Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
4/11/2013 update: This is all kinda old. Haven't updated in quite
some time. Right now largely working on regaining my
self-confidence after some emotionally rough times that sucked the
wind out of my sails (to mix metaphors :) ). _R_
I'm a warm, wide-open (perhaps less than I think I am) person and a
perpetual optimist--often to my detriment. Very visually-oriented
and a bit distractable, I'm one of those people who get captured by
the play of shadow on a wall, intertwining vines crawling up a
tree, etc. Unsurprisingly, I'm mainly an artist in the non-work
world and my daughter seems to have picked up on that. She draws
more than I ever did at that age. Ask me for a link to a web page
of my art
and pastels) if interested. I'm also very into music (playing and
listening), sometimes play too many video games with my kids, and
enjoy most outdoor activities (camping
, etc.). I also tend to have serial
passionate hobbies where I immerse myself in a subject until I
reach at least a level of competence.
I am artistic, eclectic, and loving
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The past eight years or so has been a time of major change for me.
Most of it has been a time of growth--some of which was
much-needed--but at times I wonder how often pain is a necessary
ingredient for growth. I hate to think so but it feels like it at
times. In the process of all this I'm figuring out some things that
are very important to me in relationships: honesty, openness,
kindness, respect, trust, ability to commit (if relevant),
connection, balance, and, most importantly to make it all work,
communication. I know what I want in the long run but I'm still
figuring out the short-term.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Art, looking at things from a unique angle, and cuddling,... :)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'd think it might be my (green) eyes or that I smile or laugh
easily--which doesn't come across in posed photos--but I don't
really know. I'll have to ask.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I mainly read science fiction
for fun and
serious. But, at any given time, i could be reading anything. I was
called "Bookworm" as much as my given name when I was little. I
listen to most types of music--except for what passes for R&B
these days--but lately have been listening to Apocalyptica
a lot (4 Finnish
cellists playing metal covers). I play guitar and bass and, to a
lesser degree, keys and drums. Recently my 14-year [now 16] old son
came down and jammed with my band. It was neat seeing the groove
finally kick in--you could almost see the light turn on. [Band
broke up since I wrote that and I'm now looking for another
interactive musical outlet again.] I love almost all Asian foods
(and foods from many other cultures) and like to cook, particularly
others--whether they're helping or just talking to me--while having
a glass of wine, a good beer, or a very dry martini.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My kids, love, companionship, touch, art, music, and nature. (7)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The intersection of evolution and environment and its effects on
human behavior. Even though it often doesn't matter, I'm fascinated
with trying to figure out why people do what they do. I often can't
understand it. And I'm amazed how people can hold extremely
contradictory views/emotions/... in their minds--cognitive
dissonance--yet their brains don't explode. (I see it in myself and
I see it in others.) And an obvious related observation that keeps
popping up for me is how people view the world so myopically. For
example, when something that is likely to elicit an emotional
response is described to someone, how rarely they're able to think
outside their emotional boxes (cages?) and be able to see it from
the speaker's point of view. Likely because, in everything that we
do, we effectively filter it through our past experiences. It would
be so much easier if we could read minds. (And wouldn't that
seriously change society!) :)
[6/10 addition] While I think that theoretically polyamory is an
ideal for the sexes to interact, I think both evolutionary and
environmental vestiges tend to get in the way. Humans seem to be on
the cusp between monogamy and polysomethingorother and it tends to
cause conflicts in every culture that I've been able to research.
While I'm curious about poly aspects, I have no problem being
monogamous (and likely prefer it--but then I've never been in a
relationship with sufficient trust/security to explore the other
much. In the long run, no matter what, I prefer "until death do us
part." I have no interest in having serial/sequential partners.]
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depending on which week it is, I'm usually either home with my kids
or meeting friends for a drink [less likely lately].
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It's not really a private thing but something folks should
know--I'm a horrible housekeeper (but I'm (agonizingly slowly)
working on it). (And I think parenthetically (as well as like to
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Pick one or more: You're nice/kind/warm. You're honest. You're
quirky but sane. You like, or at least understand, oblique humor.
You're open-minded and non-judgmental. You have a zest for life but
like comfort too. You're fun to talk with. You feel like it. You
have any questions. (I'll answer almost anything as honestly as I
Note: I am not interested in a long-distance romantic relationship.
I'm not sure what my distance barrier would be but 1000 miles was
waaaaaaaay too far for a sustainable long-term relationship as I
Note 2: I show as online much of the time because I rarely shut
browser tabs and they're open either here or at work or both. Don't
take it personally if I don't respond quickly.
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