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42 M Sylmar, CA

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Black, White, Other
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
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Christianity, and very serious about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has a kid, and wants more
Likes dogs
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
[This couple, right here! They seriously help define the whole point behind my profile.]

So...feel free to grab some tea & a comfy seat, 'cuz this here's a long'un. [The twitter-addicted are welcome to hit the bold text.] (A word of warning: you're either gonna love it or hate it; I'm okay with either, frankly. If you don't read all the way to the end, though, you're missin' out. Just sayin'...)

Now, lemme just say up front: I am a real, fun-havin' fella! However, when it comes to finding my Better Halfl, I'm compelled to be serious as a heart-attack.

If there's a single thing I'd want you to glean from this profile, it wouldn't be an impressive photo or witty line. It would be The Main Thing. What is that, you ask? Whelp...the absolute most important thing I can possibly convey to you is that there is a God Who is intrinsically Holy & that, in contrast, we humans are inherently unholy. For sinful us to be reconciled to Holy Him (with all the immeasurably gracious privilege that entails) and to avoid His undeniably just & righteous wrath, we must Believe the Gospel of Jesus Christ & repent of our sins. (Yes, I did just use the "S" word. And I know...seriously harsh stuff! But true, nonetheless.)

Frankly, I'm saddened by the number of women whose profiles audaciously bear the "Christian" label...and yet - in the self-same profile - give not even a hint of genuine love for Christ or zeal for His Glory. Apparently, many professing Christians seem to think it's a necessity to prove just how "normal" they are with pics of "Cleavage & Courvoisier." (...Or kissing Times Square's Naked Cowboy...or fondling the NYSE bull's nads) What a way to represent the One Who paid for your life with His Own!

Common refrains I've read are, "I'm passionate about [this or that]," or "I'm a fun-lovin' person." Others state that only guys who recognize some line in a movie or favor a particular show are qualified to pursue. Really? Passion & fun are easy. Pop culture flares & fades. But, the woman in pursuit of God's Glory, who's passionate about His Holiness? That's a gal who is herself worthy of pursuit.

Put another way: how can '...and laughing about it', '...but not too serious about it', or even '...somewhat serious about it' be a summary of your Christian Faith when countless thousands of God's children have been martyred throughout history (& still tens of thousands yearly) for the Faith "once for all delivered to the saints?" (Jude 1:3) Being a Christian is sorta like being pregnant; one either is, or isn't.

Having said alla dat...the bottom line really is Christ. It's in Him that we live & move & have our being. Without Him, there IS no Christianity. Indeed, there is nothing.

I know...intense, huh? Yeeep, Truth tends to be like dat.

Whelp...on to lesser things, shall we?

So, my ethnicity is "Afro-Italo-mericano." (Sounds like a Starbucks drink, I know. But really, who cares about all the hy-phuh-nay-shuns?) Born and raised in Minneapolis, I've lived in several US states, Germany and Hong Kong. But am quite happy to be settled for several years now in LA's San Fernando Valley.

Though I can be fiercely ideologic, I can also be insanely goofy! Friends would say I'm: a straight clown sometimes, pretty smart, a good listener & decent conversationalist. After meeting me, most people aren't all that surprised to learn that I originally moved to LA to be an actor. (However, that part of my life is long behind me.)

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A word on communication: My purpose for joining this site is singular; I'm a marriage-minded guy seekin' a Christ-lovin' gal for some "weddi-fi-cay-shun." (Which means I'm not merely seeking a "life-enhancing partnership" ...marriage was designed for a much greater purpose than that.) With that in mind, I welcome your "nudge" (admittedly, I do sometimes skim profiles a bit too quickly; a subtle suggestion to "revisit" can be helpful). However, please don't take offense if I don't respond. (c: (I beg you to understand that I don't mean to slight you one bit. But, I'm certain of what I seek, am very purposeful with my use of this site & may as well not waste time for either of us. I trust you'll graciously accept (or at least respect) this.)

Also, I respect others' preferences, so (for instance), this 40-something daddy won't be contacting those who state they prefer 28 to 38 year-olds or aren't mature enough for kids...

About the Visuals: Christian ladies, I sincerely hope the LORD sends you a Godly, Servant-Leader man who will be ALL about your GOOD & about God's GLORY!

Speaking of God's Glory: do you think it ever wise to represent Him with a lack of modesty ("generous" skin, cleavage, "painted-on" clothing, swimwear, legs agape, etc., etc., etc.)? Think about it: Believers are called to minister to each other in love. What is ministry but service to others, to promote their holiness? Do you demonstrate to your Bros in Christ (or non-Believers, for that matter) that you actually care enough to point them to Christ & away from the sensual imagery with which our culture daily bombards them?

Some of you professing Believers need to re-think exactly how posting needlessly tempting pics is supposed to help differentiate you from those who don't give a rip. Or perhaps be true to who you really are & simply drop the Christian label altogether. I mean really, that whole prudish sub-culture's just holding you back anyway now ain't it?

Along those lines, I submit -->this video<-- for your consideration. It offers a brief commentary on the history & culture of the Bikini. (I promise it's a safe link!)

Here also is -->an insightful article<-- from a lovely gal who's down in the trenches, fighting the good fight for balance between style & immodesty.

Soli Deo Gloria!
"Norma Normans non Normata"
What I’m doing with my life
Spiritually --and as the Westminster Shorter Catechism reads-- I daily strive to: "glorify God and enjoy him (forever)."

Vocationally, I'm currently attempting the (long, gradual) transition from traditional employment to self-employment.
I’m really good at
The first things people usually notice about me
My respectful, personable, naturally comedic demeanor. (You may not think so after reading this profile ...but, it's true, I tell ya.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A bunch! Ask me this if ever we speak in person...
The six things I could never do without
Since I know That of Which my life consists, there's only One Thing without Which I could not live...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- My sin ...and God's Grace, which is greater!
- Business aspirations; whether or not I will succeed.
- Marriage; whether or not I'll ever find a beautiful, Christ-lovin' gal (...who can roll wit' me 'an all my "stuff").
On a typical Friday night I am
Round the campfire singin' "Kumbaya" with a bunch o' Lawrence Welk's band members.


These days I'm actually at work Friday nights. (Praying for change on that front.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit that I rehearse conversations. I could be rehearsing right now what I'm gonna say to you. :-P Some say it's akin to talking to oneself (how they usually word it is: "man, you're koo-koo for Cocoa Puffs!"). But I beg to differ.

And, of course, I rehearsed all o' dat.

Also: I think the whole "ratings system" on the quick-match page is a total waste of time; I wouldn't bother with it.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 27–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
Actually, I'd prefer to initiate that. However...IF you dig what you've seen here - and IF the following are true - then feel free to add me as a fave or something simple like that. I'll take the hint & proceed as inclined. (C:

(Now...if you find yourself feeling absolutely compelled to initiate contact, then please, please, please at least wait 'til you've actually read this entire spiel, first. It's about the least you can do to reward a Brotha for his efforts! This profile didn't write itself...and it didn't get written in a single, brief sitting. (C:)

With that said, I'd love to find a gal who isn't:
_quick to call herself 'awesome'. I mean, come on; what is'at?

...but who is:
_martyr-ready for Christ;
_proactively health-conscious;
_mature (enough to be a "step-mom?");
_modest (as in: "sexy" is a lover's secret, not for public showing);
_connected (not a fan of "perpetual peregrines;" have a history of being plugged in to a local church body)
_Likes the outdoors ...& ain't afraid of beards or bikes. (C:

Also, it would be helpful if you understand that marriage to a great guy isn't meant to be added to your life like the ultimate accessory. Instead, It was designed to reflect the mystical union between Jesus Christ and His own Bride, the Church. Hence, the chief goal of marriage isn't our "happiness;" it's God's glory. Happiness - as most define it - is a fringe (& ofttimes elusive) benefit & isn't a great basis for a marriage commitment. (A reality of which most divorcées may have a better grasp.)

Lastly (I know, "whew!" huh?), On political ideology: I'm not one to be more zealous for this or that political candidate than I am about Christ the soon-coming King! With that said, I am convinced "the times they are a-changin'"...and not for the better.

History shows that "empires" (aka: globally influential nation-states in modern times) have an average shelf-life of 250 years. Several have been much longer, but, historic trending reveals a general shrinking of these time-frames. The chief catalyst of decline for nearly all such political entities has been their social decadence. Need we say more here?

If you're clueless about the general direction in which human society is headed, or simply don't care, then I urge you to think twice about whether or not you're even ready to be married, 'cuz it's overwhelmingly likely your marriage will not be enjoying the kind of easy circumstances we here in the west have known in recent history.

So, I honestly need a girl (a hardy gal) who isn't completely ignorant of this fundamental reality (or worse, in denial of them) & who will ready herself for the difficulties they may portend.

Is that you? If so, then...okay, you can email me now. <(C: