "headquartered" at Spa Castle.
You should message me if
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You want something real. and fun.