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47 Brooklyn, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:32am
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Has a kid
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'd describe myself as funny, optimistic, confident, compassionate, brainy, communicative, and insightful. Lover of social justice. A bit of a rebel, fantastic team player.

One level deeper:
1) I am pretty sure I can beat you at Boggle. 100% chance you will crush me at Trivial Pursuit.

2) Although I like having a drink or two, I am best matched with someone to whom (my) drinking is not that important. No negative history with drinking- my body just registers alcohol as a liquid sleeping pill and makes me want to take a nap. I'm super comfortable at a bar and having drinks with friends (I enjoy both) but won't be drinking you under the table or even more than 3 inches toward the end of the table...

3) I'm really interested in thinking about about race, justice and that kind of stuff. I'm not going to bring a picket sign into the bedroom or anything. I'm super open minded and don't mind if we disagree about some stuff. Just want to let you know that it's important to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Most importantly, raising my incredibly awesome daughter.
(She's with her dad about 40% of the week. He and I have a very amicable relationship, so no drama there.)

Running an educational consulting firm that helps schools become positive places where kids feel valued, respected and want to be.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking to my cats in French, tricking my kid into eating vegetables, reading a room, looking on the bright side. Laughing at myself.
I just started meditating so I'm not that good at it yet, but it's been really good for me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Green eyes, smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Shows: I watch very little TV but really liked Transparent, The Colbert Report, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Parenthood, The Wire, BSG (up until the very end when it suddenly sucked), Inside Amy Schumer, House of Cards, Orange is the New Black.

Am a total nerd for TED talks.

A few books:
Non-fiction: Carol Dweck (Mindset), Malcolm Gladwell (Blink), Paul Tough (Why Children Succeed), Franz Fanon (Wretched of the Earth), Anne Fadiman (The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down), Erik Larson (Devil in the White City).

Fiction: Jonathan Tropper, Kingsolver, Kafka, Alice Munro, Eugenides, Lots of others...

Food: cheese (stinkier the better), kale, Caramel Cone ice cream, Doubles and Bake (delicious Trinidadian food), kimchi pancakes, avocados, Cheese Fondue, Ethiopian food. The majority of my meals are vegetarian, but I do love (grass fed) steak and, of course, bacon.

Music: The Coup, Kool and the Gang, Johnny Cash, The Clash, Fela, Fugazi, Fleshtones, Fugees, P Funkadelic, Ali Farka Toure, Toure Kunda, Tanya Stephens, Stevie Wonder, Black Keys, Black Starr, Luciano, Lykke Li, Carla Bruni, MC Solaar, Steele Pulse, Soulive, The Specials, Alpha Blondy, Al Green, Alabama Shakes, Everything but the Girl, The Jam, Buzzcocks, Ok Go, Zero Seven, TV on the radio, The National, etc.

Films: going for genres here- Foreign (Blue is the Warmest Color), Documentaries (Exit through the Gift Shop), Drama (Intouchables, Birdman), comedy (Crazy, Sexy Love, Grand Budapest Hotel), Once in a while, rom-coms (Silver Linings Playbook). I also liked American Hustle and August: Osage County
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter, lactose pills, laughs, emotional and physical intimacy, great friends who love me enough to tell it like it is.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"It's 8:59am. Wait, which side of the street the car is parked on?!??"

That f..'ing hilarious thing that my daughter just said.

I spend more time than I should thinking about neuroplasticity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Like you've likely mentioned, there is no typical Friday. When I choose to hang solo I usually make dinner, read, and/or watch that one show I'm following at the time. Truth be told, I sometimes work (especially if I've played hooky during the day).
Sometimes I work on some fun DIY project.

With friends I go to/make dinner, see films or plays, check out a show, or hang with a group at someone's house...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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On occasion, I pretend to be working from my home office when I am really "headquartered" at Spa Castle.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you want a "partner in crime". ONLY KIDDING:
1) I don't really want to commit crimes with you. I'd rather just date you if that's ok with you.
2) If I did want a partner for crime purposes, I probably wouldn't advertise that on a dating site. Oh, unless it went under the "The most private thing I am willing to admit" section.